Topic: What is it you miss the most as a single?
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Sat 11/02/13 01:03 AM
Edited by 241970 on Sat 11/02/13 01:36 AM
i miss someone i can't still believe she is gone(ENIOLA)she is like an angel that i wished every good man to have.she don't talk much,all she care about is my happiness,i never really notice this until when her friends start mocking her about focusing on me only.anytime am around she forget her friends & focus on only me,she would keep me in the room even my friends can't take me away from her,if i ask her why she is doing this she simply reply me with straight answer"it's my turn to have you now"its more than Romeo & Juliet love,but she is dead now(she died after giving birth to a child,not even my)her mother took her away from me.it's a long story (sun re o ENIOLA )

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Sun 11/03/13 12:09 AM
Sleeping on the chest of a Man and falling asleep to the sound of his heart beating. Now it's hugging pillows lmao

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Sun 11/03/13 12:29 AM

Knowing that even in the silence and the "boring" times, I don't feel lonely because he would be there with me enjoying the same silence and just being there.

The complicity.

The feeling of being protected, supported and loved.

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Sun 11/03/13 05:05 PM
I miss everything I'm feed up being single is want to sealed down now:smile:

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Sun 11/03/13 05:05 PM
I miss everything I'm feed up being single is want to sealed down now:smile:

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Mon 11/04/13 07:28 PM

Knowing that even in the silence and the "boring" times, I don't feel lonely because he would be there with me enjoying the same silence and just being there.The complicity.The feeling of being protected, supported and loved.

is that why we never see you any more kari? did you find your man? is it that guy from india your were telling me about?

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Tue 11/05/13 02:36 AM
Edited by Wackford on Tue 11/05/13 02:37 AM
Whilst it's nice to look back and try to remember pleasing things it's possibly better to seek something that works, and in the meantime be happy as being single frees us from so many responsibilities and partner expectations.

P.S. The three letter quiz beat me too. Does anyone run simple quizzes?

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Tue 11/05/13 02:57 AM

Whilst it's nice to look back and try to remember pleasing things it's possibly better to seek something that works, and in the meantime be happy as being single frees us from so many responsibilities and partner expectations.

P.S. The three letter quiz beat me too. Does anyone run simple quizzes?

You can still come across things that you miss, even when you're happy as a single. Nothing wrong with that.
Missing something doesn't automatically mean you're overwhelmed by emotions, it can also be an observation and a feeling (which is not the same as an emotion)

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Tue 11/05/13 03:11 AM
Edited by Wackford on Tue 11/05/13 03:12 AM
CrystalFairy: Every single thing that we experience has an effect on us on an emotional level. Nostalgia too. But I agree that everything has its place. Just like that beautiful necklace, on your beautiful kneck. Nostalia too is capable of strangling us, and choosing the right pin hole essential.

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Tue 11/05/13 03:41 AM

CrystalFairy: Every single thing that we experience has an effect on us on an emotional level. Nostalgia too. But I agree that everything has its place. Just like that beautiful necklace, on your beautiful kneck. Nostalia too is capable of strangling us, and choosing the right pin hole essential.

Thank you :)
But again, missing something can have something to do with looking back, emotional reaction and nostalgia, but it can also be something you simply observe. And it's the latter I'm getting at with my question.
When I notice I miss not having someone to have in-depth conversations with, then there is no nostalgia, no emotional reaction, no dwelling in the past. Just something I feel and ascertain: Hey, I miss that in my life!


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Tue 11/05/13 03:47 AM
CrystalFairy, Points well made and accepted.


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Tue 11/05/13 09:04 AM

Whilst it's nice to look back and try to remember pleasing things it's possibly better to seek something that works, and in the meantime be happy as being single frees us from so many responsibilities and partner expectations.



I agree. I have tried very hard to think about something that was positive about any of my relationships but honestly; there was nothing that stands out. I find when I was in relationship; I felt so limited and couldn't grow. Being single I can come and go as I please, not picking up after someone, can take solo vacations where I want to go, can sleep soundly as no one in bed snoring or annoying me, go to bed when I want without being nagged, be with my friends whenever I want, take whatever risks I want to take, and explore who I am. Life is good as a single and all I seek now are friends to hang with. :banana:

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Tue 11/05/13 09:10 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Tue 11/05/13 09:12 AM


Whilst it's nice to look back and try to remember pleasing things it's possibly better to seek something that works, and in the meantime be happy as being single frees us from so many responsibilities and partner expectations.



I agree. I have tried very hard to think about something that was positive about any of my relationships but honestly; there was nothing that stands out. I find when I was in relationship; I felt so limited and couldn't grow. Being single I can come and go as I please, not picking up after someone, can take solo vacations where I want to go, can sleep soundly as no one in bed snoring or annoying me, go to bed when I want without being nagged, be with my friends whenever I want, take whatever risks I want to take, and explore who I am. Life is good as a single and all I seek now are friends to hang with. :banana:

Then that's what you have learned from your relationships which is or can be positive.
("Can be" as it depends how you deal with it now.)
Reading your posting, I would say you learned you need freedom and personal space in life and in a relationship.

Can't speak for you, of course, but sometimes we learn things in life from less pleasant experiences. I never even knew I needed lots of space myself and if it hadn't been for this disaster of a relationship, I probably still wouldn't know.
People tend to learn and grow from bad situations. You can't see the light without the dark kind of thing, haha

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Tue 11/05/13 09:20 AM



Whilst it's nice to look back and try to remember pleasing things it's possibly better to seek something that works, and in the meantime be happy as being single frees us from so many responsibilities and partner expectations.



