And to be clear... It's not the single Dad aspect that makes me "move on" ! The profile pic with the kids tell me at 1st glance"I will not have time for you" That may not be what he's saying obviously but it's what I read.

If you tell people that you have a son, it's obvious you're a package deal. I don't understand putting pictures of kids on here, though, as there are a lot of nut jobs out there. Why not keep the picture of the kid off the site and send it to people when you get to know them better? I'd think of it as a safety issue.

I agree 100%!

as a single mom, it probably makes me more likely to read the profile

I see photos as the persons CHOICE of how they wish to be seen

if they are a swinging bachelor, the photos may be mostly of them in clubs with their buddies and a drink

if they are athletic, the photos may have them in different athletic settings

an artist, may have photos and paintings etc

a profile with kids, just shows me being a dad is a big and special part of their life,, and that's good, its the kind of man Id want to make a connection with

but Im no longer at a point where the casual dating thing is my goal, I want first to make good friends, and hope it can develop further,,,

I gotta say its better than a pic with their ex in it! ive seen that many times!! huh?

Or even better when they to crop her out and it doesn't work that well.

A picture says a thousand words. Just saying I have a son is kinda vague. The picture adds words without adding those words. As far as his safety is concerned I'm pretty sure there aren't many people foolish enough to risk my wrath. I have no qualms about annihilating another human being who wishes to bring harm to my family.

I do have to say though the pic on my profile is pretty old now that I take the time to look at it. I need to put a new one up hes almost fourteen now.

that too!

For the purpose of letting women know you have a son, just saying so works fine. Those women are here to get to know you. I wouldn't need to see pics of the kids I'm order to get to know a guy.

As far as safety, I'd rather see people being safe, rather than sorry when it comes to their kids.

I prett much agree wtih crystal and singme on this...we need to know he can go into a dating relationship as a unique individual.

I am not really that interested in his children but perhaps would be later on if it seems like things are going somewhere in the relationship.

otherwise it totally screams " I do not have time for a relationship and my kids will always be more important than you are..."

agree completely. I'd actaully think more highly of his parenting skills is those pictures were not on here.

But I have nothing against single dads at all...I am a single mom afterll :)

Can someone explain me whats d problem in having kids pic??? I rather believe that is being truthful as they are telling that if you think of dating us we also have kid along us... so know that fact

@hellsboy. Its like this... you have a mom? would you include her in your pic? ( some guys do...creepy)

Ladies don't need to see her picture in your profile to get that you love her. Tell us you love her..you love your kids... that is sufficient.

This. Also, there's a section for whether or not you have kids on the profile, so if anyone reads profiles, they know. I think they just want to show the kid off, for whatever reason. I'd be afraid to have pics of my kid on here if I had any, it's bad enough with all of the pervs who add me to their fav list, I'd have a fit if they were only faving me to jerk off to pics of my kids.

Gross, yeah, but tons of pedos around.

it has already been explained Fluffy :) you're still one hot rabbit tho....I bet those baby bunnies are cuter than warm potatoes on a dinner plate

To let others know you have kids, you do not need to have pictures of them on your profile. Simply check the box that says you have kids. As you get to know someone, fill them in a bit more on your kids.

I know that kids are always going to be the most important thing to their parents, but when I'm getting to know someone new, I'm getting to know them, not their children.

Also, why would a parent want to put their kids' pictures up on a site like this? Like I've said before, there are a lot of weirdos out there. Why show them what your kids look like?

I see women do this often and I just don't get it. It seems like it almost fake

people either put single photos up or photos with others,, if they spend their time with friends those others may be those friends

if they spend time with their pets, you may see photos reflecting that

if they spend time with their kids, I don't see the issue with those photos or why there is any difference,,,,its just a glimpse into their lifestyle,,,

I understand where you're coming from but there is a fine line between this is my life with my kids and I have kids. Does that make sense?

Read the topic, lots of someones have explained.

I also understand that kids are part of the package, still doesn't explain why you have to put their pictures on here.
And does the kid even know? In Lionsbrew's case he's almost 14. Would he like having his face on a dating site for every nut-job to see? And he's not really old enough to judge for himself. What does his mum think about his and how will the kid feel when he's 20 and finds out you put his pictures on dating sites?
(If I'd found out my ex did this, I'd be livid!)

I've got two kids myself, no way in he|| would I ever put their pictures online! I'm very careful where I post my OWN pictures, let alone my kids'.
I respect my kids' privacy and I wouldn't show pictures of them unless I was somewhere further down the line of really getting to know someone.
I wouldn't introduce them to every Tom Dick and Harry either, why bother them with my love life, until there's a real special someone. So why would I show their pictures? I feel it's an infringement of their privacy and lack of respect.

Kids' pictures are family business, meaning some privacy should be involved, they're not dating-site material.
I would go as far as to say: Ask yourself why you have this urge to expose your kids? I think it's ego driven, sort of like needing the acknowledgement that you're a (good) parent by showing it off to the world.
Like someone said, I think you're a better parent if you are more careful with pictures.
I'm very very proud of both my kids too, but to me that's all the more reason to be careful.