Guys I really need some advise I'm really not sure what to do anymore because Stephanie is saying like that she loves me but she's not in love with me but on the other hand she's saying that she's so glad that I fought for our realsonship and that I fought for us and that I didont give up on her. However she says and I can tell that she's really confused and that her emotions are all over the place however she has started coming back round to my house whilst my parents are away but she's looking forward to seeing them again I really don't know what to do.
I feel as if I shouldn't give up now because at one stage she wouldont reply to my messages and just wouldont talk to me however now I've got her back to my place we are talking everyday via email and we are meeting up and we are going out and we are having sex but is this the right thing to be doing. I'm so madly in love with her and we were at one stage saving up for a mortgage and planning on having a baby together



PLEASE HELP IM DESPERATE

Communication would be good, talk about why how and what went wrong.
As long as she's confused I'd say, no mortgage and definitely no baby!
Maybe things went too fast and those serious commitments sort of scared her.

She said she ended it because apparently we argued quite abit at one stage

Stop being desperate. If she's not in love with you, there's nothing you or she can do about it. You don't choose who you love but you do choose what you accept.

That's my advice to you.

I believe though that she does still love me

i think shes just playing around with yo feelings. she knows u love her and u are desparete for her thats so she can drop u and pick u wen she feels like. just go slow about it and don't let wat u feel for her blind you.try listening to steel and manday woods "know yoself first" the song carries alot of message for your situation.

Adami619,

Love is blind. Take off the blinders. Stop helping her set you up for a gigantic fall. She is sending you mixed signals but she is only doing what you allow her to do. Love her, but be in love with her from afar. It sounds to me like you are the security blanket. The one she runs to when whatever else she has got going on is not working out. If you are going to be in one another's lives then be a friend to her which means do what platonic friends do not what couples/lovers do.

Love and being IN love, are two different things. Love, is that unconditional thing, where you both stay and work things out. In love, is more the smoochy stuff. Do you believe you'll never find another woman for yourself? Is that why you bother with her? Otherwise, I don't understand. Too confusing.

I believe I could find someone else however I'm sure that there's still something there

My advice is i think she playin with ur emotions. Havin a bby wont solve a dam thing. If it were me id walk away whilst i still could and find sumone new.

When a girl says that she love you but not in love with you thats just a nice way of saying she don't want to be with you, the best thing for you to do is completely ignor her, let her go, don't call or text her let her get in contact with you first, and if its meant to be she will come back... but your in the friend zone now...

Couldnt of said it better myself mr brown.:-)

Exactly.

I agree with this but I understand your pain and confusion, love hurts sometimes.If its mean't to be it will be, a child will not change things but make it worse if you don't reconcile. Go out have some fun, get away from her for awhile,clear your head and good luck to you.

this sums it up, nothing matters after "but"
woman fall out of love easier if they're the
ones terminating the relationship, they often
think "you" are all they want and have ever wanted,
and love you madlly and as soon as you give them
your heart that they wanted so bad..they don't
want it anymore. They're garbage people!
Many seem to have a surface love and when you are
just going deep,they are going the other way.
So ignore her and don't look back,as that may
draw her Back in as no one likes to be ignored.
She lives with your parents? You don't need a sister, she needs to find different accommodations.

Papa's guna buy you a mockingbird (parody)

Ponys guna buy you a brand new girl
if that girl can't be nice


Ponys guna take her skating on thin ice
If that thin ice won't break

Pony will feed her to his python snake
and if that Python snake wont bite

Ponys got a loose wheel on his motor bike
and if that loose wheel won't come off

Pony will take her diving in the Pacific trough
and if that Scuba tank won't fail

Pony will do some construction with hammer & nail
if that nail bends I'll melt it down like lead

Ponys guna fire it at her head
if that firing device starts to jam

Ponys got a new girlfriend on his hands
If that girlfriends good in bed

Ponys guna squeeze her little neck

If my horse and carriage fall down
Ponys guna be the laughingstock of the mingletardtown.

Ps I just joking about the garage people comment.
Very Best,

Pony

It sounds like she is really confused about her feelings. If she says that she loves she but she is not IN love with you, I would be very careful. IF you are having sex, I hope and pray you are taking precautions on NOT having a baby. If her emotions are all over the place, the last thing you need right now is a baby. A baby should only be brought into a relationship when you know you are stable and going to be together, I don't think you guys are stable at all.
Honestly IF she said she is not IN love with you LISTEN to her. It seems like you guys don't really HEAR what women say and when we say something like that, it is time to walk away. You keep saying you think she is coming back around....you are putting your heart out there and I am afraid you are going to end up getting hurt. You are allowing this woman to do whatever she wants. Look at the signs and think with the right head for once. Having sex does not mean your relationship is on the right track. It just means that she is not getting it from someone else right now. Women are just like men...just a little bit more tactful about it.
All I can say is please please use precautions and do NOT have a baby with this woman because then you are stuck with her for the rest of your life. ONLY because you will have a baby in common, not because you are in love but because you will have to start paying child support...so the next time you have sex, remember that one!!!
Good luck!

I had a baby and then my girl needed a house and then everything became so much more complacated, be carefull weman have premeditative motive to get what they want and then after they get the baby and you have arguments, she will find another man to replace you, trust me on this one, weman sell men out for somone else when there relationship goes south.
Always be reciprocateing friends first because when the woman brings something to the table, then you know there is respect and balance, You must have balance in the friendship Or your loveing relationship will suffer with unbalance.
I wrote a book after getting used and hurt by weman.

I have been single for 6 years because all these weman out here programed by there parents when they were young that a man is supposed to do this and that for a woman, we are not robots controled by customs and traditions, we are motivated by our hearts to give someone something
Unconditionally, if your dealing with a woman of proper values and morals she will meet you half way in almost everything,
If she has you paying for everything without
Offering something dump her, you will never have respect and balance if you don't Insist that she helps you out financially, this has nothing to do with ego or pride, it has to do with your life and future, reciprocation of money can be a very good tool when finding out were a womans head is at, don't think any less of you self, us men need to have this balance, and if she dosnt agree with you, then you know who she really is, be very carefully of weman who hide behind ******** customs and traditions.
Now you have the formula and wisdom I gave you, so use it, tell her you don't have enough money for dinner and ask her if you can go dutch, if she says oh no a man is supposed to pay for a woman, then gaurd your heart from her and just have a good time, but use a rubber ok Dude.

The problem with you young kids today you don't keep it in your paints long enough, be friends, first for a long time even if it hurts you, you can always use your hand to take care of yourself, its a bad enougb sin to use our hands for pleasure, but when you get Intimate haveing sex, its all too late because now your emotionally attached , this is called a strong hold, and when you get attached to the wrong woman its hell.
You will find your self saying, oh boy I should have not given into my sexual desire
With this woman, we sell our souls to satin when we do this so please try to just be friends for a long time and make shore that friend give something to that friendship.
After 6 years how do you think I feel lol ?
I want and need a woman, but now I only want her for companionship, when love and sex die, companionship will always last.
Get a guitar and play it, get your mind off weman for love and Intimacy, 90% of weman just want to use men my friend, but if you find one that is willing to have the willpower to just be real friends and companionship, don't screw it up with haveing sex. Sex give woman the lisence
To use men and trash us, and in realitey there not worth haveing our heart.
Your young, God bless you.

Op I think you are getting taken for a ride. What she comes around when she wants?
From the sound of it you are putting way more into this then she is. Love is blind.