I agree. I have tried very hard to think about something that was positive about any of my relationships but honestly; there was nothing that stands out. I find when I was in relationship; I felt so limited and couldn't grow. Being single I can come and go as I please, not picking up after someone, can take solo vacations where I want to go, can sleep soundly as no one in bed snoring or annoying me, go to bed when I want without being nagged, be with my friends whenever I want, take whatever risks I want to take, and explore who I am. Life is good as a single and all I seek now are friends to hang with. :banana:

Then that's what you have learned from your relationships which is or can be positive.
("Can be" as it depends how you deal with it now.)
Reading your posting, I would say you learned you need freedom and personal space in life and in a relationship.

Can't speak for you, of course, but sometimes we learn things in life from less pleasant experiences. I never even knew I needed lots of space myself and if it hadn't been for this disaster of a relationship, I probably still wouldn't know.
People tend to learn and grow from bad situations. You can't see the light without the dark kind of thing, haha


Agreed; that yes you learn things from bad experiences. I thought a relationship would be right for me but have learned it wasn't. I feel at a good point in my life being single. There so many great social clubs around here and I am having a hoot being able to be part of them. I remember a guy I dated hated that I was in a Sci Fi group and he wanted me to quit. Another guy wanted me to quit my military band. Another wanted me to stop teaching my cadets. It seems like they want me to work and just come home to watch tv which I find boring. I am not getting any younger and I want to explore and see as much as I can before I die.

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Tue 11/05/13 10:51 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Tue 11/05/13 10:52 AM




Whilst it's nice to look back and try to remember pleasing things it's possibly better to seek something that works, and in the meantime be happy as being single frees us from so many responsibilities and partner expectations.



I agree. I have tried very hard to think about something that was positive about any of my relationships but honestly; there was nothing that stands out. I find when I was in relationship; I felt so limited and couldn't grow. Being single I can come and go as I please, not picking up after someone, can take solo vacations where I want to go, can sleep soundly as no one in bed snoring or annoying me, go to bed when I want without being nagged, be with my friends whenever I want, take whatever risks I want to take, and explore who I am. Life is good as a single and all I seek now are friends to hang with. :banana:

Then that's what you have learned from your relationships which is or can be positive.
("Can be" as it depends how you deal with it now.)
Reading your posting, I would say you learned you need freedom and personal space in life and in a relationship.

Can't speak for you, of course, but sometimes we learn things in life from less pleasant experiences. I never even knew I needed lots of space myself and if it hadn't been for this disaster of a relationship, I probably still wouldn't know.
People tend to learn and grow from bad situations. You can't see the light without the dark kind of thing, haha


Agreed; that yes you learn things from bad experiences. I thought a relationship would be right for me but have learned it wasn't. I feel at a good point in my life being single. There so many great social clubs around here and I am having a hoot being able to be part of them. I remember a guy I dated hated that I was in a Sci Fi group and he wanted me to quit. Another guy wanted me to quit my military band. Another wanted me to stop teaching my cadets. It seems like they want me to work and just come home to watch tv which I find boring. I am not getting any younger and I want to explore and see as much as I can before I die.

I've had both: a long term relationship where we did everything together. He even sat next to me when I was playing a game on the pc. We did shopping together, watched tv together, went to bed together and so on. But I needed that myself as well at the time.
The second LTR was the opposite. In the end we barely did anything together anymore. But he was very manipulative so I didn't have an outdoor-life, friends etc. Lived like a hermit, but even though together, still on my own as he was mostly in another room doing stuff on his pc or playing on his drumkit.
Still that LTR made me realize that I need a lot of space and freedom. I'm not the couch-slouching-every-evening-type either.

What I'd want is the best of both: doing some things together and doing things separate.
In that sense an artist/musician is a good choice, as they need and want that space too.
I do not want to remain single, even though I'm enjoying it for now.

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Tue 11/05/13 10:53 AM
Edited by navygirl on Tue 11/05/13 10:55 AM


I've had both: a long term relationship where we did everything together. He even sat next to me when I was playing a game on the pc. We did shopping together, watched tv together, went to bed together and so on. But I needed that myself as well at the time.
The second LTR was the opposite. In the end we barely did anything together anymore. But he was very manipulative so I didn't have an outdoor-life, friends etc. Lived like a hermit, but even though together, still on my own as he was mostly in another room doing stuff on his pc or playing on his drumkit.
It that LTR made me realize that I need a lot of space and freedom as well.

What I'd want is the best of both: doing some things together and doing things separate.
In that sense an artist/musician is a good choice, as they need and want that space too.
I do not want to remain single, even though I'm enjoying it for now.



Yeah; I agree about doing things together and doing things separate as I think it makes for a healthy relationship. :thumbsup:

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Wed 11/06/13 01:03 AM
I wish all those intending to divorce would read all the agony of those who went that ignoble way.Endure and forgive your partner so you wont be lonely pls,non is perfect!

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Wed 11/06/13 01:08 AM

I wish all those intending to divorce would read all the agony of those who went that ignoble way.Endure and forgive your partner so you wont be lonely pls,non is perfect!

Yep,kill each other slowly instead of going your separate ways!slaphead

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Wed 11/06/13 07:56 AM
I miss snuggling up to someone at the end of a long day :)

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Sat 11/09/13 05:43 AM
Hi, u r rgt & express well in ur msg :smile: