So I'm all about dating and I just have one rule....no intimacy for 90 days.....if a man can't see my worth then he can't have the goods.....I think that's fair ohhh and one prerequisite he has to take me out at least 10 dates for the 90 day rule to apply......

That's fair.....

Am I wrong and do you have any rules that you abide by that you won't break....

Have fun Minglers......

Rules?

I like breaking rules, but that is about as close as I get to having any.

RULE NUMBER ONE

1. there are no rules...

RULE NUMBER ONE

1. there are no rules...

I Dont Like Rules...

90 years for me

you make a guy wait 90 days???



what is wrong with you?

There are no rules, but there is respect and patience. I think this is one of the largest problems in today's dating. It revolves around sex or something of the sexual nature. Why get the prize before the journey has truly began?... And don't mean it as "prize" exactly. Just can't think of a better way of saying it lol. Kind of like putting the carriage before the horse. And if it's that "easy" how then can it be special or sentimental. I think the 90 day rule thing is a good idea :) Would give the two time to actually find out and learn about one another. And that in itself would allow each partner to please each other that much better knowing more of and about the person.

Hell I've made'em wait longer then that lol and the results I found were just as I thought they would be. They got disinterested in me and went on their merry little way. Which is why I didn't just jump in bed with them in the first place, they would have left that much quicker.

Rules or no rules, they can be both ok as long as both parties agree to it..

What counts more is having it clearly understood and agreed to by both at the beginning.. otherwise, you may run into some glitches in your relationship where there's a gap in expectations..

It all comes down what works for each person.. Heck at my age I make my own rules..

And at times are different with each date... Kind of go with the flow.. Well that is if I like where it is going... And if the connection is there..

The gap in expectations in "sex" should have no effect on the relationship itself though. Someone that is pleased emotionally, will then also be please physically with that person. For that's why it's called "making love". No you don't actually "make" it in the bed. You share it and express it to the other. If there's nothing to share or express, then there will be no love making. And if there's no love making, yeah the two may feel pleased at the time being. But they'll always still have that hallow empty space inside of them that "sex" can not fill nor ever will. And then that's where we get people that just sleep around with no remorse.

First thing that comes to mind when someone refers to their body as "the goods" is stuff you buy in a store...Like dry goods, or groceries, or shoes, or clothing, or makeup, or cleaning products, or building material, etc, etc, etc....Second thing is placing time limits and number of dates on attraction and chemistry...I'm not interested in the kind of passion that can be controlled or manipulated or even used to hold someone captive...I go with my feelings and his...If it's there, it's there...Rules became choices the minute I became emancipated, so no rules for me or the men I date.....

It's called standards look it up.....

We are in 2014 we call it goods........goodies...cookies....ice cream......all that.....stay calm...

I think there is a difference in rules and standards. More people today have rules than standards and it's not always how things work out. I suppose everything as it comes tends to work and other times not work. The answer is indefinite.

I do think learning about people is vital before the peen penetration undergoes.

So true..

Yes this is why I stay away from people like this and veer my time elsewhere when I suspect it just isn't there. Why stay in it if it doesn't feel the way it should? People believe they can't get any better but it's so not the case.

(((((Leigh)))))

My point is that I think the art of courting and dating has been lost.

I'm just trying to preserve my standards in this new dating age....

I think it's what you feel comfortable with. But to put a star on the calendar is a bit much. I think if two people are ready it doesn't matter if it's 90 days or 9 days.. If you feel like you want to wait that's what you should do. My ex wife that passed away.. We dated twice and it was beautiful lovemaking.. We lasted years.. So I don't think it sets a precedence soley because time lapses.. But it's really up to you and your love.