What, you were expecting something here? I'm just putting this up for the sake of variety.


I will admit though, that I dated someone ten years older than myself and it was the most intensely gratifying and beautiful relationship I've had, in spite of my protests of the notion of age gap dating.

I am happy for you

So if it was a good relationship, why do you protest them?

I would suppose there are a select few women that are so grossly immature that they are equal to a significantly younger man but I will stand by my view that picking a much younger man is more often about an abuse of power in the woman's past and her neurotic need for control or flipping the script.

While it might be fun, even educational, for a younger man to latch on to an older woman for a while in the long run the relationships often become abusive. Because they are out of the norm and distorted it can really mess up a younger person's perspective of what a normal relationship is.

I don't think ten years is too much of a gap.

How about 15 years?

Discerning of you. It was some months before my perspective normalized, as you say. Interesting, I don't think I realized it at the time.

Lucky for you if it does. Not all men are so lucky.

For me personally, that would be a bit too much because I'm 19 going on 20 and dating a 35 year old could be awkward because we'd probably be at really different place in our lives. He might want to get married soon and I'm not looking for that anything soon considering I'm still in college. It would depend, however, if I really liked him and if we could relate to each other on a deeper level.

Well to be fair, I don't think I would have, but I have a friend who's done extensive research on the subject and we had a long conversation about the choice I was making and the sacrifices there would be and he persuaded me in the end.

is the warped perspective because of soemthing that happened to you? what constitutes a normal relationship? is it normal if they are the same age but there is abuse? is it normal if they are far apart in age but it is a functional & healthy relationship? I do know of such, but it never occurred to me that they are not normal. but pray tell, what is "the" normal relationship these younger men need to avoid us in order to find.

I'm curious, pray tell????

I think it's not a bad idea also to excersize caution with the generalizations.

Sounds like you have a good friend. Too often the younger guy gets a lot of "Atta Boy's" and then "talked" about behind their back. Later when he hits trouble the cheerleaders disappear and he is out of luck.

The girls 51 and the guys 35.

That doesn't seem so bad especially if the man doesn't want children.

The problem is the man wants to have a child. The woman cant have it anymore. Fertility issues

I'm a guy that loves older women because they know what they want and straight forward about it without the games

The issue old & younger is raised about twice a month, haha.
On average I don't think it's a smart move if there's too much of an age gap. Sure it may work out for a few years, but I don't believe it will last. Too many differences emotionally, mentally, physically, life experience etc. etc.
I also think there's a psychological reason for someone choosing a much older/younger partner. And ppl can argue this to death, but you simply can not have a healthy relationship, both being equals, when the age gap is huge. You cannot truly be equals for reasons mentioned above.

Been there done that my exwife is older than me like that and the only good that came of that relationship is my son. I could go on and on about how fubar that relationship was but I won't cause thats a chapter in my life that has long since been closed. Now I have a four year rule. Four years in either direction. That way we could have at least gone to different highschools together.

Yeah, I got a similar thing, some 4, 5 years either direction.