Have you? What did you say/do? How did you handle it?

Would you prefer your date to call and cancel? Text? Is it rude not to, in this age of connectivity?



I have been, a couple of times. The first, I called (from an actual payphone in a booth!) and read her the riot act. I was young, impetuous and had a bit of attitude. The second, I was more mature and just wrote it off and moved along. I had more options the second time, but I also felt it was a waste of time to get angry with someone who didn't even care enough to call or cancel.

I have also stood someone up. Well, not intentionally. We had set a date and I was to meet her for drinks, then off to dinner. I was near the end of a work project that was extremely demanding and my client was making last minute changes and it was near our delivery date, so I couldn't just leave. I called and said I would be late, she said it was OK and she understood. Then, I called a couple hours later and told her I didn't think I would get out until the early morning hours. She got rather mad, which was a little understandable, and decided we would not date further. I did call her to apologize later, but even that was not enough for this person.

Never have.
Sounds awful...from either side.

Yeah, that is why I always set a date for something/someplace I would go to anyway

After waiting & realizing I got stood up, I proceed ordering from the menu & called my friends to come hang. I would prefer a simple call / sms rather than being cold & treated as if I don't matter. I went to a happy place & turned off my phone off for the rest of the night.

Good idea, TBR.

But, not all that practical if travel is of significant distance. For example, the next nearest town, bigger than a watering hole, is at least 40 miles from me. Almost as many minutes drive time too. I am also not that familiar with all that is available in that town. Not that I mind exploring, or my own company, but sometimes the mood dampener of plans falling through will taint the place a bit.

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To continue...

Do you worry that something may have befallen them? An accident? Environmental hazard? (I live in wildfire country, and it's the beginning of the season.)

Yes I have been stood up. I sat there at the restaurant feeling like a fool so I ordered a few cocktails and ordered 2 dinners had one boxed up and gave it to a homeless guy outside. The look in his eyes and his heartfelt thank you made me feel better than if I bought a dinner for my no show date.

Then this too should also worried vice versa if there was a terrorist attack at the restaurant. Speaking of terrorism, imagine the self-confidence that person have when there's no show without call / sms. It could drive someone to be insecure about dating again. Anyways, if this was a first date, I won't mind. In the moment, I wouldn't think much of it. I may curse underneath my breath & then, go about being in a happy state of mind.

i've been stood up, but i fell right back down.




i still think it was irresponsible of them to try to stand me up in that condition.








*flippin' cops*

if you have sensible furniture I suppose

Yes, I've been stood up, no apology no phone call. Fortunately I hung out at the bar, met a nice group of guys who I watched the game with and who bought me dinner.

A week later the guy tried to set up another date, I blocked him and moved on.
Hell, it happens.

I've been on the receiving end and the giving end.
The times when it happened there was a legitimate reason.
If it is a lesser occasion you take it in stride.
When he stood me up on my birthday for dinner with a lot of us, I wanted to cry. Even though it really wasn't his fault that things came up and he couldn't make it on time.
I still went to dinner because I couldn't cancel out.
To his credit, he did see me that same evening and spent two entire weeks making it up to me.

I don't think that I've been stood up since college, Back then guys always had the excuse that they were drunk and didn't remember. And in my later life there were tentative dates that fell through. Often alcohol was involved as well.

Since I've been online and not drinking I've had dates with only two people and they both showed up.

Hummm can't say I have been stood up...

I have been promised a date then got blown off cause they decided to go out with someone else... That sucked enough....

No...Whole bunch of no second dates, but I usually trick them into one.

No...whoever does that to someone else these days is douche.

I went on a date and wished that she had stood me up.

would have to actually have date plans to get stood up so since ive never even made date plans I cant say Ive been stood up. unless you count a friend promising a girls night out for my b-day and then changing her mind at the very last minute. That hurt and I spent the next couple hours walking around the sleepy town @ 2 am.

I think that would fall under the category of "ditching". Next thread.

I am too nice to ditch a date. It's peer pressure....I'm far too sensitive.

well you could have made a nice and sensitive excuse to run for the hills