Both sexes are exactly the same in that regard. Fit
people won't likely be attracted to a person who is
obese. If you're a heavy person, expect to attract
another who is heavy.

Although, there are exceptions. A friend of mine loves
big women. Bigger the better with him.

I don't mind a plus size chic. You have to smell good, cook and like to have amazing sex twice a day to keep me interested

Exactly what good is a tiny asz who can't cook, think, or understand the conversation....especially if they aren't frisky then what good is that body anyways.

Am I seriously the only person here who thinks *who* someone is as opposed to *how* they are transcends really anything else?

You're not the only one, we all have different opinions. Wed like to think personality is worth more but it's not, it's only a factor of the whole package. Some people like different package sizes.

My man is not the perfect build, he's hot though and he's totally packing, plus he has dimples and an adorable face.

I'm not even talking personality... I'm at the point where I'm thinking I don't ****ing care if you have the personality of a rocking chair, 30 kilos overweight, and a weird face...

I just want someone who is capable of genuinely loving me, without any mercantile basis on the relationship. That includes physique, looks, work, wealth, transport, perceived(or real) notions of power, etc, etc etc...

And if anyone thinks I'm full of ****, come hit me up if you're within 30 klicks of me, we'll have coffee.

We all want to be loved, by someone we also love too. If you can't laugh with your partner, then what's the point of love anyway?

My take on this is that women who are obese aren't going to be able to pick up men just based on their looks. Same goes for the opposite sex. If a man is obese he's going to have a harder time picking up women. It's our genetics that truly speak to us when it comes to looks. When the conversation starts that maybe where the true attraction comes into play. The male or female may like the personality of the person in question, and may even go on a few dates with the obese counterpart to know them further. In which case the obesity is eventually obsolete and the physical attraction is a mute point.

Now if your asking from a sexual point of view, I would then likely point out that obese individuals have typically shown a slower sex drive than one who is fit. Also, even though this is clich� and I hate this statement its one that fits almost any category: One who is obese typically has problems looking in the mirror with enough self confidence to look at themselves and say to themselves. "You are awesome, you know what you are doing, your sexy regardless of what others may think, and you are the best because of your big heart." Thus, rendering themselves in an emotional state of mind of thinking they are not good enough for other people and losing the self confidence they need to get out there and meet interesting individuals.

All of this is my personal opinion. In no way of shape or form is this some attack on anyone. Just personal observations and conversations with individuals I have met in life and friends of mine that have been or are obese.

...Where is the segway for laughing?
Also, people with rocking-chair personalities still have humor in them, you just don't know because they're chairs.

But maybe, you might see them smirk out of the corner of your eye.
Anyway I got **** to do, goodnight! Gave a good day tomorrow(whoever reads this).

The part where you say you don't care if they have the personality of a rocking chair? I'm saying a guy who is hotter than hell or not totally hot, either way a personality must be present and laughter, humor is a huge part of a good personality in order for me to even like them, if we can't laugh together then there is no relationship, regardless of looks. When you love someone, there is something that draws you to them be it looks or personality but something draws people together, and if you expect someone to love you while you could care less about them....as long as they love you, then you will never find true love and never feel satisfied by their love. Two people have to love each other and if you don't care about them how can they love you?

I have to wonder how you can disregard personality at all. You'd just be happy if someone loved you, even if they had a horrible personality?

So, skinny people have a higher sex drive than fat people? Huh, interesting.

Clearly someone does not get laid that often to make such ridiculous comments.

Some guys dig some parts of fat girls i'm sure...
I don't mind if they are not "Skinny"
But i'm not into really BIG ones ...

Actually sex drive is based on several different factors. One of which is blood cell count and where the blood travels. It's why I mentioned typically. "skinny people" may have a lower sex drive due to physical inactivity, but a higher metabolism due to his or her age, compared to an individual who is obese who is actually running and being fit. If you were to compare the two situations then obviously the obese individual would have a higher blood cell count and a higher blood pressure situation that goes to the extremities of the body. As well as how active the brain is during sexual arousal. This makes it to where the obese individual ends up with the higher sex drive than his or her mate.

Also mentality also plays a role in sexual drive. Whether or not an individual is even up to the task.

Another factor is Genetics. Some individuals have genetics that help the metabolic rate stay at a higher rate thus rendering them capable of eating more than they should even without burning off the calories. Some individuals that are obese may also have genetic situations that inhibit weight gain, which typically occurs because their metabolic rate slows down.

I mention typically, due to personal experience with individuals I have known and talked to. It's not supposed to be a reference to anyone else, especially individuals whom I do not know.

Everyone in this thread should take a homework assignment and watch some plus size porn. I bet you be surprised to see what skills people have and how energetic they can be.

yup that's hilarious. Only because its true. You see my wife has gained weight after my father in law passed away leaving our marriage where my wife thinks I'm no longer attracted to her thus hurting our marriage that much more. But I'm happy to hear that I can still say that your right. I haven't been laid in a while. Thanks.

It is hilarious, because you said a woman who is obese has a slower sex drive...and doesn't look at herself in the mirror. There are a lot of very promiscuous women out there who aren't built like models but get turned on as much as the next person. Now they may not want to be on top all the time or as often as someone thinner but that's energy not sex drive.

Well as her husband, call her sexy instead of by her name, tell her how beautiful she is and how you love to cuddle with her, tell her that you are turned on by her curves that they are sexy. Unless you no longer find her attractive, than maybe her dads passing is a scapegoat. (Maybe not, maybe so) just speculation.