If you say you in love..u around 24 years old and often change ur mind about whether or not u want to get marry..if your girl gives you an ultimatum and breaks up with you...what do u do???!!

You move on. Its that simple.

We talking about a 3 years 1/2 relationship..do men really just move on after that or they some how try again??!!

Dude, if you have been playing games with a woman's heart, then you need to move on instead of trying to keep playing games.

Date her hotter sister
lessons have to be taught
she taught you one (it was that you are not in love, never have been with her, never will be)
fair is fair so they say...though I have no idea who "they" are.

Your just not ready for her at this moment in time
Which means you were never ready for her, not now or in the future

Love does not simply appear,
It cannot be forced
It is simply there, or not, that is why tis so rare.
Therefore, your are not in love
merely alone like many of us
we all handle it differently

Some people cannot go without the company of another for a few days. or weeks, or months.

it is simply time for her to move on.

Throw a party! I ain't going to be forced into something I don't want!

I have 0 tolerance for ultimatums.
I don't give them, and definitely don't take them.
Someone gives me an ultimatum, they will get exactly the opposite of what they want.

Fresh start is one option, rather than get married and divorce few years down the road or until he start cheating on you because he was kind of forced to get married...Just my opinion.

ultimatum vs choice vs enlightenment


its all in how its delivered

for instance, if I Were tired of playing at a commitment without the marriage and I put it


either you marry me or I will leave,,,,
ULTIMATUM (who wants to start a marriage that way?)

if instead I Say

we could keep going this way or we could get married, what do you think?
CHOICE (that leaves it open for honest discussion)


if instead I say


I just am not able emotionally to hang on to this without knowing where its going, if we don't come to some decisions soon, I think I will have to walk away
(enlightenment, no question asked, just honest expression of personal feelings)




in all cases, for me, an ULTIMATUM about a relationship will automatically ignite the EXACT opposite of whatever the person wants,,,cause I don't want them coming back to say they did something only 'because', Id rather decisions be genuine and heartfelt,

really? and you have to ask? why did you waste 3.5 years on someone you don't want to marry? either marry her or don't, not a big problem...

Sorry about your break-up, but if she decided that it is time for you to commit after 3 and 1/2 years I can't say I blame her. It's make your mind up time. You need to buy her a big diamond ring and pop the question, it's Valentines day soon an ideal time to propose marriage and win back her heart.

I'm not sure I'd advise going off with her best friend, as there can be backlash, and her friend could end up falling out with her. That kinda crap is just an excuse to keep the ex in your life. If you're gonna cut ties with her, then just do it. No need to be winding her up. School kids play mind games, but you're an adult. It goes to show how lame some people are, when they won't let go of an ex. Just stop stringing her along, and let her be with someone else, if you don't want her.

I've never had a girl give me an ultimatum, but I'd sure be flattered all the same if one ever did ;)

Here's one
Either get round to my place now or else

Since you're asking, both of you are messed up..Three and a half years of playing a "test of wills" game...Honestly, I think you two are a match made in heaven....

Ask first yourself what are your plans in life.Figure it out if it can support a family.Ask yourself how did you treat her. Did you took her for granted? We girls like men to be sweet and some of us are suckers for attention (which unconsciously we do and difficult for us to detect). Because we feel that a man truely loves if he care like the way we care (which i just known is very different from what you guys express). And if we don't feel that assurance, we will think you are not serious with us. Either there is something wrong with you or with her. Then ask the girl what's wrong. And even if she says nothing, trust me there is always something. And it can hurt really bad.

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And another thing if she's a player you guys know better and get over her. Get angry and move on. Coz anger can make you feel like hell but cant hurt that person. And if youre thinking of revenge, it can do hurt her in the first phase and eventually you in the end.

Ahhh the proverbial go or get off the pot ultimatum. If she breaks up with you. Move on because she obviously wants something that you aren't willing to give her or your not ready for. Which isn't a good thing for a relationship.

Men's mind are simple, women's mind are complicated.