I was married to who i thought was my soulmate for 15 years. In my eyes we were really happy. Never fought very affectionate. We were one of those couples other couples hated then he came home one day and said he hadn't been happy for a very long time blindsided me oh and he also cheated on me double blind sid and two weeks later he in with her. I am a very loving person and I have a lot of love to give and I am very scared that when and if the right person does come along I might miss it because I'm going to be worried that he's not telling me the truth because I thought that my husband was for so very long and I didn't see the signs right in front of my face.

You have to learn, and tis very hard, to untrust the ones
who are not worthy, and trust those who follow.

You will forever be wary of the signs now, not a bad thing.
The hardest thing is not assuming they will stray.
Chit happens, sorry for your loss :-(

Tune in those respticals! Just have to take your time and not go with the sweet words but the consistency
Of the words & do the actions match the words.
People that aren't right in my experience will always show major flaws right away.
If she's not been strait with me ill interrogate her til she crys and hates me. I pride myself with been the A-hole in the end.
END OF PROBLEM

lol, well I don't encourage being an Ahole, but I do agree that people need to really take time to get to KNOW someone , their strengths and weaknesses, before proceeding to anything serious....

Absolutely, follow above advise & taking your time should eliminate maybee 95% of the bad apples.

And I'm not an A-hole, I feel like one, but I'm just finishing a game someone else started.

I dont like somebody toying with my emotions !

If you meet me have some courtesy, and some sympathy and some taste,

For all your well earned politics, or i'll lay your sole to waste

Thanks. Yeah i believe i Will always be weary. I just hope i can open my heart again Because i have a big heart.

That does make sence. I've had a few come off way too quick with the sweet talk and saying what they think i want to hear. Just be real!
Lol you sound a little bitter yourself. Interrogate her till she cries dang. Lol

"How can you ever really trust a man is being true"

There are married women who cheat on their husbands.
So, how can you ever really trust a woman as being true?

That is absolutely true. But in MY case it was a man that cheated. So I am just worried if ill be able to trust a man that i let in my life again. Im sure its the same for the the man when the woman cheats. I was just stating my situation.

Well, I have been the one cheated on by an unfaithful wife (now ex-wife).
Yet, I did not mistrust the woman whom I later married (now my late wife).

My question remains. Being that there are married women who cheat on their husbands, how can you ever really trust a woman as being true?

The answer to my question is the same as the answer to the question in this thread's title.

ANY stranger is hard to trust at first, but if you feel you won't be able to trust a man ever again, then maybe dating isn't the right choice. All I'm saying is why bother with men, if you feel negative about them? Not every guy is an a$$wipe. You just happened to be one of those who had a bad experience. If you give yourself time to recover from it, then you may feel more ready to trust, after a few month or whatever. If we go around thinking ALL men will do the same , we might aswell give up. Time is a great thing.

I agree. Being that my ex-wife cheated on me, why shouldn't I believe that all women are untrustworthy?

In short, whether or not a person is trustworthy does not depend on that person's gender.

Very good point! :)

Tinam

Just push your quote button then, some you need too scroll up and write under the last

and if you send it you can just push edit and go back in right away


Lol bitter! WHO ME bitter.

"No sweeping exits or off stage lines, would make me feel bitter,or treat you unkind

No really I was just trying to turn you gay..well your herd of the scared straight tactics that they do for

troubled yourths, ya! right well I do that for woman, such as yourself its could scared gay!serious

Im like the closer pitcher in baseball. But now David has brought forth new evidence that apparently

Woman can now cheat and be deceitful aswell. I guess its not concrete evidence but if I can take your

word a can take his, and besides I've seen him when he's not dressed up in the Alf suite.

So yes someone should be themselves but I was talking latter aswell, like saying "I love you but their

not treating you accordingly, then don't get sucked in to the sweet words.
pony

In my eyes we were really happy. Never fought very affectionate. <<<<---

A very strong clue. A couple who never fights? That's the first clue right there. If your mate never gets upset with you that is a sure sign that he or she just doesn't give a damm.