In any case? this isn't just ANY case

Oh dear, I'm trembling in my boots!

My brother's wife divorced my brother because he put the kids first and never made time for her. Now the irony is the kids hate him because he made mom unhappy, so they stopped talking to him over 15 years ago.

My ex husband always put me first, which to me was a one of the reasons I wanted a divorce, haha. Exactly other way round, lol.

I guess one needs to find a balance. Funny that the kids recognized it though.

I think that is something that should change with the children's age. Like while they are still young they need to be put first. But later on like when they are teenagers you have to start putting your spouse first because he/she will still be there when the children fly the nest and the young ones need to do things on their own.

As a parent myself I believe my job is to raise my child to be a self sufficient and contributing member to society. Once a child reaches a certain point no matter how much it hurts we have to let them fail and work out their own problems or they will never fly the nest or be able to take care of themselves. Then what are they going to do when you're no longer with them?I.e after you pass away.

They either try to figure out why they are not "being right for each other" and try to work it out together or decide they don't want to bother trying to work it out and go their separate ways.

I think I would have been pretty happy with a man that put the kids first in decisions. I am adult enough that I know children's needs are usually pretty immediate and what someone does for my kids is doing it for me since they are hugely important to me. What I would not tolerate was being behind his drunken sister, hunting, sitting on his bum sleeping or vegging in front of the tube, and generally being more interested in building up hot rods than making a living, going to school so he could use the perfectly good mind he had to earn a living wage, or actually parent the two little boys he told everyone else he loved then neglected whenever someone else wasn't actually caring for them. It got old seeing him drink, pill, and eat himself to death while whining to his parents about his sister's got all the attention , he didn't get enough out of the family farm, and nobody loved him like he deserved while philandering with anyone that was impressed with how good looking he was or how important he seemed because he hung around the shop business I set up for him and might give them minor repairs.

Well, she wasn't happy. They had no time for romance and never spent any time together as a couple. I think in her mind; he preferred to be with the kids rather than be with her although he says that wasn't he meant to do. I can see her point as sometimes you need to get a babysitter and just take a time out for the kids. I work with single and married parents with my cadet group and they make "couple time" at least once a month as they have young kids. It seems to work as these people are happy.

...Because killing each other is illegal

People have asked me if I miss my ex. I always say yes. My aim is getting better though....

Hardwork and comittment required !!"

They must be mature and forefill their promises and obligations to each other always n all weathers , Self control and faith that the other will
protect the others
feelings and dreams..
If u cant handle the heat ? u shud'nt b in the kitchen , Appreciate each other and b honest sharing yr negitive feelings..

All the best " No journey is ever easy !! Those that give up will never
kno , if it was jus a tempary storm in a tea cup , where u cud have shared an umbrella ?

You never let a good opportunity go to waste do you KiK?

Makes sense to me.