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Topic: Why do women think they are worth so much?
Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Sat 12/21/13 06:29 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. because all their lives,they're lied to by their parents.that lie is "you're a princess",sorry but i don't think they make princess that d@mn big. to all parents out there,stop lieing to your kids!

indignus Joined Sat 07/14/12 Posts: 327	Sat 12/21/13 06:30 AM
Because you want to impress them that's why you take them to expensive dinners, buy her expensive things and all. Who would've refuse such a tremendous offer, right. But you what, you must change the way you approach or treat a woman, impress them not with material things but with your personality something not tangible, I'm sure they would very much appreciate it. My point was that in order for a man to get a women to get to know him in that sense he is expected to do these things and meet certain criteria which have nothing to do with who he is. Do expensive dinners really impress you? So if one guy thought you were nice and wanted to go for coffee but he was short and average standing next too a guy who was tall, handsome, well dressed, and wanted to take you out to a fancy dinner but you could only choose one you'd choose the tall dark and handsome over the coffee guy because he was more impressive? What if the fancy guy was a boring stock broker and the coffee guy was a honorably discharged war hero who saved your life several times without you ever knowing about it, is the coffee guy still less impressive? And finally, what does being impressed by a resume have to do with who the person is. Based on that mentality your writing people off before you even know who they are...

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 12/21/13 06:34 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. because all their lives,they're lied to by their parents.that lie is "you're a princess",sorry but i don't think they make princess that d@mn big. to all parents out there,stop lieing to your kids! For making me laugh... ( . ) ( . )

indignus Joined Sat 07/14/12 Posts: 327	Sat 12/21/13 06:38 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. ty for clarifying Yellow... With all the replies and many opinions not one of you has answered the question, why do so many women think they are worth so much that they can have a list of what a man needs to do for her in order to be with her. And if he does those things do you fall in love with him, or are you just comfortable with the lifestyle. I can totally understand being attracted to specific personality traits, but what he drives, if he has a job or is a "good job", how much money he has, how tall he is, what he's willing to do for you... what do these things have to do with falling in love with someone? If you really fell in love with someone wouldn't you not have a choice about it, all that other stuff wouldn't matter. To answer you question, not all women have a monetary/material/physical check list...The reasons for those who do could vary from them being shallow, materialistic losers who need a meal ticket to being well heeled, overachievers who are only interested in a pursuing a serious relationship because they are ready to settle down...In other words, there is no specific answer to your question..My advice to you would be to look to yourself...What type of impression are you making, what message are you sending that would make these women feel a need to "confirm" your financial status or reliability before agreeing to date you..If this is happening consistently, it would be more reasonable to assume the problem lies with you, not the women you are "choosing" .... Again, I'm not asking for advice. I'm asking a question, as you quoted, I said "most women" when I clarified. This isn't about my dating experiences, this is about what I see all around me. Stop trying to attack me personally, I didn't ask you to tell me what you think my problem is. Attacking me and taking attention off of the issue doesn't change the fact that the issue is still there. Do you really think I'd raise the question if I were one of the people playing the game?

indignus Joined Sat 07/14/12 Posts: 327	Sat 12/21/13 06:39 AM
because all their lives,they're lied to by their parents.that lie is "you're a princess",sorry but i don't think they make princess that d@mn big. to all parents out there,stop lieing to your kids! Lol can't argue with that, I had the same theory

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Sat 12/21/13 06:43 AM
To be honest I have been lucky most of the women I have dated where blue collar and down to earth.Its important to find out if they have things in common with you before you ask them out.I agree with you a cookout or something simple is a lot more fun than something formal.I also like taking them out to places its part of the romance part and its shows them you find them interesting and want to make them happy. You seem very genuine I'm sure you will have no problems. Good luck to you in your search.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 12/21/13 06:47 AM Edited by Leigh2154 on Sat 12/21/13 06:48 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. ty for clarifying Yellow... With all the replies and many opinions not one of you has answered the question, why do so many women think they are worth so much that they can have a list of what a man needs to do for her in order to be with her. And if he does those things do you fall in love with him, or are you just comfortable with the lifestyle. I can totally understand being attracted to specific personality traits, but what he drives, if he has a job or is a "good job", how much money he has, how tall he is, what he's willing to do for you... what do these things have to do with falling in love with someone? If you really fell in love with someone wouldn't you not have a choice about it, all that other stuff wouldn't matter. To answer you question, not all women have a monetary/material/physical check list...The reasons for those who do could vary from them being shallow, materialistic losers who need a meal ticket to being well heeled, overachievers who are only interested in a pursuing a serious relationship because they are ready to settle down...In other words, there is no specific answer to your question..My advice to you would be to look to yourself...What type of impression are you making, what message are you sending that would make these women feel a need to "confirm" your financial status or reliability before agreeing to date you..If this is happening consistently, it would be more reasonable to assume the problem lies with you, not the women you are "choosing" .... Do you really think I'd raise the question if I were one of the people playing the game? Not saying you are or your aren't ...Is it a huge possibility?.....Hell yes!

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Sat 12/21/13 06:52 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. because all their lives,they're lied to by their parents.that lie is "you're a princess",sorry but i don't think they make princess that d@mn big. to all parents out there,stop lieing to your kids! For making me laugh... ( . ) ( . ) how can i say no to boobies?

