I was supposed to have a date tonight, he asked me where, when, what time. So I tell him where, when, what time, ask him to confirm if okay.
Nothing.
Either he's a w*nker or he can't read properly and is still waiting in the pub.
I'm in two minds how I feel about it. In a way I don't care, but in another I was kinda looking forward to a Saturday nite out.
Well, another age group to cross of the list. Tried 42, 47 didn't work out, and 50+, didn't like it, went the other way, 34, don't seem to work either.
I think it's time to look up that address of the nearest convent.

Now am I going for the Sheridan's and sulk or go for the Sheridan's, put me feet up and enjoy the evening?

Sorry that your date didn't work out. I don't know why people do things like this. Getting stood up sucks. CF, I doubt you are ready for the convent. Its his loss and not yours. Just think; you may have just dodged a bullet with this character. I would just spend the night with some friends and forget this wanker.

What a waste of time! Well it's his loss and not yours! Enjoy yourself right now and later relax. You never know you might just meet a great guy while your there.

The old adage "you have to kiss a few frogs..." still holds true. Try to meet the best under the best circumstances and hope the dice roll comes up seven.

There are many out there for everyone. However, the dilution of the human race makes finding them a bit like a needle in a haystack.

Wear good perfume so he can smell you in the dark.

Maybe he lost his nerve.

If he lost nerve. The least he could have done was send her a message. Instead he was disrespectful. Who needs that!

Agreed!!!

Sorry for your date standup but its generally not a good idea to meet for the first time on a week end nite as too much is assumed and a more appropriate choice would have been to meet for simply a drink during the week or at worst in the early afternoon. A quick meet and greet needs only a half hour to introduce and get a feel for the person. If you would actually want to have a regular date and this could then be agreed upon and go from there. If either is not feeling the chemistry or is not interested you simply say thanks for meeting but that the chemistry just isnt there and you are free and leave.Much less difficult and less emotion attached to a simple meet and greet and also still keeps week end time for people you actually are ready to date....This greatly reduces the stood up situation you described and is unpleasant. Years ago a woman asked me to meet at 1130 she called at 9am same day to meet at Houstons Restaurant i arrived and she did not show, I turned to three women who had just arrived and said something to the effect that its really awkward and sad to be stood up,they looked and all three grabbed me and took me to lunch instead.. what a delight. how we manage ourselves in all situations greatly affects our own outcomes and the more we assume reponsibility the better the results....

I'm glad I had decided to not go to that pub unless he confirmed. Still is a shame, could've done with a nice evening out. And if I'd been on a date, I would have missed that $&(#($*_($+_@@+# spider that just crawled into the room. Okay, then it would've been waiting for me when I got home, but still. I rather deal with a male human creep than a spider this big

Bless your heart!!!

You are inexperienced only four guys and you are frustrated... If you are smart you would assume some responsibility and have his number so you could confirm if you did not hear from him as you give the other person control! If you let them confirm and not do the same. I would suggest you forget age as its not a valid criteria for dating evaluation and spend more time conversing with a guy to better know him and reduce the liklihood of being stood up, I support your efforts but four guys is insufficient. I met 63 women before finding a compatible match and that one lasted a year...Granted my standards are high but the rewards justify the traffic and subsequent great match...

Sorry but you seem to get the wrong messages here. I'm not devastated, it's a shame, that's all.
I don't have his nr cos that would mean he'd also have MY phone nr and yes, I am smart, and I don't give my phone nr to any Tom Dick or Harry that sends me an email.

Sounds sort of like a guy I knew years ago, we were supposed to go out. Supposed to come at 7pm. 7 comes and goes, no guy. I call him, no answer. I text him, no reply. About 9 or so, I get a text from him saying he fell asleep, now it's too late to go out, he thinks he's going to go party with friends. I brought out the four letter words on that one.

Guy sounds like a jerk, not worth your time. You should gather your girlfriends and have a girl's night out, probably more fun anyway.

What has happened to good old common courtesy? I guess along with sense there is no such thing anymore. Any way it was his loss and probably a good thing. About the spider though, I know that an emotional response is not always rational, but most of them are not bad and they do eat cockroaches. If I had to choose between a spider and a cockroach the cockroach loses.


Good luck in your search for the right person.

Had a bloke claiming to have fallen asleep as well when we had agreed to talk on Skype.
Was a Frisian man (province in Holland, got their own language, kinda like the Welsh). Typical ppl and he had a real weird sense of humour. A friend of mine said "have you ever seen a Frisian stand-up comedian?" err... no. "I rest my case".
You learn something from everyone of 'em. Crossed Frisians of the list too


Yeah time we do that again. Our get-togethers are crazy, haha.

At least the spider gave you a more exciting night than the guy did.

Maybe he showed up and then got scared when he saw your broom parked outside. Next time, use your other car, the one with wheels.

OMG!!!!!

She almost said wanker!!!!!

Da**, and I was so sure my Nimbus 2000 would impress him!


You got that right

Sorry your date bombed out. Sounds like you avoided a real frog.

Generally speaking if a guy can not actually invite you to go to a specific place, on specific day, at a fairly specific time "he is just not that into you".

Not saying it has to be a gold plated excursion but if a man is not at least willing to invite you in a semi public venue and put you on his calendar then you are just on his back up list when the women he really wants to take out is not available.

Yea you might get his attention because you are pretty, or funny, or smart even all of the above (which hey you do seem to be) but if he is not making it happen then somehow it is just wasting your time.

Which generally is true if you flip the script and have ask a lady if she would like to go out and she gives you some half baked maybe, sometime, anytime but a straight yes.