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My take on this is that women who are obese aren't going to be able to pick up men just based on their looks. Same goes for the opposite sex. If a man is obese he's going to have a harder time picking up women. It's our genetics that truly speak to us when it comes to looks. When the conversation starts that maybe where the true attraction comes into play. The male or female may like the personality of the person in question, and may even go on a few dates with the obese counterpart to know them further. In which case the obesity is eventually obsolete and the physical attraction is a mute point. Now if your asking from a sexual point of view, I would then likely point out that obese individuals have typically shown a slower sex drive than one who is fit. Also, even though this is clich� and I hate this statement its one that fits almost any category: One who is obese typically has problems looking in the mirror with enough self confidence to look at themselves and say to themselves. "You are awesome, you know what you are doing, your sexy regardless of what others may think, and you are the best because of your big heart." Thus, rendering themselves in an emotional state of mind of thinking they are not good enough for other people and losing the self confidence they need to get out there and meet interesting individuals. All of this is my personal opinion. In no way of shape or form is this some attack on anyone. Just personal observations and conversations with individuals I have met in life and friends of mine that have been or are obese. So, skinny people have a higher sex drive than fat people? Huh, interesting. Clearly someone does not get laid that often to make such ridiculous comments. 
yup that's hilarious. Only because its true. You see my wife has gained weight after my father in law passed away leaving our marriage where my wife thinks I'm no longer attracted to her thus hurting our marriage that much more. But I'm happy to hear that I can still say that your right. I haven't been laid in a while. Thanks.
Well as her husband, call her sexy instead of by her name, tell her how beautiful she is and how you love to cuddle with her, tell her that you are turned on by her curves that they are sexy. Unless you no longer find her attractive, than maybe her dads passing is a scapegoat. (Maybe not, maybe so) just speculation. 
Well first you left out that I said "typically" in your last statement and making it sound to everyone that I think that every individual that is obese doesn't have a sex drive. Love that. Second, I actually do those things and the replies she gives me is ********, your a liar you think I'm fat, why would you want to have sex with me when you look the way you do, etc. etc. etc. Now if you actually knew me and what I've been through for the past 2-3 years, you would actually be open minded rather than thinking that my observations and scientific facts are based on some type of delusion of being skinny. God bless, trying to randomly reach out after 3 years of literally hiding away from society and this is what happens. Whatever, I apologize if these random statements offended anyone in particular. |
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My take on this is that women who are obese aren't going to be able to pick up men just based on their looks. Same goes for the opposite sex. If a man is obese he's going to have a harder time picking up women. It's our genetics that truly speak to us when it comes to looks. When the conversation starts that maybe where the true attraction comes into play. The male or female may like the personality of the person in question, and may even go on a few dates with the obese counterpart to know them further. In which case the obesity is eventually obsolete and the physical attraction is a mute point. Now if your asking from a sexual point of view, I would then likely point out that obese individuals have typically shown a slower sex drive than one who is fit. Also, even though this is clich� and I hate this statement its one that fits almost any category: One who is obese typically has problems looking in the mirror with enough self confidence to look at themselves and say to themselves. "You are awesome, you know what you are doing, your sexy regardless of what others may think, and you are the best because of your big heart." Thus, rendering themselves in an emotional state of mind of thinking they are not good enough for other people and losing the self confidence they need to get out there and meet interesting individuals. All of this is my personal opinion. In no way of shape or form is this some attack on anyone. Just personal observations and conversations with individuals I have met in life and friends of mine that have been or are obese. So, skinny people have a higher sex drive than fat people? Huh, interesting. Clearly someone does not get laid that often to make such ridiculous comments.
yup that's hilarious. Only because its true. You see my wife has gained weight after my father in law passed away leaving our marriage where my wife thinks I'm no longer attracted to her thus hurting our marriage that much more. But I'm happy to hear that I can still say that your right. I haven't been laid in a while. Thanks.
