*shagging*

my regards to BoB!

He says "Hi" back...

He really does have an electrifying voice.

I know. Powerful, right?

In..DD..eed!

Yes, I will consider it...

In this regard, I am thinking in an old school sense. I don't think I would because it would be very disrespectful to a woman. I have done it, but not felt very good afterwards. Especially with all of these diseases and other stuff going on. I would not want to find myself in a position where I would have to explain things. I skip that part of this!

I always like when the date runs so late, you just fall asleep together....and wake up with no regrets....

Nah..very rung,but its also possible anyway..no time 2check time my dear

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I could say no ... but I really can't say ... will all depend on the other person on my first date... I am with ... other first dates been no ...

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Absolutely not. I don't see anything wrong with casual kissing, maybe, on the first date, but definitely not sex on the first date lol.

And don't rush into sex.

When it is ok to have sex? Depends on your age and personal feelings. If you're eighteen and a virgin, you will want to wait until you are in a committed relationship. If you're thrty-nine, waiting a month or two can be fine. Of course, if you feel strongly against premarital sex, you should wait until you're married. If he loves you, he'll respect whatever decision you make.

but don't be surprised if the man you're dating gets very angry when you kiss him goodnight at your door at the end of your second date rather than invite him in your place for a drink. He has probably been spoiled by other women who slept with him on the first or second date, and now he feels he's being denied this pleasure. But don't worry. Anger indicates interest, and you might be surprised, because he will probably call you again!

But what if you like sex a lot too, and denying yourself is just as hard as denying him? Does that mean you can sleep with him on the first or second date? The answer is still no. You will just have to have a bit of self-restraint and character building here, and trust that if you hold off for a few weeks or months, you won't be sorry. Why risk having him call you easy (and think of you that way) when he's talking to his buddies the next day? Better that he be angry and strategizing ways of seducing you on the next date, than moving onto the next girl. Making him wait will only increase his desire, and create more passion when you finally have sex when ever you're ready. Then at least he's thinking about you; you're thinking about eachother. Your body is not being "used", by just every Tom, Dick, and Harry, like some slut. You're not getting a slutty reputation, where guys are thinking they can just come to you for easy sex, and that's all they will come to you for. Not for any substantial relationship.

I know it can be excruciating to put sex off with someone you're attracted to, but you must think long-term here. If cards are played right with both sexes, you can have sex together every night, in a long-term, committed relationship, which actually has genuine love.

Now you might argue that you don't mind having sex with him on the first or second date, and taking your chances, that it's ok with you if he doesn't call again, because you're both grown ups, and you can take your lumps. Most ladies who say this are lying to themselves. Deep down inside, it's not okay with a woman, if she sleeps with a man and he doesn't call, or she hardly ever hears from him again, etc. Every woman wants the man she just slept with to call her, that is, if she really likes him - and hopefully she likes the man she's sleeping with lol. When you sleep with him on the second date, you don't really know if he's going to be a gentleman or a creep. Don't take risks. Wait until you're sure before having sex.

Let's say that now, hopefully you've held off for a while and are ready to have sex with him. First and foremost, stay emotionally cool, no matter how hot the sex gets. If you sleep with a man too soon, a man can get turned off. A man can also get turned off if you talk too much about it in bed. Don't try to exploit the physical closeness of sex to gain emotional closeness, security, and assurances about the future. Wait a good amount of time before you begin to talk about your needs during sex or after sex. Don't be a drill sergeant, demanding that he do this or that. You have to trust that if you relax and let him explore your body like unchartered territory, you will have fun and be satisfied. Being with you in bed should not be difficult or demanding. Don't bring anything -- red lightbulbs, scented candles, or X-rated videos -- to enhance your sexual experience. If you have to use these things to get him excited, something's wrong. He should be excited about just sleeping with you.

While you're snuggling in bed after great sex, is not the time to say, "So, do you want me to make room in the closet for your clothes?" - lol. Or, "I put a toothbrush in the bathroom for you." Don't bring up your future together, not in bed, or out. Men merely want to lie down next to someone they care about when they are feeling strong emotions. Just try to relax and think about nothing.

Don't cling to him if he has to leave that night or the following morning. Be casual and unmoved about the fact that the date is over. With that attitude, chances are he will be the one hanging on. Don't try to keep him there longer by suggesting brunch or sweet rolls and coffee in bed lol. If you do, he'll probably run to the nearest coffee shop for breakfast instead. Instead, go quietly about your business. Brush your hair, your teeth, do some sit-ups and stretches, brew coffee, whatever. Chances are he'll start massaging your shoulders and suggesting morning sex or a great brunch place.

It's only fair that if you're dating a man for a month or two and don't plan to sleep with him for a while, to let him know. Otherwise you're being a tease. On the other hand, what if you're more into sex than he is? If you don't want to feel insecure, then don't initiate sex. After you're in a committed relationship, when you know he is crazy about you, you can occasionally and playfully make an overture.

Last but not least, when ever you do have sex, always use a condom. Don't cave in when a man says, "Just this once." Remember, you take good care of yourself.

BBEyes

Sorry brown eyes but I completely disagree with MUCH if what you just said,

1. I'm not get angry with a woman not sleeping with me in the first date, but unless specifically stated up front, if by week 3, she hasn't slept with me, it's not going to make me more interested, in fact I'd probably read it as she isn't interested in me and I'd move on to someone else.

2. I WANT a woman to tell me what she wants in bed....

hey guys how r u

good points too Isaac. my post is also generally speaking, people can also feel different ways.

If a woman specifically stated up front, that she was waiting for marriage to have sex, and told you she was not going to have sex with you, would you still date her?

Week 3 seems a bit too soon. It may not mean she's not interested in you. Do you have the respect and understanding to wait until a woman is ready and comfortable too? Both have to be ready, not just you. A lot of people do not want to have sex just in 3 weeks of barely knowing someone. People usually like to develop good relationships first, and that takes time; more than 3 weeks lol. There's lots of good reasons for that; unless you're just mainly interested in sex.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with telling eachother what you want in bed either, and how to sexually please eachother. People like different things too, and it also has to do with comfort level.

arrghh can't even sleep... forget about sleeping with someone...