Why doesn't any guys want an actual relationship with a woman that has children????? We are no different than any other woman

so it's the children thats the problem?

What are you talking about no my children aren't a problem......

then why are you blaming them and guys? speaking as a guy, a womans kids are never a point as to whether to date her or not, it's always the woman thats the deciding factor... guys aren't dating the kids, they are dating the mother...

oh trust me i know that but most men are fine talking until i bring up the fact that u
I have three children....

Completely agree moe.

Though my marriage ended after 22 years he married me with 3 small children and helped me raise them. They were never the deciding factor in our relationship.

I have no problem with women who have children. I myself have found that women don't want a man with kids. They want to make a family of there own with a man with no kids. Not have a ready made family already. If you view my profile I say as much. My last girlfriend had 2 kids and I treated them like my own. The problem I guess was me. Plus she said she wasn't ready to be a mother to more then just her own kids.

So in retrospect I think it can be said that men and women who don't have kids don't want a man or woman that does. I am not saying all people are that way but I have seen for myself that it can be that way. Hope this helps.

actually it kinda does because all the guys i have found only want someone without kids and i don't understand because they are fine until i tell them that i have three children

The question is not apropos as its a life style issue. If a person wants a person with kids its a good match but if they do not its unfair to the adult and really horrible for the innocent children who have no business being exposed to adults who have no long term interest in the single parent. The willingness to date a person with a child or more is complex and requires great thought and effort to do so without harming the children who cannot differentiate one adult parent from a prospective next on e thus its best to keep young children segregated from other adults till a relationship is serious and then can include the introduction of the new person otherwise children are harmed with people coming and going and this causes stress and confusion...

Very good point and so often many miss this point. I believe the children should never meet the person you are dating until both parties know it is MORE than just dating.

If you feel you are wasting time dating someone only to find the children are not something they want, then begin telling them that you have children on the first date. Then you will know from the start what that person is looking for or not looking for.

oh i know that's why i tell them while we are talking before anything gets serious but then it's like once i tell them about my children they just don't talk to me anymore

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have a 3 and a half year old beautiful little girl and she is my whole world. I am looking for a beautiful woman such ad yourself with children. Children light up the world I love them they keep u busy and young lol

That is because they are not the one. It will come when it is time. Nothing good in life can be rushed.

Uh, if you are age 22 like your profile says, then a man might not want to get caught up with a woman who has 2 kids who are still in diapers and a third in preschool.

If your youngest is no more than age 2, then it might appear that you are still recovering from your separation from the father of your children. If there is still lots of drama going on, then that may be causing single men to hesitate to be with you.

their dad's have nothing to do with them because they are dead beats and didn't even want them but that's beside the point i raise them by myself and yes i an only 22 and i dohave three children

who a person chooses to date and their preferences is really no one else's business. if someone does not want to date a parent of young kids ...move on and find someone who is a better match

I think others have said it well, its just compatibility

those who aren't interested probably are not at the same stage in their life

I probably wouldn't have wanted to take on a man with kids when I Was in my twenties struggling with my own

now that I am older , I would prefer a man with kids BECAUSE they are more likely to understand the struggle,,,,

,,compatible life stages,,,,

that's become a problems when the kids are adults and they are very disrespectful towards their spouse or partner.their mother kick you of the curb for them, because she baby those children and they are over 21 years of age.the funny thing you are working hard to gives them everything including the mother.

I'm sure that's true for some, but there are absolutely guys out there who won't date women with children.

That being said, it's just a preference. There are also guys out there who want to only date women with children. Guys who will only date divorced women. Guys who will only date women who have never been married.