Haha! I have to disagree. When I met my ex I wasn't looking for a relationship and I fell head over heels even though I tried to ignore it. The kind of love that was still strong 8 years later and made me excuse or overlook all his faults until he slapped me in the face with them.
Women can fall in love just as hard. I do think women are more likely to settle though. Lots of women aren't comfortable being alone or don't know how to feel complete without someone to care about.

I guess we're coming off of different experiences. More then one women I was with stayed with me after she fell out of love with me (if she ever was) because she was comfortable with the lifestyle. That and one other reason makes me think women don't really fall in love, Einsteins theory on marriage which reads: Men marry women with the hope that they will never change, women marry men with the hope that they will change. Irretrievably they are both disappointed. When I read this it made me think, if you loved something you wouldn't want it to change, you'd want it to stay the way it was when you fell in love with it. But women want men to change, which makes me think that they don't really fall in love with who a man is, they fall in love with the idea of what they want him to be. Which isn't actually who he is, so what is it they are falling in love with? You can disagree with me all you want, but do you really want to argue with Einstein? :P

Ive never been in love, but ive been in lust a few times...

how come u knew it was lust and not love...?

Very good post and point. If you "love" someone, you wouldn't want them to change, for that would be the reasons you "loved" the person.

Ah... Albert.

Why does the term "fall/falling" not work for me? It implies that pain will be involved at some point. Yes, it will. However, I prefer not to think about that until it happens.

Love grows.

It's only when you miss the other person, like the flower misses the sun on a cloudy day, that you consider that it might really be love.


Disclaimer: I love a lot of people in my life, it's just that I don't want to see 98% of them naked.

Grow.

I think you'll fall before you grow

What is love?
A process and mechanism for the protection of children that promotes relationship stability until the child can take care of itself.

Does it really exist?
Not as many people seem to understand or idealize it, IMO.

Do u grow or fall in love?
Neither.

Both....

Falling is part of it.
For both sexes love takes time.
You grow to love who they are during that time.

There's no such thing.. it's a figment of most peoples' imaginations.

Love is a crock of !@*&

Nice quote

its respobibilty

when someone's happiness becomes as important to you as your own.

Love is a fall into a growth....that's deep right there....

A seed can only begin to grow into a beautiful flower, once it has been properly cared for: pretreated with good soil, consistent watering, sufficient sunlight, and tender loving care. A neglected seed rarely yields fruit, and if by chance it does, the roots will be weak, the leaves will be straggly, and the stem will be bent rather than growing straight up. Growing in love comes when two people who are sure and confident in themselves come together naturally and have room and time enough to grow in the flowerpot of love.