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You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was. 'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise). so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain Chances are as a spouse you could have let me know that I was contributing to the failure of our marriage, not go around screwing the whole town. |
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You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was. 'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise). so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain Chances are as a spouse you could have let me know that I was contributing to the failure of our marriage, not go around screwing the whole town. |
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Love and cheating should not even be said in the same breath. It's like fire and ice.,they simply don't go together harmoniously. |
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Hi I think he is ri8 but sex is important not more den feelings....
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I don't believe sex just disappears...I think it becomes tired or neglected. It takes two to tango, but also takes two to neglect a sexual relationship. I believe there is always a way to bring the spark back. I think people are just stimulated by different things at different times. If they work at figuring that out together, they'll find their way back. If not, theres always strip Twister.  with the cute guy next door? or is that a contract vio ??? I would consider strip Twister a contractual perk only. The guy next door will just have to play wiff himself I guess. 
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i have a husband and he always cheated on me. its really hurt. now i hope i can move
on. its good that we dont have kids. |
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Love and cheating should not even be said in the same breath. It's like fire and ice.,they simply don't go together harmoniously. you took those words from my mouth was going to say love and cheating should not be used in the same sentence if you cheat on someone you cant possibly live him/her |
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Edited by
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Thu 07/11/13 07:35 AM
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Im a little suprised at how judgmental people are, my wife had an affair and we just dealt with it if she had another we could deal with it again, it's not the middle Ages folks, we don't burn witches burning witches? you are right, its not the middle ages,, there is forgiveness, but that is different from sticking around I commend those who work it out,, but it is NOT the middle ages,, it is a lot harder to take care of children,, villages don't want to raise them,,,, jobs are often scarce and sexual disease is rampant ,,,I have no judgment against those who are not willing to take that risk with their lives,,,,,or the lives of potential children in the relationship,,, or with those who just require a bit more 'respect' of their vows fidelity is in there,, and anyone who is a repetitive offender, to me, must not take it very seriously,,, |
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Good point :)
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Some married men live with cheaters for years and years, the man is also a cheater, so now you have both spouses cheating on each other. Usually that all comes to a divorce or a separation at some point with Most couples. It is all about Choices. What you can deal with, and what You Choose to not accept in any marriage. Really that is not a marriage but a MESS.
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Here. Here to honest opinions :)
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Don't accept any blame for what happened, if you can't live with the situation life is short move on and enjoy it
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its so difficult not to cheat when your a guy,i mean there are too many ladies to tempt you!
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not every person can sustain a relationship,,,,focus on and appreciate those non sexua relationship you have
like family and friends,,,that really can be enough,, if you havent the control to be monogamous,,, |
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You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was. 'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise). so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jtpe6_2nCts 
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Edited by
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You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was. 'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise). so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain Chances are as a spouse you could have let me know that I was contributing to the failure of our marriage, not go around screwing the whole town. well since I was not your spouse, that is something I would not be doing abd if you reread the thread you will see that I was not talking to you in the first place. are u really sure that with this much bitterness you are actually ready to date? my opinion is nay. so this site is a really great start to meet some new good women but the negativity you show here is bound to drive them away until u learn to temper it you can just keep retorting with further negativity or you can decide that a friend from mingle (me) might have a few helpful ideas to consider. that is certainly your choice....if u don't want comments and opinons from posters than do not post in the public threads with your story. (that was actually not your story) now I'm confused. |
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Im a little suprised at how judgmental people are, my wife had an affair and we just dealt with it if she had another we could deal with it again, it's not the middle Ages folks, we don't burn witches cheating should have consequences. having your partner leave you, is one of them. i don't see the inability to live with someone who did that to you, judgmental. i certainly hope your wife honors you going forward otherwise you could be doing a lot of deals. i can't help but be reminded though of "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me". good luck to you. |
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i have a husband and he always cheated on me. its really hurt. now i hope i can move on. its good that we dont have kids. sorry that would hurt  very best |
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You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was. 'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise). so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain Chances are as a spouse you could have let me know that I was contributing to the failure of our marriage, not go around screwing the whole town. well since I was not your spouse, that is something I would not be doing abd if you reread the thread you will see that I was not talking to you in the first place. are u really sure that with this much bitterness you are actually ready to date? my opinion is nay. so this site is a really great start to meet some new good women but the negativity you show here is bound to drive them away until u learn to temper it you can just keep retorting with further negativity or you can decide that a friend from mingle (me) might have a few helpful ideas to consider. that is certainly your choice....if u don't want comments and opinons from posters than do not post in the public threads with your story. (that was actually not your story) now I'm confused. On other issues: I may be hard-tempered in some ways. On many issues I will not bend. I am confused as well pertaining to my story. Enlighten me. As far as dating is concerned I have no idea what's going on there. If I am never again prepared to date that suits me just fine. I will say this: I will take my share of the blame if a few good women will take their share of blame in this game we call mingling. I will choose to listen to your ideas. A peace offering.
