This may sound like a silly question but why can't people stay crazy inlove for long, and why shud the first few months always be the best and most romantic...then further down the line things start drying up and the next thing you know other things take more preference. maybe im being unreal and thats just how life is....but id want everyday to count with the person im with.

The feeling doesnt have to fade away or die out, it can last forever but you have to work on it and make it happen, but sometimes it can happen naturally :)

If it doesn't last it wasn't really love- JMO

no no its not you! this happens evey time,its because they're garbage flowers
its just like a flowing stage its will become beautiful then will deplete &wither
away to an unrecognizable stain on the concrete.
like a flower, it cycles and blooms again

so enjoy your flowers while they last

and so" castles made of sand...slip into the sea eventually"

I don't agree a couple of comments. Maybe it's just me!

I don't think the "honeymoon phase" as many call it, just happens naturally after a period of time.
And I don't think if it doesn't last, then it wasn't real love!

I believe it takes both people to be committed to each other and to always be looking for little tiny things/ways to show their love. I believe we all get caught up in the mundane day to day and soon thereafter, we seem to take everything for granted - our partner, our health, our jobs, our freedom, etc. etc.

We do not learn from our good times but from events and experiences that affect us deeply and unfortunately negatively. It's during those struggles that we realize what we have or had and it all seemed so comfortable and easy and that's when we took everything for granted including that special someone in our lives.

My grandma was an amazing woman. She believed that for love to continue to grow and flourish, both of you need to put some logs into the fire each and every day. Logs are the small acts of love that brings a smile to your partner. I've never forgotten her advice. Grandpa always said he married the best woman in the world! He also would proudly tell everyone, repeatedly, that he was the only man he knew that went to bed with a brunette and woke up to a redhead! (Hair dye had just hit the small town drugstore! TeeHee!)

Being in love means you care for them in spite of seeing their "defects" and the fading of the "honeymoon phase."

It depends on how long "both" of you work at the relationship. When either of you start feeling to comfortable you start taking the other for granted and the "honeymoon" is over.

Love is evolutionary.
The hope, fear and starry eyes fade to better things
not so hard on the system.
Like devotion, deep affection, reciprocal empathy
and the desire to maintain.

Ups, downs, sideways can bring you closer, or tear you apart.
Shared commitment can get you through.

But to think you can maintain that 'falling in love' status
forever is for those who have not done so yet methinks.

The body simply cannot sustain that high level of hormones
and angst.

The honeymoon stage is like a fantasy.We overlook flaws and short comings and when that chemical in the brain settles down..we begin to open our eyes to reality.

I think personally that the honeymoon stage wears off as its all new and exciting but once you get to really know that person; the reality sets in and that is just a fact of life. Of course sometimes other things in life do take precedence; like kids, work, home maintenance, night school, etc. We all have responsibilities outside of relationships and yes sometimes romance has to take a back seat. I think as you age; you are more realistic. My friend has been married for 27 years and although the couple is not crazy in love anymore; they still do love each other.

oh about 15 minutes............

That feeling of falling in love is a very intoxicating chemical cocktail that your brain produces to increase feelings of pleasure, joy and bonding. Like any drug, however, we become used to it and it no longer produces the same reaction.

It is that chemical reaction that makes us minimize things that later drive us nuts or makes us overlook things that become blatantly obvious later. But it is also the very thing that produces excitement and butterflies, etc.

There are many that would argue that the realness of love cannot begin until that manic intoxicating phase has died down.

How long does that take? It is different for anyone. We can keep those feelings alive though by nurturing and encouraging the sexual polarity in the relationship. Often couples homogenize as they are together ... they become alike. It can be a definite sexual attraction killer.

If you can maintain polarities of masculine - feminine the result is higher sexual attraction. I am not speaking of gender here. Even in same sex couples, one usually exhibits what would be considered more feminine traits or more masculine ones. Yes we all have both but we can show up more one way or another.

Women typically have to adopt a lot of masculine traits in the workplace. What happens if they don't slip back into their femininity when she gets home? Either the man has to move more into his feminine aspects or you end up losing sexual attraction with both of you hanging out in your maleness.

So men, if you want to keep it spicy for years to come, help your woman slip back into her feminine self. She'll feel way more sexy, sultry and seductive so it is a win-win!

And ladies, anything you can do to make your men feel like men will go a long way to fostering those loving feelings.

I agree with alot of you here but mostly quizee, i understood every word you sad and it really got me thinking....i do believe it takes hard work and that feeling doesnt have to fade no matter what life throws at you

Let me give you some advice. If you feel unsure, it ain't happening.

Maybe I'm the odd one out for saying this, but I can't fall for someone until I meet them offline. Online is just arranging and chatting. If I genuinely feel something for them, I'll keep it flowing till we actually meet. I've never liked the term "Honeymoon Phase", but then again of course not, because I take my relationships slowly. I have to be sure of them first.

true love lasts until the first time she fakes an orgasm




then she's dead to me

I think it can and should last forever you both need to work at it and communicate and always try new things spice it up in and out of the bedroom

The initial honeymoon period doesn't last forever but after the oxytocin wears off, your love can develop into something deeper and more meaningful...the infatuation (limerence) ends but if it's real love it should be replaced by true deep understanding and a sense of belonging. The trick is if both people can accept never feeling infatuation/limerence again for the rest of their lives. Some people can't accept that. I think couples can deal with that problem together if they have a game plan going in. Some people choose polyamory.

I think those feelings won't leave IF you both work
on the relationship. Nothing is going to last forever
unless you both want it to. IF you both put some effort
in to keeping the relationship fresh and new, it will
pay off in the end.

Theres alot of truth in the last few posts...thanks alot guys