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Topic: Death of the True Gentleman!!!
willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sat 01/11/14 06:18 PM
I care not if it's a woman, man, child, joven or cripple. I will treat them with honor and open doors,help with a heavy load or simply a kind gesture. If I'm ending a date, my hand is extended for a firm shake. Given a hug or kiss is welcome and considered icing. No real man will expect any more than is offered by the lady.

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 06:22 PM
I care not if it's a woman, man, child, joven or cripple. I will treat them with honor and open doors,help with a heavy load or simply a kind gesture. If I'm ending a date, my hand is extended for a firm shake. Given a hug or kiss is welcome and considered icing. No real man will expect any more than is offered by the lady. I second that.

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 06:26 PM
Had something like that and it's called "Coming on too strong" Having had a passionate night/kiss etc with chemistry, great! But maybe she was somewhat overwhelmed by it and needed some space the next day to think about it and let it sink in. Then there's an over the top poem ... Over the top, as it is too soon. And a man that lives to please me? F O! Had one of those, they smother you, make you feel like you're being throttled. If you say your neck hurts, they jump up to give you a massage (without even asking if you want that), when you say "I'm hungry" they run in the kitchen to make you some food and so on. May sound like paradise, but trust me, it's not nice at all! There's being a gentleman and overdoing it. I don't want someome whyo jumps at my every whim. I want a man, one that can be gentle and a gentleman at the right time. Then again if my Greatest sin in life is complimenting a lady and thanking her for an amazing evening. I think I could live with that. Just have to find one that appreciates it and understands that is my purpose and reasoning. As for the rest it does go a little too far and out of context for who I am my main thing is the whole poem bit and of coarse the added thank you bit.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sat 01/11/14 06:34 PM
There are a few women I play with here. However, they could trust, I will lay my life down to protect theirs.

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 06:46 PM
Had something like that and it's called "Coming on too strong" Having had a passionate night/kiss etc with chemistry, great! But maybe she was somewhat overwhelmed by it and needed some space the next day to think about it and let it sink in. Then there's an over the top poem ... Over the top, as it is too soon. And a man that lives to please me? F O! Had one of those, they smother you, make you feel like you're being throttled. If you say your neck hurts, they jump up to give you a massage (without even asking if you want that), when you say "I'm hungry" they run in the kitchen to make you some food and so on. May sound like paradise, but trust me, it's not nice at all! There's being a gentleman and overdoing it. I don't want someome whyo jumps at my every whim. I want a man, one that can be gentle and a gentleman at the right time. Then again if my Greatest sin in life is complimenting a lady and thanking her for an amazing evening. I think I could live with that. Just have to find one that appreciates it and understands that is my purpose and reasoning. As for the rest it does go a little too far and out of context for who I am my main thing is the whole poem bit and of coarse the added thank you bit. No one suggested that your sin was to compliment a lady and thank her for an amazing evening. Its the coming on too strong that was under scrutiny. Minimizing what people say doesn't go unnoticed. A little self control could be the ticket to a lovely lasting relationship. You really do seem like a fabulous person. I hope you get what you seek. I loved the idea of a previous poster to use a journal for that early stage poetry. What a great gift it could be. Of course I don't know you at all. I have nothing to go on but what is typed here and I recognize that. Really do wish you the best tho. Thank you Klc and I definitely did take away from that that yes moderation would be a very highly valuable thing.

Viper1j Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 803	Sat 01/11/14 06:48 PM
"Gentlemen" are little more than dinosaurs searching for a tar pit to fall into these days. Women don't want nice guys, they want "bad boys" that will slap them around, cheat on them, and then "forgive" them for dinner being cold. Get with the times, or die alone.

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 06:51 PM Edited by Greg812003 on Sat 01/11/14 06:53 PM
"Gentlemen" are little more than dinosaurs searching for a tar pit to fall into these days. Women don't want nice guys, they want "bad boys" that will slap them around, cheat on them, and then "forgive" them for dinner being cold. Get with the times, or die alone. I will definitely die alone haha, I stick with my principles. I will never change who I am in order to appease, nor would I ask that of anyone. Love the Patch by the way. Semper Fidelis

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sat 01/11/14 06:51 PM
Two sayings come to mind when I consider folks of substance. Do unto others and but for the grace of God. Year, I said God. Deal with it.

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 06:55 PM
Two sayings come to mind when I consider folks of substance. Do unto others and but for the grace of God. Year, I said God. Deal with it. I was raised by that and live by that as well. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Now a days it seems do unto others before they can do unto you and it drives me batty honestly >.<

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 07:00 PM
A good person is a good person because that's who they are, not because its what women/men want. If you spend time trying to say you became a bad person because of someone else its just a cop out. You control your behavior. Its all on you. Its not because women are whores, and its not because you cant find a good man. You are exactly who you are. You either value goodness, or you don't. That is very true and very well put. I wish they had a like button lol. Thank you KLC for your input on this thread its bounced around and still really has nothing to do with what I intended it but it has made for some interesting conversation. And definitely some good advice in tid bits that do in some cases apply and did help me out.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sat 01/11/14 07:03 PM
Same with you,/ Ms klc. If you found yourself stranded in my area, my home would be yours. No expectations, no strings.