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Sat 12/21/13 07:26 AM
Why do women think they are worth so much? Duh! Because they are! And the ones who don't think they are should learn better.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 12/21/13 07:32 AM
The OP was posted in first person and not stated as a hypothetical. The wording could be taken as why you feel you have to afford her When you post topics, you will get all kinds of answers, including friendly advice

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 12/21/13 07:33 AM
Why do women think they are worth so much? Duh! Because they are! And the ones who don't think they are should learn better. Man are you hawt today!!.... (((((Joe))))).....If you're taken she's lucky...If you're not, you should be!!

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Sat 12/21/13 08:05 AM
The OP was posted in first person and not stated as a hypothetical. The wording could be taken as why you feel you have to afford her When you post topics, you will get all kinds of answers, including friendly advice "If I meet a girl..." sound hypothetical to me!!!

cha7385 Joined Fri 11/22/13 Posts: 3782	Sat 12/21/13 08:06 AM Edited by cha7385 on Sat 12/21/13 08:07 AM
Because you want to impress them that's why you take them to expensive dinners, buy her expensive things and all. Who would've refuse such a tremendous offer, right. But you what, you must change the way you approach or treat a woman, impress them not with material things but with your personality something not tangible, I'm sure they would very much appreciate it. My point was that in order for a man to get a women to get to know him in that sense he is expected to do these things and meet certain criteria which have nothing to do with who he is. Do expensive dinners really impress you? So if one guy thought you were nice and wanted to go for coffee but he was short and average standing next too a guy who was tall, handsome, well dressed, and wanted to take you out to a fancy dinner but you could only choose one you'd choose the tall dark and handsome over the coffee guy because he was more impressive? What if the fancy guy was a boring stock broker and the coffee guy was a honorably discharged war hero who saved your life several times without you ever knowing about it, is the coffee guy still less impressive? And finally, what does being impressed by a resume have to do with who the person is. Based on that mentality your writing people off before you even know who they are... I don't base my decision on the physical aspect of the person and i wouldn't go out with guy who's yet a complete stranger to me. Well, if we are in a "get to know each other" stage, i would be impressed if he would treat me to an expensive dinner! who wouldn't be. it will then give me the impression that i'm worth every "ka-ching" he spent but that doesn't make me materialistic and besides i didn't ask for it. He offered and I accept

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 12/21/13 08:33 AM
Shush Joe. You know what I meant lol

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/21/13 09:49 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. Why are you assuming all women are like those you've gone out with?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/21/13 09:50 AM
So if I meet a girl and I want to get to know her the first thing I have to do is make sure I can afford her, why is that? I have to buy a women dinner or take her some place nice and preferably expensive because if I don't she won't even take the time to get to know me. To me, it seems incredibly vein. Hmmm seems like a generalization. If someone asks someone for a date why not pay? Even of it's the woman asking a man. Some women prefer a non expensive date Could be turned around. I know several guys that think they are owed "something" if they spend anything on a date I'd rather get coffee or something to get to know a guy That's why I prefer each person paying their own way on a first date. That way no one owes anyone anything.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 12/21/13 10:01 AM
Because you want to impress them that's why you take them to expensive dinners, buy her expensive things and all. Who would've refuse such a tremendous offer, right. But you what, you must change the way you approach or treat a woman, impress them not with material things but with your personality something not tangible, I'm sure they would very much appreciate it. My point was that in order for a man to get a women to get to know him in that sense he is expected to do these things and meet certain criteria which have nothing to do with who he is. Do expensive dinners really impress you? So if one guy thought you were nice and wanted to go for coffee but he was short and average standing next too a guy who was tall, handsome, well dressed, and wanted to take you out to a fancy dinner but you could only choose one you'd choose the tall dark and handsome over the coffee guy because he was more impressive? What if the fancy guy was a boring stock broker and the coffee guy was a honorably discharged war hero who saved your life several times without you ever knowing about it, is the coffee guy still less impressive? And finally, what does being impressed by a resume have to do with who the person is. Based on that mentality your writing people off before you even know who they are... Expensive dinners and buying expensive things don't impress me. Your attitude toward women and you're broad generalizations don't impress me, either. Someone's job isn't going to impress me much, either. His attitude and personality will, though.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45376	Sat 12/21/13 10:20 AM
If it didn't work like that hobo's would take all of the women and then no one would get nice things. hahahahahahahah

cuddlebunny00 Joined Sat 04/07/12 Posts: 550	Sat 12/21/13 10:25 AM
OP I can't tell you why..we live in a "its all about me" world right now. I don't inderstand this selffishness as I am not like that and neither are many other women my age. Maybe your Generation feels a sense of entitlement. Maybe you are picking the wrong women..who really knows why?

cuddlebunny00 Joined Sat 04/07/12 Posts: 550	Sat 12/21/13 10:32 AM
CrystalFairy I'm not talking about dating random girls and then getting to know them, I'm talking about taking out girls that the guy already knows. You do realized you judged me when you called me judgmental... welcome to the club. Not even a cappuccino, why should he have to pay at all? Would you go on a date with a guy who expected you to buy him something? Hmm! sounded random to me..you said you are trying to get to know her and wonder why you have to impress her on the first date?