Recently on the "match me" section of Mingle. I always read profiles regardless how cute or sexy I find a guy BUT I have to admit... When I see children in a guys profile pic I move on. I don't mind the babies but if I'm dating YOU why the baby in your profile pic hon? Guys PLEASE don't tell me... My kids are number 1 before anyone!,I get it..I respect it. To me this is a given.. You love your kids. Is it just me...who finds this a little off putting?

I think its a little odd seeing children in profile pics on a dating site. Only because I worry about child predators.
to me tho there is nothing more attractive than a family man so...i agree with you about the child pics in the dating profile but I have no problems with single dads! I have no problems with women with children because I'm a mom myself!

I think it's weird to see kids in profile pictures. You want people to get to know you, so why not just have pictures of yourself? I get kids are important, but no need to put them in profiles.

Right ladies! It's sexy to see men with their kids! I say include the pic in the profile but NOT the main,picture ,

Actually, with so many weirdos out there, I'd say leave the kids out of the profile all together. Share pictures later.

I agree as well. I sometimes see womens pictures with children. Even though it states if you have children on your profile.
I have twins and I wouldn't put their picture on my profile at all.
It states I have kids and if anyone wants to ask I am happy to tell them.
Why do guys do it? Maybe because they know that some women love to see men with kids if they have their own.

u al r right...children pics shuld nt form the part of d profile pic...r u ol agreed

Ditto.

u r right...bt occassionly is fyn..isi nt

If I see a profile picture of a man with kids, I move on as well. Same when their name has "daddy" or "papa" in it. I'm not looking for a daddy, but a mature partner. If a man cannot separate his parenthood from being a potential lover and partner then he quite likely has no space for that in his life just yet and shouldn't be dating. Sounds harsh maybe, but that's how I feel about it.

I don't think kids should be in any of the pictures on a dating site. Like someone said, you can exchange family pictures once you get to know each other a bit more. Your kids have no say in you putting their pictures on a dating site, not particularly thoughtful.

crystal i agree..can u answer my few qustns

I have a picture on here with my son. Hes part of the package that is Lionsbrew. Its okay though if I get passed by because of it. I wouldn't want to be with a woman who can't accept my family is part of who I am.

Spot on lionsbrew..
Well said. A proud father.
Respect to you.

space fo that in his life ouldn't be dating. Sounds harsh maybe, but that's how I feel it.
I don't think site. Like someone said, you can exchange family know each other a bit more. Your kids have no say in you dating particularly thoughtful.


Whew I'm glad you said it!! I'm here to meet the guy if you're only focus is the kids... Then truly focus on that and leave the dating to the available.

But getting to know you is not about being a "family" just yet. You wouldn't show your son a random woman's picture after meeting her. It's a process. a pic with your son is fine BUT not the main pic.

Yes to all of this.

Actually for me it kinda is. My friends are the family I get to choose. I totally would show a picture of a girl I met and introduce him to a woman I'm dating. I am very open about my life with my son and his opinion matters to me. If he doesn't like a woman or anything he will let me know and will likely have good reason for it. As far as getting to know someone in a romantic fashion dating is where you do your sorting of who is suitable to share a life with and become family with. So either way he is involved.

This is where I guess Men and Women are different. If my children were still little, there is no way I would want my kids seeing anyone I'm dating until I felt like he and I were in a good place.
He would know that I have children, but that's it. No one is seeing pics or talking on the phone or anything, until He and I can call our "relationship" a relationship.

Again, maybe this is Men/ Women difference...

It is not a turn off to see a man with his child, it is his choice to put his picture up with his child...just means he is proud to have that child in his life.
I do think that women have to be more careful esp when they have little kids...there are a lot of sick people out there. I won't put my kids pics up by choice. Even though they are adults, it is my choice that you do NOT have access to what my family is all about.
I think it is each person's decision...DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF!!
One thing I can not stand is when someone has little kids and post their phone numbers....HELLO YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR KIDS AT RISK. USE YOUR HEAD PEOPLE...YOUR NUMBER CAN BE USED TO FIND YOUR ADDRESS!! THAT IS STUPIDITY!!

I think if you see someone with their kid in their profile pics and it causes you to move along maybe it's for the best. Basically if you are going to form a relationship then eventually you will end up living together and their kids will be some part of your life. I can see people not wanting other people to put up their kids pictures for obvious reasons but the dating person should act as a buffer and a fail safe. No matter who you meet or how you take a risk. If I had kids I wouldn't put up their pictures or introduce them to people I really didn't know (new dating people) to reduce the risk of negative events/effects. The chances are small but I am risk adverse.