Viper1j Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 803	Sat 01/11/14 07:04 PM
A good person is a good person because that's who they are, not because its what women/men want. If you spend time trying to say you became a bad person because of someone else its just a cop out. You control your behavior. Its all on you. Its not because women are whores, and its not because you cant find a good man. You are exactly who you are. You either value goodness, or you don't. Are you really trying to say you've never been affected by life events or "milestones"? That might work on Vulcan Mr. Spock, but here on earth, some abused children grow up to be abusers, some molested children grow up to molest. Some even end up killing. Some bullied kids shoot up schools, because they were affected by bullies. Some raped women have problems sexually. If you asked any of them if they chose to be the way they are, most if not all, would probably tell you no, that they were affected by what happened to them. So, no ,you don't always have a choice as to what kind of person you end up being.

Greg812003 Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 46	Sat 01/11/14 07:04 PM
Anyhow it has been great, I need to go out and act like a clown on stage screaming my lungs out to some Korn and Zeppelin and woo the crowd a wee bit. Yep Karaoke time. You guys take it easy.

Viper1j Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 803	Sat 01/11/14 07:23 PM
A good person is a good person because that's who they are, not because its what women/men want. If you spend time trying to say you became a bad person because of someone else its just a cop out. You control your behavior. Its all on you. Its not because women are whores, and its not because you cant find a good man. You are exactly who you are. You either value goodness, or you don't. Are you really trying to say you've never been affected by life events or "milestones"? That might work on Vulcan Mr. Spock, but here on earth, some abused children grow up to be abusers, some molested children grow up to molest. Some even end up killing. Some bullied kids shoot up schools, because they were affected by bullies. Some raped women have problems sexually. If you asked any of them if they chose to be the way they are, most if not all, would probably tell you no, that they were affected by what happened to them. So, no ,you don't always have a choice as to what kind of person you end up being. I think you've misunderstood. I wasn't saying we aren't works in progress, only that we either care about being good or not. Mental illnesses aside. The fact that you say 'some' is evidence that you agree, no? We do choose our behavior. I say "some", because I don't give credence to absolutes or blanket statements. I don't believe anyone is a "work in progress". I think the "work" was finished about the time we left the nest mommy and daddy built to find our own way. Once the foundation has been laid, the rest is window dressing. If the foundation was infused with neglect, abuse, or worse, then their choices are already made.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Sat 01/11/14 07:29 PM
Oh good, the first nice guy thread of the new year.

Candiapples Joined Thu 07/18/13 Posts: 1941	Sat 01/11/14 07:44 PM Edited by Candiapples on Sat 01/11/14 07:48 PM
"Gentlemen" are little more than dinosaurs searching for a tar pit to fall into these days. Women don't want nice guys, they want "bad boys" that will slap them around, cheat on them, and then "forgive" them for dinner being cold. Get with the times, or die alone. Thats so rude..do you know this first hand and as a fact?

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Sat 01/11/14 07:48 PM
There are a few women I play with here. However, they could trust, I will lay my life down to protect theirs.

clausepur Joined Sun 08/11/13 Posts: 5	Sat 01/11/14 08:50 PM
Reading your post made me think about what is the difference between love and attraction. who can say is right or wrong when spmeone expresses their feelings. Are they sincere, or they just because you feel like showing them. I don't know if it has to do or not to the fact of being a gentleman I believe that it goes beyond that. It has yo do with being afraid of receiving love so soon or do not know how to deal with it. We're living in a society that tells us that being nice is not cool anymore and when we face man like you that shows their feelings one can think is not real and, let me say that most of the time men use that tricks just to get laid. Anyways it is interesting to see that there are some men that are able to express themselves and how they feel anytime to anyone they feel like or worth to.

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Sat 01/11/14 10:25 PM
Sir, I have been reading this thread and all the posts and I do believe you are a gentleman thats a good thing. It seems like the situation you where in you over did it a little to soon. No worries,I think a nice woman will look your way very soon.I believe in my heart that women want to be treated with respect and kindness but they want it to be genuine not a act to jump their bones. Good luck in your search my friend and God Bless!

Viper1j Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 803	Sun 01/12/14 12:32 AM
"Gentlemen" are little more than dinosaurs searching for a tar pit to fall into these days. Women don't want nice guys, they want "bad boys" that will slap them around, cheat on them, and then "forgive" them for dinner being cold. Get with the times, or die alone. Thats so rude..do you know this first hand and as a fact? Yes.