Topic: Expectations
indignus's photo
Wed 12/25/13 04:15 AM
It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.

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Wed 12/25/13 12:23 PM

It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.


That's because they don't just get the kind of person they want in the first place, instead, they settle for what they can have and then try to change them into what they want. Waste of time.

larsson71's photo
Wed 12/25/13 12:42 PM


It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.


That's because they don't just get the kind of person they want in the first place, instead, they settle for what they can have and then try to change them into what they want. Waste of time.
I'd rather hang off and wait for the person who's right for me, than mess with someones head, as a stepping stone until a better offer comes along! I see my mates stuck in dead-end relationships, that are going nowhere and that's not for me! I'd rather be free and single, than attached and miserable like some of them!

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Wed 12/25/13 12:51 PM



It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.


That's because they don't just get the kind of person they want in the first place, instead, they settle for what they can have and then try to change them into what they want. Waste of time.
I'd rather hang off and wait for the person who's right for me, than mess with someones head, as a stepping stone until a better offer comes along! I see my mates stuck in dead-end relationships, that are going nowhere and that's not for me! I'd rather be free and single, than attached and miserable like some of them!


Me too. drinker

sparkyae5's photo
Thu 12/26/13 05:06 AM
IT STARTS WITH OURSELVES---THE RIGHT PERSON IS ALWAYS THERE AT THE TIME--smile2 ---

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 12/26/13 06:51 AM
Never settle I don't feel one is asking for too much to find one that they click with... You just have not found the one that suits you yet... In time you will but if one settles just cause they are alone they will not be happy with them....

teebee79's photo
Thu 12/26/13 07:36 AM

Never settle I don't feel one is asking for too much to find one that they click with... You just have not found the one that suits you yet... In time you will but if one settles just cause they are alone they will not be happy with them....

Truer words have never been spoken!

TawtStrat's photo
Fri 12/27/13 07:08 AM

It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.


I don't really look at it like that. But then, I don't really go into these things with expectations and I'm prepared to accept people for who they are.

It just doesn't seem like "settling" when you start to get feelings for someone. A relationship may not work out but that doesn't mean that that person wasn't special to you and when I'm old and past it I don't want to be regretting not even at least trying to make relationships work. Screw the grass being greener on the other side. It rarely is and it can take years to get to know somebody properly.

If you have expectations you're already putting the pressure on. Why not just try to enjoy whatever time you have together and just see how it goes? In my experience, if it isn't going to work out it just won't and unless you are dumb enough to rush into marriage it can just end naturally without any unpleasant aftermath.

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Fri 12/27/13 07:23 AM

It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.


well we all have expectations. I think sorting myth from reality is a good start. what is realistic and acceptable for each other.....

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Fri 12/27/13 12:24 PM


It seems like one of the biggest problems that people have with relationships is expecting too much from their partner instead of just accepting them for who and what they are and aren't. Unless someone is looking for a conditional love.


I don't really look at it like that. But then, I don't really go into these things with expectations and I'm prepared to accept people for who they are.

It just doesn't seem like "settling" when you start to get feelings for someone. A relationship may not work out but that doesn't mean that that person wasn't special to you and when I'm old and past it I don't want to be regretting not even at least trying to make relationships work. Screw the grass being greener on the other side. It rarely is and it can take years to get to know somebody properly.

If you have expectations you're already putting the pressure on. Why not just try to enjoy whatever time you have together and just see how it goes? In my experience, if it isn't going to work out it just won't and unless you are dumb enough to rush into marriage it can just end naturally without any unpleasant aftermath.


Good idea, if you don't expect anything, you're rarely disappointed.drinker

soufiehere's photo
Fri 12/27/13 12:54 PM
I expect they will be clean and smell good.
That is it.

indignus's photo
Sat 12/28/13 12:14 AM

I expect they will be clean and smell good.
That is it.


Thank you for giving an example of conditional love

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Sat 12/28/13 06:09 PM
there are always conditions...don't be holier than thou....I don't carewho u are...there will be conditions.....

izzyphoto1977's photo
Sat 12/28/13 06:14 PM
My condition of love would be that I will not wake up to her pointing a gun at my head or holding a knife to my throat. Unless it's part of four play. lol

soufiehere's photo
Sat 12/28/13 06:24 PM


I expect they will be clean and smell good.
That is it.


Thank you for giving an example of conditional love

Has naught to do with conditional love.
Has to do with fainting.

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Sat 12/28/13 08:12 PM
laugh