No!
Well,unless you both want to live a VERY unhappy life! I mean,she'll resent you for as long as marriage lasts!!

Never loose your dreams sometimes it is all we have,, I wouldn't sacrifice mine, so wouldn't expect anyone else too, and dreams should be made together anyway

HEY. .I ..all..ready...said..that 1

trying to be nice here

you should maybe try to get up earlier..4 originality. .Ja think?

"
Mother will they try to break ...ma Ball
Mother will they try, to tear your little boy apart
Mother will they put me in the fiiiirin' line
owwwwww.a or is it just a waste of time"
Mother did it need to be so high

If there are children involved, then yes sometimes it becomes necessary to sacrifice for their needs, especially if they are special needs children, I suppose this also could apply if there is an ill spouse involved, of coarse this would apply to both the man and the woman. if either believes there will not be sacrifices made in a relationship, then they have no business being in one, but most of all I firmly believe the needs of children must always come first, just my opinion.

Concern for the welfare of those one loves is a rational part of one's selfish interests. If a man who is passionately in love with his wife spends a fortune to cure her of a dangerous illness, it would be absurd to claim that he does it as a sacrifice for her sake, not his own, and that it makes no difference to him, personally and selfishly, whether she lives or dies.

Any action that a man undertakes for the benefit of those he loves is not a sacrifice if, in the hierarchy of his values, in the total context of the choices open to him, it achieves that which is of greatest personal (and rational) importance to him. In the above example, his wife's survival is of greater value to the husband than anything else that his money could buy, it is of greatest importance to his own happiness and, therefore, his action is not a sacrifice.

But suppose he let her die in order to spend his money on saving the lives of ten other women, none of whom meant anything to him as the ethics of altruism would require. That would be a sacrifice. Here the difference between Objectivism and altruism can be seen most clearly: if sacrifice is the moral principle of action, then that husband should sacrifice his wife for the sake of ten other women. What distinguishes the wife from the ten others? Nothing but her value to the husband who has to make the choice,nothing but the fact that his happiness requires her survival.

The Objectivist ethics would tell him: your highest moral purpose is the achievement of your own happiness, your money is yours, use it to save your wife, that is your moral right and your rational, moral choice.

The Virtue of Selfishness



don't call your best actions a Sacrifice!

Giving up your own dreams to replace them with the ones you make together is still giving up your own dreams.
I think this dream thing is where many couples go wrong, don't even communicate about it, but start assuming.
In any case, I believe ppl should hold on to their own dreams (within reason of course) when they get involved AND have new dreams, together.

I don't believe in sacrifice but I would compromise. A guy I dated wanted me to give up playing with my band so I would spend more time with him. I said no but I would cut back on rehearsals and gigs. If I had given it up; I would have hated him as it's something I truly love. He was okay with the compromise.

right now i would sacrifice a goat just to see some boobs!

Let the goat live, though....

the goat lives until i can touch them

To the goat: Sorry dude, I tried.

Goat to me: Baaaaaaaaaaaaaa, you suck!

Johnny,you are shameless!

You know!?
Instead,one should be an encourager and motivator! Happier lives ahead...

The question is contradicting itself.

To succeed at what? What is success to you?

I think following your dreams and making them happen is your greatest success.

I would never want a woman to sacrifice her dreams to be with me, I would never want to be that important to someone.I would rather be in a situation where we both support each others dreams.

Smarty azz!!

I hadn't realised though... Ma bad!

Heeeeeeyyyyyy,am up early-before you even start snoring!!

WOW this sounds very similar to what my boyfriend asked me to do. He wanted me to quit school and spend more time with him because he was feeling left out. BUT I wanted a career to make our lives so much better but he did not want to be patient.
What do you think I did? LOL I am here right! No man should ever ask you to ever give up your dream, IF he does then he is being selfish. You didn't state what your dream was and it really does not matter, BUT if he was truly IN love with you...he would do everything possible to help you reach your goal.
If you really stop and think about it, when we fulfill one of our dreams then there is always another dream that we have. Is your mate going to bring you down every single time? You have to go for your dreams and IF your partner does not stick by you...walk away.
You only live once and you have to do what your heart tells you to do. If you have a dream and you are truly IN love with this man, sit down and talk to him and tell him that you are willing to let him go IF he will not support you. Maybe once he realizes that you are serious, he will wise up and support you...if not, so long!
GOOD LUCK!!

And I say,Amen to this!!

Very well said!

I have found that most men (probably not all but a lot) don't want his woman to "follow her dream" unless her dream involves him.

He wants to be the center of attention. He wants to be "her dream."

True too...that's why many a marriage break up after children come into the picture..