I just don"t seem to understand why people liek to play games in a relationship. I meet a guy, we have a great time together. He even texts me and calls me right after to tell me he had a great time. He had told me right off the bat that he was a very upfront, blunt and honest person.. which is what I want. And then i try to make plans with him to hang out again... and half my texts he ignores and the others he says that he would really like to but....

Finally I sent him a message asking if I was off on the intentions here and he read my message but never responded to it.

Why can't people just stop playing games? Why can't people be upfront and honest? Ugh.

Here is what I have noticed ,the more they "claim' to be honest the more they aren't.
run for the hills , he is a liar by the sounds of things.

Yeah, I am done with him at this point. I do not like being ignored and I don't play games. So I agree with you on this one. I just don't get why I can't find someone who is honest. It seems that most guys on these dating sites are just here to play. It is getting frustrating.

sorry to hear u were messed about hope u find an honest caring man soon

It's very difficult to get close to someone on here and stay close. Because there is much temptation here. For example, I was getting very close to this woman from Serbia. We was up all night messaging each other some nights. But there was this one occasion when she wasn't in so I got bored and started flirting with other women and when she found out she deactivated her account just like that. I was distraught. I was willing to travel to go see her. I was thinking about her all day. And now I've lost her. So be warned, there is more chance of heart ache on here than there is happiness.

Afraid I have to agree with you. Seems like most men talk out of their rect*m. It stinks and it's unpleasant.
Life in celibacy / remain single / become a nun, or a dyke. At least that way you don't have to put up with their b*ll anymore.

What the he|| kind of kick they get out of their behaviour, I don't know, but right now, I think they're all a bunch of w*nkers.

hi,,,blue.....there is an old saying...''.woman flirt,men pursue'' sometimes guys will drift back and forth,,,if he cares he will be back....its better to have a lot going on and have to check and see if you did not have plans on that day......do not chase a guy,,,its his job to chase you,,,your the prize..... ps its mans job in life to cherish a woman....when a guys talking to always watch his eyes they say more than the words......

I agree with this gentleman totally,not all men are like that, don't sit around and wait for anyone to call,go out have fun you will meet someone who doesn't play games.

How'd she find out, did you tell her or did she see you doing it in the threads or something?

It's too easy to lie and play games online, that's why so many people do it, they're bored with "real life" so they come on here to mess around. That's why if I was looking to date someone, I'd much rather meet them in the real world, you have a better chance of getting to know who they are before you get your feelings involved and your heart broken.

Agreed.

I don't know why either, it sucks it really does. I am sorry this happened to you.

Yeah it happens all the time it seems.

Paintcards. I stupidly changed my profile to make it more luring. And yes I went back to trolling the forums again because I fancied some attention. I deserve to suffer. I mean, I got jealous when I saw her commenting on one of my threads. I thought to myself... oh no, men might see her and then start messaging her.

You both should have left the site to focus more attention on each other, if you can't handle other people talking to her and if she couldn't handle other people talking to you.

Maturity is the key here sweetie. Guys and gals alike think they are ready for a committed relationship but that's not always the case. We some times find our selves dating and forgetting to have fun with it. The first meeting is important only because we just want to make sure that is the person we saw in the photo. If we are not so lucky as to fall in love at first sight then we sharply move to the next option, are they worth a second date? and if that works out nature should take over. But remember if it feels like a job and not a joy or if it aggravating and not inspiring with in the first few weeks then remember the saying about fish and oceans.

I never understood what the point of playing games was either whether its the man or the woman playing the game. Not only do I think its immature but it's cruel. I think if you aren't ready to date or be in a relationship be honest with yourself and the person that is interested in you. I always hated the "I will call you" game when my gut instinct is saying "no you won't". I would rather he say; I am just not into you. I can respect that more than making false promises. What a perfect world it would be if we could all be honest with each other but we don't live in a perfect world.

Yes, navygirl, I agree. I hate it when people say they will call and won't or don't.

I am sure a lot of ladies feel that way.

Honestly The guy didn't have as good of time as you. But I have noticed a lot of guys lie on certain subjects. Because they want to say what they think you want to hear.