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Topic: What are men over fifty looking for in a relationship?
nomoreinsanity Joined Fri 11/07/14 Posts: 7	Fri 11/07/14 10:01 AM
what am i looking for hmmm i have to agree to a certain extant that i kind of have a been there done that attitude but i truly believe i missed a lot due to her illness. Am i looking to take care of someone NO am I looking for someone to take care of me NO am i looking for someone i can continue the rest of my life with to meet new and different challenges good and bad with YES. Am i going to provide home clothes money? Well after being taken for everything

nomyys Joined Sat 11/08/14 Posts: 1	Sat 11/08/14 06:03 AM Edited by nomyys on Sat 11/08/14 06:04 AM
Very True @ oldhippie1952

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 11/08/14 06:24 AM
Honestly it has been my experience that men over 50 are looking for women under 50. In general they seem to want someone that will make their x's look less attractive, I guess it just seems to me they are looking for eye candy and not really wanting a relationship of any kind. Most have been burned so bad that they dont want to share anything with anyone else. Correct me if Im wrong tell me if you're the one exception to my generalizing the over 50 male gender.. My experience has been a mixed bag...I know a few men who are exactly as you describe ^^ but I know and meet more who are genuinely interested in the whole package...In fact, many of those who have been burned have developed a deeper appreciation for what's on the inside...

nomoreinsanity Joined Fri 11/07/14 Posts: 7	Mon 11/10/14 11:26 AM
agreed

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Mon 11/10/14 06:10 PM
"What are men over fifty looking for in a relationship?" Maybe companionship? I don't think most men are looking for "young girls" at least that's what I think but I can be wrong! If you're over 50 yrs. old tell us! I would like to see new comments

041961n Joined Sun 11/09/14 Posts: 1	Tue 11/11/14 03:20 AM
I'm just looking for a friend. Someone to talk to, perhaps hike with, go to the movies.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 11/11/14 07:54 AM
Everything & anything, has to start with conversation, then friendship & trust. We are old enough, should be intelligent/experienced enough, to make our further choices with care. Determine the paths we choose to take & use our brain to determine EXACTLY what RISKS we want to take. After that; treat others as YOU WANT TO BE TREATED! Opinion of Old Sage

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Wed 11/12/14 05:19 AM
Everything & anything, has to start with conversation, then friendship & trust. We are old enough, should be intelligent/experienced enough, to make our further choices with care. Determine the paths we choose to take & use our brain to determine EXACTLY what RISKS we want to take. After that; treat others as YOU WANT TO BE TREATED! Opinion of Old Sage Agree with all of the above! At my age, marriage is not my top priority but someone to spend quality time with, do things with, share good and bad times. There are certain places that I just won't go alone and feel I miss out on a lot.

mini1x Joined Sat 11/15/14 Posts: 280	Sun 11/23/14 02:00 PM Edited by mini1x on Sun 11/23/14 02:03 PM
For me, friendship, first and foremost. We all carry our past behind us, so I'm much less inclined to look for emotional attachment beyond friendship right now. Just more cautious, that's all. But the heart has a mind of its own, as they say, and that has proven my undoing more than once. Oh, and young or old is entirely relative. It truly is.

urpartner_50 Joined Tue 11/18/14 Posts: 15	Sat 11/29/14 06:35 AM
Agree with Maria. It's companionship, not with green girls but with approximated equals in age -- mature girls who have a better understanding of life's chances and challenges.

mowildflower Joined Tue 07/27/10 Posts: 892	Thu 12/04/14 03:20 AM
Most guys are looking for someone in their immediate area. Dating after the age fifty, very few, if any, are going to up-root and move even if they found someone that they could get along with, might even be great together and they've dated for a long time because time and distance are major factors. It usually is not going to happen, to be with someone that is not in their immediate area because of jobs, family, homes, cultural back ground, etc...

Raccoongal Joined Sun 11/30/14 Posts: 4	Sun 12/07/14 04:48 AM
Hmmmm i agree with this gentleman...i am tired of supporting men..they need to stand up and be a man i will be the woman!