Well as her husband, call her sexy instead of by her name, tell her how beautiful she is and how you love to cuddle with her, tell her that you are turned on by her curves that they are sexy. Unless you no longer find her attractive, than maybe her dads passing is a scapegoat. (Maybe not, maybe so) just speculation.
Well first you left out that I said "typically" in your last statement and making it sound to everyone that I think that every individual that is obese doesn't have a sex drive. Love that. Second, I actually do those things and the replies she gives me is ********, your a liar you think I'm fat, why would you want to have sex with me when you look the way you do, etc. etc. etc. Now if you actually knew me and what I've been through for the past 2-3 years, you would actually be open minded rather than thinking that my observations and scientific facts are based on some type of delusion of being skinny. God bless, trying to randomly reach out after 3 years of literally hiding away from society and this is what happens. Whatever, I apologize if these random statements offended anyone in particular. I'm not offended or mad at you, but I am merely having a conversation, you just said, " your scientific facts" when in fact your statistics "I feel, in my own opinion, are incorrect" I could be wrong because I personally never did a scientific study on it. I'm just a sociology major. Therefore I know little about human emotion and society. 
And you are welcome to reach out here. I'm not here to argue or put anyone down. I disagree that heavy people have slower sex drives. Sex drive is mental not physical. Now having actual sex is physical, but the drive to have sex comes from ones state of mind. Just saying, we all get horny...we just don't all get laid. And I'm not referring to you. I'm referring to anyone who doesn't get laid but is very horny because their sex drive, which I believe is unrelated to their personal weight issues. Don't go, it's fun to debate, it's healthy. |
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I agree with your mental argument from the perspective of the female. From a perspective from the male though, you can have the mind to have sex, but if you don't have blood flow, your in trouble.
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I'm not even talking personality... I'm at the point where I'm thinking I don't ****ing care if you have the personality of a rocking chair, 30 kilos overweight, and a weird face... I just want someone who is capable of genuinely loving me, without any mercantile basis on the relationship. That includes physique, looks, work, wealth, transport, perceived(or real) notions of power, etc, etc etc... And if anyone thinks I'm full of ****, come hit me up if you're within 30 klicks of me, we'll have coffee. I have to wonder how you can disregard personality at all. You'd just be happy if someone loved you, even if they had a horrible personality? Yes, because I value genuineness far more than how likable you are at parties. "Psychol the sum total of all the behavioural and mental characteristics by means of which an individual is recognized as being unique" You can have all the personality in the world and still be a fickle, worthless defective. |
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Edited by
Valcronis
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Wed 09/11/13 11:28 PM
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"I just want someone who is capable of genuinely loving me". Why can't you love yourself, and then find someone you are happy with who is compatible with who you are as an individual?
Just curious, because I don't think someone with the personality of a rocking chair is going to be good for you. All that swinging back and forth with the personality. Bi-polarism I believe its called. That's hard work. You sure you would want that person to love you? Or would you really be ok with a stalker for a relationship partner who becomes so dependent on you that if you even mention hanging out with friends she accuses you of doing something horrible, and then gets even more frustrated and comes at you with some weapon bent on the thoughts of if I can't have you, no one can have you mwahahaha. Just putting some spin on this one. |
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I agree with your mental argument from the perspective of the female. From a perspective from the male though, you can have the mind to have sex, but if you don't have blood flow, your in trouble. That's true but sex drive and have sex are different. Sex may not be as exciting or (vigorous) due to lack of energy, but the need to have sex and the sex drive which produces physical changes in the genitals is mental. Whether or not a person can climax is based on their physical willingness to participate and endure the length of time in which it takes to reach that climax. It could be some men can not reach that climax because they are not turned on physically by their partner, but a woman's weight does not affect her desires or wants, or needs, to have that physical relationship. Some skinny chicks have beat up faces which also makes it hard for a male to get aroused. It's not a weight issue it's an ugliness issue. |
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Edited by
2KidsMom
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Thu 09/12/13 10:04 AM
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Im sooooooo confused......and I am sooooo Not reading all that...
so ya or na....I can be curvy..chunky..fat whatever...or not???
oh I read something...about sex.....hell yes..I still desire sex  
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Right right!
