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Topic: Love hurts.. please help
Cuddlemaria's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:28 PM
I was with some guy that I met on the internet a few months back and we did nothing but fight when we were together. Which in turn only lasted a week. lol. It was both of our faults that it didn't work out; I was going through some things at the time and he was also. We just didn't know how to be there for eachother.
We recently saw eachother and that stired up some emotions on myside again. I really do miss him and know that he is a sweet, honest and great guy... everything that I am still looking for in a relationship. Why did I have to mess it up?!?!?! I know that he doesn't want me or at least he doens't let on that he does. So I wrote him and told him houw I felt and told him that I wouldn't be bothering him anymore.

Was that the smart thing to do? I know that I need to let him go, but once he looked into my eyes that way... I melted.

I need some advice, so be honest!!! Thank you!

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Mon 09/10/07 07:31 PM
sometime you have to let go
if you argue a lot
it's not a healthy relationship and you deserve better

take some time to heal your heart, and maybe the next guy will be the ONE

hope this helps

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Mon 09/10/07 07:31 PM
MOve on...theres better fish out ther in the sea..keep posting in here and you will make friends to get your mind off him! Good luck!flowerforyou

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:34 PM
i have said it before.
when it's about to commit to a person love is the last thing to consider.
I don't want to sound harsh, but love lost its power through things like not getting along while people are together.
When there is a huge difference in paths and none of u r flexible with the other.
when you guys are not emotionally available for each other.
My advice would be look deep in your brain (not heart), and see if you honestly are going to be able get along with him.
and then if u think u can do it, ask him very straight forward if he is going to be strongly committed to be emotional available for u

creationsfire's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:35 PM
Have more faith in yourself, don't let anyone rule your heart by a "look, kick his ass to the curb and find someone who will treat you right.

wendynhouston's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:40 PM
I know what you mean about the feelings that were stirred up again after seeing him. My ex and I were that way. We didn't fight so much, but things were good when we were apart but when we hadn't seen each other, it wasn't like I missed him. Plus there were other things that were wrong. However, we broke up a couple of times (try 4 times in about 3 years), but after not seeing each other for a couple months and then seeing each other again, those feelings would come back. Well finally this last time I realized, there was better out there.

I know it's tough to get passed those feelings, but you need to move on. It's been several months since my ex and I broke up. I still miss the good times we had and I can't say I've had any luck with the guys I've been out with since, but eventually the ONE will show up. I'm sure the same will happen for ya!

wendynhouston's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:40 PM
I know what you mean about the feelings that were stirred up again after seeing him. My ex and I were that way. We didn't fight so much, but things were good when we were apart but when we hadn't seen each other, it wasn't like I missed him. Plus there were other things that were wrong. However, we broke up a couple of times (try 4 times in about 3 years), but after not seeing each other for a couple months and then seeing each other again, those feelings would come back. Well finally this last time I realized, there was better out there.

I know it's tough to get passed those feelings, but you need to move on. It's been several months since my ex and I broke up. I still miss the good times we had and I can't say I've had any luck with the guys I've been out with since, but eventually the ONE will show up. I'm sure the same will happen for ya!

nascar_chic_1976's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:41 PM
dont settle if u werent happy b4 u wont b now just keep dating till u find the right guy ull know when u found him it will b obvious to u good luck

cajunwhitetiger's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:43 PM
if he says he wants u back then go for it. but dont wait to long. there are much better men out there.
:)

cajunwhitetiger's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:43 PM
if he says he wants u back then go for it. but dont wait to long. there are much better men out there.
:)

sumum_real's photo
Mon 09/10/07 07:52 PM
i think u may be giving ur heart away way to fast slow down take ur time if its meant to be then u ill know.. dont give up to much info too quick and dont deman it in such a rush either. relationships should always, always start off as a basic friendship.. think of it like this u need a foundation to build a house as well as a friendship cause if u have that friendship first and in result it turns into somthing else and dont work out at least u can fall back on solid ground and remain friends..without the urging and the fights. but its ok to miss him cause its just normal. but give urself time to feel them out make sure that if ur gonin to try to be with him that he understands what u want and u understand what he wants..all background things such as prior relationship somethimes should be talked about just so u both know whats goin on in eachothers head..but sometimes it can wait........as far as u tellin him how u felt good as far as u tellin him ur goin to leave him alone..well i wuda just told him how i felt and the ball was in his hands from there.... so there's always different advice from different people this is mine but gud luck next time

RMART1964's photo
Tue 09/11/07 09:35 AM
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING IN MY OPINION, LET IT GO IF IT COMES BACK WITHOUT THE ARGUING IT WAS MEANT TO BE. LOVE IS TO SPECIAL TO JUST GIVE IT TO ANYONE LOVE IS ONE OF THE SPECIAL THINGS GOD GAVE US AND THERE IS ALOT MORE TO IT THEN JUST EMOTIONAL FEELING THERE IS UNDERSTANDING AND FORGIVENESS. WHEN TO PEOPLE ARGUE WHERE IS THE UNDERSTANDING WITH EACH OTHER. ARGUING IS ABOUT TO PEOPLE LOOKING AT SELF TRYING TO CONTROL AND MAKE THEIR POINT TO CHANGE HOW SOMEONE LOOKS AT SOMETHING.

cutts's photo
Tue 09/11/07 09:39 AM
If you care about him let him go.If he comes back it was truely meant to be. I have just went thru this with my ex. It hurts ,but if it was meant to happen it will. I have been doing ok now and I still hurt ,but I will make it,and so will you.

s1owhand's photo
Tue 09/11/07 09:51 AM
it takes 2 to mess up. it is not you alone who messed up.
this is important to realize. it is your interaction with
him that really counts. when it is right, really right, it
is just always pleasant and comfortable to be around each
other - and sexually charged as hell also.

never settle for less. if anything really good is going
to come from it, the interaction will always be easy and
fun especially at first when you are falling in love. later,
there are always challenges - but if it starts out with
a lot of fighting then there really isn't much hope.

you don't want to sign up for weeks on end of contention.
even if there is a mutual attraction. find someone else
who is attractive and always pleasant to be around...and
be pleasant around them!

flowerforyou

lizardking19's photo
Tue 09/11/07 09:54 AM
if someone wants u back but they've hurt u b4 i dont think one should give them a 2nd chance they just hurt u again if u find another dude to be affectionate with, it'll take ur mind off him

lizardking19's photo
Tue 09/11/07 09:54 AM
if someone wants u back but they've hurt u b4 i dont think one should give them a 2nd chance they just hurt u again if u find another dude to be affectionate with, it'll take ur mind off him

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Tue 09/11/07 11:39 AM
run, don't walk, cus this is a baaaaaaaaaaad idea.

s1owhand's photo
Tue 09/11/07 02:36 PM
^^^^^^

what Jayme says....

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 09/11/07 03:37 PM
All one can do is try but at times it is not meant to be so then one must learn to walk away at least they know they did try.bigsmile

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Tue 09/11/07 03:52 PM
if he's not showing any interest than you shouldn't bother him.

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