Yankton Joined Sat 01/10/15 Posts: 2	Sat 01/10/15 12:22 PM
Okay Guys, let's get serious about this subject. How many of you want a woman who will depends on you to provide her with a home, food, clothing, entertainment, etc.? How many of you are willing to relocate, leave behind all that you're invested in so the woman can be near her family? How many of you are looking for a housekeeper, to clean the house, make the bed, fix the meals, do the shopping, the dishes and laundry? Hope that isn't a serious subject! I don't want anyone depending on me I'm wanting you to be able to stand on your own. I believe in equal right that home is going to be 50/50 that's what it will most likely be in a divorce. Relocate across town? (maybe) Across the country? (I don't think so) for her family - NO. Housekeeper - you dirty it you clean it. everything is 50/50. period

alittlebitlonely Joined Wed 03/27/13 Posts: 3	Mon 01/12/15 12:16 PM
Moved away from home spent twenty two years with her but when my dad got sick with cancer I asked her to move with me to be close to my family and her answer was Hell No

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/12/15 05:35 PM
I do not agree that people become inflexible once they reach 50....just the opposite appears to be true. We will have more self knowledge but I see no less willingness to try new things. By 50 most of us have "broken the mold more than once". We know when change and flexibility is important and when it is really not that important.... are usually a pretty good judge of that. We know better than to value change for its own sake. We also have flexibility learned and honed by valuable experience...good at sorting what to keep in the pool of meaning.

kthnxbye Joined Fri 05/14/10 Posts: 112	Mon 01/12/15 05:49 PM
Oh , oh , I know this one! Boobs that don't hang down past her knees?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 01/12/15 09:33 PM
Oh , oh , I know this one! Boobs that don't hang down past her knees? What was the question? You don;t have to wait till 50 for that...lol

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 01/12/15 09:35 PM
Oh , oh , I know this one! Boobs that don't hang down past her knees? You've got moobs, don't you...

kthnxbye Joined Fri 05/14/10 Posts: 112	Tue 01/13/15 12:24 AM Edited by kthnxbye on Tue 01/13/15 12:31 AM
At 5'11" and 175 lbs . , no moobs to be had , not even a manssiere ...I haz a sad now.. At 45 , I lived with a 55 year old redhead that the Good Lord was very kind to when he built her Women over 50 can be very appealing . I , for one , prefer females close to my age , what could I possibly have in common with a 22 year old? And I would suspect her motives would not be that pure to be with a 48 year old .Women can age quite gracefully , I humbly submit Spohia Loren , Raquel Welch , Ann Margaret Taylor for just a few examples

charlief1 Joined Tue 01/06/15 Posts: 23	Tue 01/13/15 12:57 AM
Honestly it has been my experience that men over 50 are looking for women under 50. In general they seem to want someone that will make their x's look less attractive, I guess it just seems to me they are looking for eye candy and not really wanting a relationship of any kind. Most have been burned so bad that they dont want to share anything with anyone else. Correct me if Im wrong tell me if you're the one exception to my generalizing the over 50 male gender.. I don't care what my ex thinks at this point, I do want someone that's younger than I am though. Why? because I have no family to speak of and honestly want 1. I've wanted kids for a long time and God has chosen that I shouldn't have them yet. I've had several serious relationships and all but 1 cheated on me or screwed me over. I'm ashamed to say I did cheat on one, and still regret that to this day. Yes, I do have baggage as well as other issues, and I served in the Army as an MP. I've got PTSD from my service and that may be part of my issues, and no I can't talk about it because it's classified, but I'm still here and haven't gotten lucky so far, thank God. The biggest issue I've found is very few ladies are willing to take the time to actually find out about you and become your friend first. If they're over 30 and not married they are looking for a quick solution, and if they're divorced and over 30, then they're bitter or jaded to some degree. We have a habit of damaging each other to some degree when we're in relationships, and that even includes our families. The sad thing is those of us that are really simple (not minded Leigh)and want nothing more than a simple, uncomplicated relationship, never seem to find it.