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As a former senior host in the old MSN Lobby and News chatrooms, shortly after 9/11, I can tell you there were plenty of imposters out there, even in the Groups section. Some would play sympathy cards, the woe is me story, bilking others of gift cards, money, even in one case pot...yes, pot, sent via snail mail. Mostly, though, it was people using the anonymity of the internet to disguise themselves as something they were not. My first marriage had fallen apart, and I had not yet met my second wife (whom I am still with). I was vulnerable, and fell for someone who was not what she pretended to be. I was duped, but it did not cost me anything other than a few pride points. Made me a stronger person, though.
The internet has been a boon to communication and understanding one another, realizing that most people are not all that different. The downside is it has opened the door to those who would take advantage of others. Stay strong! |
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Oh I am fine. I just wanted to hear some stories and see how much you all would tolerate? I have found that I tolerate less as I get older and more experienced but I also dont want to lose who I am Msharmony, you can skype all you want but seriously thats not even enough. Theres so much more that a person can lie to you about off cam anything they can lie about online they can lie about in person,, UNTIL you take the time to get to know them, spend time in different situations and environments with them,,, Yes I do if they are from my home town. I was talking long distance. |
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As a former senior host in the old MSN Lobby and News chatrooms, shortly after 9/11, I can tell you there were plenty of imposters out there, even in the Groups section. Some would play sympathy cards, the woe is me story, bilking others of gift cards, money, even in one case pot...yes, pot, sent via snail mail. Mostly, though, it was people using the anonymity of the internet to disguise themselves as something they were not. My first marriage had fallen apart, and I had not yet met my second wife (whom I am still with). I was vulnerable, and fell for someone who was not what she pretended to be. I was duped, but it did not cost me anything other than a few pride points. Made me a stronger person, though. The internet has been a boon to communication and understanding one another, realizing that most people are not all that different. The downside is it has opened the door to those who would take advantage of others. Stay strong! I agree, I remember those MSN rooms. I remember going to alot of the meet and greets when I lived in Vancouver. Thats when it was easier to meet people. Long gone are those days 
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You bring up a good point there, Candi ;)
A lot of trust has been lost due to scammers. What worries me the most, is how do you tell whose sob story is actually true? How can we tell? We can't. However, I've read an internet article, explaining that lie detectors are going to be put into social networks and dating sites. So thanks so much whoever thought of that lie detector idea. At least with that, people can't con, anymore. It's meant to be happening some time later this year. I can't wait. Take that, all you liars out there. 
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You bring up a good point there, Candi ;) A lot of trust has been lost due to scammers. What worries me the most, is how do you tell whose sob story is actually true? How can we tell? We can't. However, I've read an internet article, explaining that lie detectors are going to be put into social networks and dating sites. So thanks so much whoever thought of that lie detector idea. At least with that, people can't con, anymore. It's meant to be happening some time later this year. I can't wait. Take that, all you liars out there. For real?? Thats a great idea...with all the electronic/ internet developments you would think something could be invented to stop this behavior and even more so ...bust out the identity thieves that seems to be popping up everywhere nowadays. |
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My BS detector is automatically suspicious of people who proclaim to be incredibly attractive with great, high paying careers, hundreds of friends, a highly active social life, isn't shy, and gets along with everybody, yet cannot meet "someone special". Why would my average, or less than average, self be your one chance at happiness?
Reminds me of all those medicine commercials that list the great benefits of their pill but then quickly runs through the 1000 worse than the disease side effects. Be honest, and be wary. And yes, I am here because I am not the most handsome feller, I'm not "HWP", I do not have movie star teeth, I have modest means and things, I do not have lots of friends, I have almost no social life, and 99% of the women I meet are holding someone else's hand while the remaining 1% is either not interested or is not interesting. |
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You are talking too? I came online with good intentions and hoping to present myself as an honest woman. But there are a few who get their kicks out of duping people. Some may present themselves in a way to guarantee tbat a person will be attracted and then blow it all up in your face and admit who they really are later..if thats even true as well. It makes me feel sick (literally) knowing that someone can spend time..sometimes lots of time chatting with you and then they admit they are fakes or admit that they used you to write a book or something stupid like that. Would you ever trust that person again and anything they say? I wouldnt..I was decieved once and once is enough. Sorry to hear of your experience, these people are just scammers in my opinion, even when they don't ask for cash. I met someone online that turned out to be a scammer, wasted a month exchanging emails before I found them out. I am now more careful, lost out with a few people because they said I have trust issues, as far as I am concerned it was cheerio to another scammer and time waster. I am happy to chat with someone in another country, but if they don't have Skype for a video call I am not interested. You can never be sure how genuine a person is even when it's just to chat, but looking at them in the face is better than nothing, there is still going to be some bare faced liars but hopefully not as many. I would put that one far behind you. |
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You are talking too? I came online with good intentions and hoping to present myself as an honest woman. But there are a few who get their kicks out of duping people. Some may present themselves in a way to guarantee tbat a person will be attracted and then blow it all up in your face and admit who they really are later..if thats even true as well. It makes me feel sick (literally) knowing that someone can spend time..sometimes lots of time chatting with you and then they admit they are fakes or admit that they used you to write a book or something stupid like that. Would you ever trust that person again and anything they say? I wouldnt..I was decieved once and once is enough. I agree Candiapples why go to all the trouble and time just to play games with peoples minds.I just can't wrap my head around it.We all have limited time on earth and some waste it this way? No way I ever trust anyone again after they experiment on me. |
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I've been there also, wasted several months then came the scam asking for money. But the sad thing is now I don't trust anyone
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It is no different than the real world...People lie, some of them it is in their nature to do so, a few even do it pathologically.
Online or off, they will still lie. Just more people have access to the internet, so all of those liars, the few I'm sure there are, now have an avenue to access people everyday. Day to day they would still manage the same behavior, it would just be done in different ways. Everyday someone lies to you. |
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It is no different than the real world...People lie, some of them it is in their nature to do so, a few even do it pathologically. Online or off, they will still lie. Just more people have access to the internet, so all of those liars, the few I'm sure there are, now have an avenue to access people everyday. Day to day they would still manage the same behavior, it would just be done in different ways. Everyday someone lies to you. Sorry to say that I agree with you. |
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It is no different than the real world...People lie, some of them it is in their nature to do so, a few even do it pathologically. Online or off, they will still lie. Just more people have access to the internet, so all of those liars, the few I'm sure there are, now have an avenue to access people everyday. Day to day they would still manage the same behavior, it would just be done in different ways. Everyday someone lies to you. Sorry to say that I agree with you. That's the way it is, the way it has always been with the advent of new technology...The phone was no different, wouldn't surprise me if people pulled scams over Morse Code either. Where there is a luxury, there are people who wish to use it to their advantage...Even if it means stepping over people in front of them. I get tired of these complaints... |
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Hang in there. There are some good people on the Forums.
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It is no different than the real world...People lie, some of them it is in their nature to do so, a few even do it pathologically. Online or off, they will still lie. Just more people have access to the internet, so all of those liars, the few I'm sure there are, now have an avenue to access people everyday. Day to day they would still manage the same behavior, it would just be done in different ways. Everyday someone lies to you. Stop lying. |
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It is no different than the real world...People lie, some of them it is in their nature to do so, a few even do it pathologically. Online or off, they will still lie. Just more people have access to the internet, so all of those liars, the few I'm sure there are, now have an avenue to access people everyday. Day to day they would still manage the same behavior, it would just be done in different ways. Everyday someone lies to you. Stop lying. 
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