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Im sooooooo confused......and I am sooooo Not reading all that... so ya or na....I can be curvy..chunky..fat whatever...or not???
oh I read something...about sex.....hell yes..I still desire sex
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Lol.
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Sure they do, but they don't like sloppy women who don't take care of themselves. I notice a lot of women complaining about men not wanting bigger gals but when I look at their pictures they look like they just rolled out of bed. Ladies don't let your size be an excuse to let yourself go in other ways. Couldn't have said it better than that. They also tend to have more to talk about since they don't focus too much on their looks. |
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My take on this is that women who are obese aren't going to be able to pick up men just based on their looks. Same goes for the opposite sex. If a man is obese he's going to have a harder time picking up women. It's our genetics that truly speak to us when it comes to looks. When the conversation starts that maybe where the true attraction comes into play. The male or female may like the personality of the person in question, and may even go on a few dates with the obese counterpart to know them further. In which case the obesity is eventually obsolete and the physical attraction is a mute point. Now if your asking from a sexual point of view, I would then likely point out that obese individuals have typically shown a slower sex drive than one who is fit. Also, even though this is clich� and I hate this statement its one that fits almost any category: One who is obese typically has problems looking in the mirror with enough self confidence to look at themselves and say to themselves. "You are awesome, you know what you are doing, your sexy regardless of what others may think, and you are the best because of your big heart." Thus, rendering themselves in an emotional state of mind of thinking they are not good enough for other people and losing the self confidence they need to get out there and meet interesting individuals. All of this is my personal opinion. In no way of shape or form is this some attack on anyone. Just personal observations and conversations with individuals I have met in life and friends of mine that have been or are obese. So, skinny people have a higher sex drive than fat people? Huh, interesting. Clearly someone does not get laid that often to make such ridiculous comments.
yup that's hilarious. Only because its true. You see my wife has gained weight after my father in law passed away leaving our marriage where my wife thinks I'm no longer attracted to her thus hurting our marriage that much more. But I'm happy to hear that I can still say that your right. I haven't been laid in a while. Thanks.
And there's the explanation as to why you believe skinny people have a higher sex drive. Just because you were with someone who lost their sex drive as they gained weight does not mean everyone who isn't skinny will have a low sex drive. |
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I THINK SIZE DOES NOT COME IN HERE AS LONG THERE IS LOVE RIGHT???
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I'm not even talking personality... I'm at the point where I'm thinking I don't ****ing care if you have the personality of a rocking chair, 30 kilos overweight, and a weird face... I just want someone who is capable of genuinely loving me, without any mercantile basis on the relationship. That includes physique, looks, work, wealth, transport, perceived(or real) notions of power, etc, etc etc... And if anyone thinks I'm full of ****, come hit me up if you're within 30 klicks of me, we'll have coffee. I have to wonder how you can disregard personality at all. You'd just be happy if someone loved you, even if they had a horrible personality? Yes, because I value genuineness far more than how likable you are at parties. "Psychol the sum total of all the behavioural and mental characteristics by means of which an individual is recognized as being unique" You can have all the personality in the world and still be a fickle, worthless defective. If someone was incredibly angry and mean all the time, you'd be fine with that as long as they're genuine about being mean? Yeah, doesn't sound like someone I'd spend much time with. |
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Edited by
Simonedemidova
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Thu 09/12/13 10:46 PM
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It would be very hard to " LOVE "anyone who didnt f-ing care.
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totally agree... being a little big or alot big or totally in shape it all depends on how you take care of yourself and how you feel about yourself
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totally agree... being a little big or alot big or totally in shape it all depends on how you take care of yourself and how you feel about yourself
Very true! Welcome to mingle! 
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Edited by
KinBarrie
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Fri 09/13/13 09:43 PM
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Of course we do!
Just as long as they're not fatsos.
Just kidding ladies! 
What about male fatsos or guys like myself who have a little weight packed on? How repulsed are you by that? I personally prefer women with a little meat. If it's ground beef, even better! 
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Big women rock
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