This is to TawtStrat



True, and everyone is somewhat responsible for their own orgasm.




The statement was ... if you are really good, then you KNOW YOU ARE GOOD. If you have to wonder if it was "good for her," and you don't know, you are probably 'not good.' (You need lots of experience.) If she fooled you by faking an orgasm, you may only think you are good.

Women know that men's egos are huge, and many will fake it for that reason because sometimes a man won't give up until he thinks she had her orgasm. ...And she just wants it to be over. Some men don't care or are just clueless or maybe they just assume it was good for her.






If you think its a myth, then you have been with a lot of fakers.
Its NO MYTH.

I am giving you a piece of brutal honesty here, so don't go into denial.

^^ I like that better than the swallow thingy!! ...Instead of 2KM, gonna start calling you TKO...

(Technical knockout)

Is defining really necessary? They're someone who's sweet, cares about other people's feelings, considerate, good tempered...



Being a nice guy doesn't mean you have to be obsessive or clingy.



The way you describe things, it's as if you're saying that guys need to jerks because that's apparently what we (as women) want.



A variety of reasons though the main ones seem to be an inability to talk like a grown-up about issues and go off in childish strops (one guy even made a habit of talking to my mum rather than me). The other big issue was jealousy, and not even jealousy of male friends, just that I had friends and I wouldn't dump them last minute because he'd decided he was coming home early. He was welcome to join us, but that wasn't good enough. Things fell apart shortly after that 'discussion' when he said some not very nice things...

(((((Leigh))))Thank you for having my back, helping me not to be a
thread killer, and for Never making me feel
Stupid or less than ~

#TKO

I luvs ya sugar bean .....Less than!!! pfffttt...No way, not possible!!

yup...rawr pretty much has it down pat here

I've met one or 2 men who really know what they are doing....

(and that is supposed to be sundays DURING church...geez do we have to correct EVERYTHING with you guys)

Wassup here?

are you a cute santas elf???

do santas elves have cute and adorable north pole accents???

I prefer two night stands, one for my lamp and clock on the left side of my bed and the other night stand for my books and twinkies

Iba u lost it

As u feel like feeling or thinking

That last part was sort of a joke.

I've got plenty of experience and know that I'm good.

Had a woman trying to show me once how you can tell if a woman is having an orgasm. Something to do with the way that her hips move.

I'll tell you about my last girlfriend. Had a little bit of trouble getting her there the first couple of times when we were together. I mean, she would say to me that she was just about to *** and I stopped or it came out and then she told me that was it and if she was going to *** and didn't she wasn't going to.

Anyway, this girl was no faker but she sure did make quite a lot of noise when I did certain things. Last time we were together I had her run in by then and made her *** three times. Nothing fake about it. She just told me that she was about to *** and she did. Then she said to me that because she had *** it was only fair that I did as well. Well, this was after orgasm number two and she was getting tired and wanted to stop and said that she was trying to tighten up for me. So, I told her to turn over and she had one more orgasm before I did. There was what I'll delicately try to put as a noise that came from her vagina and she told me that that had been it.

Let me tell you about my ex girlfriend. She orgasmed very easily and wasn't the sort of woman to fake anything. We used to have sex for hours and she would even let me continue when she was tired out and wasn't going to have any more orgasms. There was no faking it to get me to stop. Wouldn't have been any point and there never is.

Sometimes I will ask them afterwards if they came and sometimes they say yes and sometimes they say no.

You're trying to say that I'm deluding myself, or that I've been with a lot of fakers and only think that I've got enough sexual experience at forty five to think that I'm good at sex. Well, I disagree and it beats the hell out of me why they should fake it to get me to stop and then smoke a cigarette and tell me that they are ready to go again. Beats me why they would tell me that the sex was great, even when the relationship is over and we aren't having sex anymore. Beats me why they would tell me that they are having orgasms when they do not, in fact, want me to stop.

Someone on the internet that has never actually had sex with me isn't going to make me feel insecure about women supposedly faking orgasms with me. It's just never happened. What would be the point? If they want me to stop I'll stop and if the woman doesn't get there it's something about her not letting herself go. With some women it takes them a while before they get there with you, or have really powerful orgasms, because they aren't comfortable with you yet, or you haven't run them in properly yet. Sometimes it's down to technique and getting in tune with her body and sexual rhithums.

One time I was with a woman that said to me that a woman won't orgasm unless she loves the guy. Well, I remember asking her to talk dirty to me but I told her to stop doing that because it sounded fake. It was just a sexual thing and we weren't even dating, as such. She did orgasm one time though and told me that that had been her moment. I made a joke about how that must have meant that she loved me but it was a joke and she was just trying to tell me how to tell if a woman is having an orgasm, like she tried to show me how to tell if a woman has had a boob job, which she had.

I don't claim to have been born good at sex, even if I have been told that I'm in tune with my body and I have a high sex drive and am what's known as a "long stayer". I didn't learn how to make love to women from books, or pornography, or from people lecturing about it on the internet. I learned by doing it with women and I mean experienced women that knew what they liked and what got them off.

Now, there's a difference between a woman moaning or howling when you do certain things and her having an actual orgasm. . There's little point in faking either and it's counterproductive to do that unless the guy really is a crap shag and you either want him to stop, or are trying to spare his feelings.

There are physical signs that can tell a guy when a woman is having an orgasm and those are not easy to fake. There's no point in faking it with a guy that knows that he's good because he isn't going to feel inadequate if you don't get there and he isn't going to see it as his problem. They don't go to bed with me out of pity and they don't tell me that they have orgasms to get me to stop.

Some women say that they can have multiple orgasms with the right guy. Well, my girlfriends do have multiple orgasms and they only ask me to stop when they are tired, or have to leave for some reason. One orgasm is no big deal. Women are not men and that doesn't mean that they are finished.

There is a saying "Practice makes perfect."

I'll never have a one night stand,but i won't judge tjose who do. I feel that it degrades a woman.

I'm sorry for what happen to you that sucks big time. but ive o done it once never again because u do feel like " you no the word". an it's each to there own. " just saying".

Okay, we meet have an excellent time and then all of a sudden you leave the next morning, never to be seen or heard from again. Bye, see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya.

Dang ladies, I know I haven't been around for awhile but when did it get so cold in here? I don't remember this site for being the place to come to if you want to get slapped in the face for sharing your feelings.

OP- I'm sorry you went through that, I think we all have at some point and no it's not fun. All you can do is learn from it and ask the important questions before you get naked lol. It's a hard lesson we all learn, never assume. I know it's not always comfortable to ask those questions but it's better than feeling this way, ya know?

well you look a little grumpy in your picture but I'll bet you are one cute furball :)

I pretty much stuck for him with the warning of think B4 u bink\

but really it still sometimes happens even if u ask the right questions

what I'd like is to find a guy who jsut knows how to BEHAVE...geeezz is there any such thing...cripes