A marriage contract, is not like building a house contract.
It says to keep thyself only to that person, forsaking all others.

It says for richer or for poorer too yet the number one reason for divorce.is money,how many of you would have married if you knew the sex would be gone in 10 or so years be honest here

I don't believe sex just disappears...I think it becomes tired or neglected. It takes two to tango, but also takes two to neglect a sexual relationship. I believe there is always a way to bring the spark back. I think people are just stimulated by different things at different times. If they work at figuring that out together, they'll find their way back.

If not, theres always strip Twister.

I LOVE it when Cyndi talks dirty...

And it's not even game night yet.

Depends on what you are wanting to trust them with.

not really sure by what you mean when you say it doesn't have to be anybody fault'
If you do the cheating its your fault .
Other problems should and can be addressed without cheating.

if it is an otherwise strong relationship,, id work it out and forgive,,if the repentance was TRUE and there was no repeat

if it was a repetitive habit,, the forgiveness would remain, but i would not,,,thats playing games with my life,,which i cant accept,,,,

This is actually acceptable to me(not that you need validation from me). What I mean though, is, this was not the situation in my case. The games; now that was unacceptable. I just tend not to look back when I've made a decision. Such as the decision to divorce. Good riddance to bad garbage.

Im a little suprised at how judgmental people are, my wife had an affair and we just dealt with it if she had another we could deal with it again, it's not the middle Ages folks, we don't burn witches

It is the problem of people's egos.

(How dare she cheat on ME!)

And young people are such drama queens.

waaa! he doesn't love me!

waaa my life is over.

Such drama.

Get over it.

And people shouldn't make promises the can't keep anyway.

We all see things differently and there's nothing wrong with that. I will judge a man who defiles my love and respect that way and you will judge me for feeling that way. It's all good.

with the cute guy next door? or is that a contract vio ???

So, we shall not judge cheaters but we'll judge those who have strong feelings about their spouse's infidelity. Victimizing the victim much?
Call me a drama queen if you like, it doesn't change the fact that I chose to end the drama that goes with a love triangle, immediately. It doesn't matter that she doesn't love me because I don't love her anymore. I HONORED MY VOWS, but I agree, people shouldn't make promises they don't intend to keep anyway.

so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was.

'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow

I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow



HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS

You can forgive but not forget
So yea it'd be over right there
Trust is gone and it ain't coming back
Best to say adios

I agree. It all depends on the circumstances. People make mistakes
and it is possible to forgive and rebuild trust. If the original
bond is strong enough, mutual respect, kids, genuine repentance,
demonstration of committment etc. An incident of infidelity does
not have to mean the dissolution of a marriage or a family.

It is an indication of a serious problem with the relationship and
should be dealt with accordingly. Sometimes the relationship can
be repaired (with considerable effort) and sometimes it cannot.

when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise).

so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on

chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain

Love and cheating should not even be said in the same breath.
It's like fire and ice.,they simply don't go together harmoniously.