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You can love someone,but if there is no sex or passion or work takes up all their time and energy,lets be real its just sex ,just be safe so so true and I know as this is what my wife did to me. How many of you have heard the term addicted to love or Romance? I know you have herd of it as in sex but the other two are just as selfish and relationship destroying also! My two ex's were and are selfish, lairs, and promise breakers of each flavor in this. I just was to slow in learning about it and my part in it but I have my education now! but to go back and answer the OP. it all depends I think on the people , how and why it went down. How and what part each person played or was it the doings of only one as in my case. how long also. My self I could have at first but the longer it went on the less likely that became, until it was. 'll go find a gal that wants to treat me right You go get yourself a man that wants to fight I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow I'm a-gonna do some riding on the midnight train I'm taking everything except my ball and chain I'm leaving now, I'm leaving now I'm a long gone daddy, I don't need you anyhow HANK WILLIAMS - I'M A LONG GONE DADDY LYRICS when we see that much ex bashing it actually reflects more poorly on you, really. Men can also have pretty large egos, like Jeanne said, they think how dare she cheat on me!! Because in many cultures, rural America being one of them, a man is often judged by whether he can "keep his woman in line." So there is a tendency to exaggerate or bash her or throw out a buncha random insults to place blame on here. it simply relfects back not so much on her but simply on how deeply you were hurt. just about eveyone lies at some point including men who have been cheated on so to try to bash by saying she lied is weak....you have probably lied at times also. and calling her a cheater? apparently she was, but so are many others and I bet in the right circumstances you would at least think about (I wouldn't believe you if u said otherwise). so all in all I think Slow has the best perspective - do not sully your own image by ex bashing - rather see the infidelitiy as a symptom that the relationship was not working and move on chances are you were in some ways contributing to the failure of the relationship also, that is almost certain Chances are as a spouse you could have let me know that I was contributing to the failure of our marriage, not go around screwing the whole town. well since I was not your spouse, that is something I would not be doing abd if you reread the thread you will see that I was not talking to you in the first place. are u really sure that with this much bitterness you are actually ready to date? my opinion is nay. so this site is a really great start to meet some new good women but the negativity you show here is bound to drive them away until u learn to temper it you can just keep retorting with further negativity or you can decide that a friend from mingle (me) might have a few helpful ideas to consider. that is certainly your choice....if u don't want comments and opinons from posters than do not post in the public threads with your story. (that was actually not your story) now I'm confused. On other issues: I may be hard-tempered in some ways. On many issues I will not bend. I am confused as well pertaining to my story. Enlighten me. As far as dating is concerned I have no idea what's going on there. If I am never again prepared to date that suits me just fine. I will say this: I will take my share of the blame if a few good women will take their share of blame in this game we call mingling. I will choose to listen to your ideas. A peace offering. well the story I was responding to was the one that was below your original post so I was a little confused until I saw that you had posted just above a very similar story. I guess in the long and short of it, I see life as a collection of choices. Is the glass half empty or half full?, do we move on or do we wallow in anger? choosing to let go of anger does not mean that you are not, and were not, fully entitled to be angry. From the story you told as your first post on the thread, you prolly have every right to be angry. Consider, however, who benefits from you hanging onto your anger? prolly no one. Ah, but who benefits from you letting go of your anger? you do/will immensely in both physical symptoms, social connections and inner peace. I was once even angrier than you are, I think. To keep the story brief I chose at one point to become...just to become and it has been the most interesting journey all my life I had been an attachment to someone else a daughter, a girlfriend, fiance, wife, a mother. those are all wonderful things to be, but I had never been ME do not look for what you seek, is what I learned...become what you seek and others will be there with like minds :) thank you for the peace offerring, it was always there, silly :) Namaste
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