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Topic: What is love? Do you grow or fall in love?
TruckChick Joined Sat 11/02/13 Posts: 2	Mon 02/17/14 03:55 AM Edited by TruckChick on Mon 02/17/14 03:57 AM
I think men fall in love, I don't think women really fall in love they just find someone to make their life a bit easier. I think falling in love is more accurate then growing into love. It feels more like a free fall that you can't stop, but maybe t hats just me. Haha! I have to disagree. When I met my ex I wasn't looking for a relationship and I fell head over heels even though I tried to ignore it. The kind of love that was still strong 8 years later and made me excuse or overlook all his faults until he slapped me in the face with them. Women can fall in love just as hard. I do think women are more likely to settle though. Lots of women aren't comfortable being alone or don't know how to feel complete without someone to care about.

indignus Joined Sat 07/14/12 Posts: 327	Mon 02/17/14 04:46 AM Edited by indignus on Mon 02/17/14 04:48 AM
I think men fall in love, I don't think women really fall in love they just find someone to make their life a bit easier. I think falling in love is more accurate then growing into love. It feels more like a free fall that you can't stop, but maybe t hats just me. Haha! I have to disagree. When I met my ex I wasn't looking for a relationship and I fell head over heels even though I tried to ignore it. The kind of love that was still strong 8 years later and made me excuse or overlook all his faults until he slapped me in the face with them. Women can fall in love just as hard. I do think women are more likely to settle though. Lots of women aren't comfortable being alone or don't know how to feel complete without someone to care about. I guess we're coming off of different experiences. More then one women I was with stayed with me after she fell out of love with me (if she ever was) because she was comfortable with the lifestyle. That and one other reason makes me think women don't really fall in love, Einsteins theory on marriage which reads: Men marry women with the hope that they will never change, women marry men with the hope that they will change. Irretrievably they are both disappointed. When I read this it made me think, if you loved something you wouldn't want it to change, you'd want it to stay the way it was when you fell in love with it. But women want men to change, which makes me think that they don't really fall in love with who a man is, they fall in love with the idea of what they want him to be. Which isn't actually who he is, so what is it they are falling in love with? You can disagree with me all you want, but do you really want to argue with Einstein? :P

badguy1 Joined Wed 03/03/10 Posts: 73	Tue 02/18/14 06:42 PM
Ive never been in love, but ive been in lust a few times...

BEZAX Joined Sat 11/16/13 Posts: 81	Wed 02/19/14 12:05 PM
Ive never been in love, but ive been in lust a few times... how come u knew it was lust and not love...?

BEZAX Joined Sat 11/16/13 Posts: 81	Wed 06/11/14 08:01 AM


CowboyGH Joined Mon 10/05/09 Posts: 13651	Wed 06/11/14 01:11 PM
I think men fall in love, I don't think women really fall in love they just find someone to make their life a bit easier. I think falling in love is more accurate then growing into love. It feels more like a free fall that you can't stop, but maybe t hats just me. Haha! I have to disagree. When I met my ex I wasn't looking for a relationship and I fell head over heels even though I tried to ignore it. The kind of love that was still strong 8 years later and made me excuse or overlook all his faults until he slapped me in the face with them. Women can fall in love just as hard. I do think women are more likely to settle though. Lots of women aren't comfortable being alone or don't know how to feel complete without someone to care about. I guess we're coming off of different experiences. More then one women I was with stayed with me after she fell out of love with me (if she ever was) because she was comfortable with the lifestyle. That and one other reason makes me think women don't really fall in love, Einsteins theory on marriage which reads: Men marry women with the hope that they will never change, women marry men with the hope that they will change. Irretrievably they are both disappointed. When I read this it made me think, if you loved something you wouldn't want it to change, you'd want it to stay the way it was when you fell in love with it. But women want men to change, which makes me think that they don't really fall in love with who a man is, they fall in love with the idea of what they want him to be. Which isn't actually who he is, so what is it they are falling in love with? You can disagree with me all you want, but do you really want to argue with Einstein? :P Very good post and point. If you "love" someone, you wouldn't want them to change, for that would be the reasons you "loved" the person.

stan_147 Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 3439	Wed 06/11/14 03:33 PM
"Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love." Albert Einstein~ Ah... Albert. Why does the term "fall/falling" not work for me? It implies that pain will be involved at some point. Yes, it will. However, I prefer not to think about that until it happens. Love grows. It's only when you miss the other person, like the flower misses the sun on a cloudy day, that you consider that it might really be love. Disclaimer: I love a lot of people in my life, it's just that I don't want to see 98% of them naked.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 06/11/14 04:33 PM
Grow.

BEZAX Joined Sat 11/16/13 Posts: 81	Tue 06/17/14 09:56 PM
Grow. I think you'll fall before you grow

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Wed 06/18/14 09:43 PM
What is love? A process and mechanism for the protection of children that promotes relationship stability until the child can take care of itself. Does it really exist? Not as many people seem to understand or idealize it, IMO. Do u grow or fall in love? Neither.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 06/18/14 09:46 PM
Do u grow or fall in love? Neither. Both....

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 06/18/14 09:56 PM
Grow. I think you'll fall before you grow Falling is part of it. For both sexes love takes time. You grow to love who they are during that time.

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Wed 06/18/14 10:01 PM
There's no such thing.. it's a figment of most peoples' imaginations. Love is a crock of !@*&

omorhenry Joined Fri 01/03/14 Posts: 7	Thu 06/19/14 08:43 AM
Nice quote

chsmaves Joined Thu 05/29/14 Posts: 10	Thu 06/19/14 09:14 AM
I think men fall in love, I don't think women really fall in love they just find someone to make their life a bit easier. I think falling in love is more accurate then growing into love. It feels more like a free fall that you can't stop, but maybe t hats just me.

jester0012009 Joined Tue 06/17/14 Posts: 101	Thu 06/19/14 09:41 AM
its respobibilty

playingindirt Joined Tue 07/10/12 Posts: 84	Thu 06/19/14 02:57 PM
when someone's happiness becomes as important to you as your own.

Tanzy14 Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 1672	Thu 06/19/14 05:40 PM
Love is a fall into a growth....that's deep right there....

LUNG1954 Joined Thu 04/24/14 Posts: 1361	Fri 06/20/14 06:58 AM
A seed can only begin to grow into a beautiful flower, once it has been properly cared for: pretreated with good soil, consistent watering, sufficient sunlight, and tender loving care. A neglected seed rarely yields fruit, and if by chance it does, the roots will be weak, the leaves will be straggly, and the stem will be bent rather than growing straight up. Growing in love comes when two people who are sure and confident in themselves come together naturally and have room and time enough to grow in the flowerpot of love.