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Topic: What are men over fifty looking for in a relationship?
adventureman64 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 37	Wed 10/08/14 09:59 AM
Really? As I understand some of these posts, it sounds to me like some of you guys would be OK with a woman who is not interested in having sex with you. Is that true? There have been a couple of comments on here about sex being the icing on the cake. Personally, I disagree. I can eat cake without icing and it still tastes pretty good. Icing just makes it better. To me, that would be something like having plenty of money. Even without it, you still have "cake." To me, sex, just like intimacy, is one of the key ingredients, like flour or eggs or milk or sugar. Take away the basic ingredients and the cake just isn't good or it falls apart. I look at sex, intimacy, respect and communication as key ingredients. They all have to blend together to make it work. Well, now the women here know you're looking for sex. Maybe if you posted your picture some of them would be interested. Then again, maybe not. If both the man and woman in a relationship agree that sex just isn't that important to them, it doesn't mean their 'cake' is going to fall flat.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/09/14 08:44 AM
For some of u. I was hopin we we're so shallow at this age to be thinkin about sex first. :( Oh; sex isn't the only thing that a guy is shallow about; looks are the other thing. If you aren't pretty or have a model type figure; they won't give you the time of day.

Rollykay1 Joined Thu 08/14/14 Posts: 2	Fri 10/10/14 05:23 AM
not so true. I don' see beauty or a "great figure". what catches me is her smile and what keeps me is her character. Over the years, I have found out that Looks can be very deceitful.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 10/10/14 08:40 AM
not so true. I don' see beauty or a "great figure". what catches me is her smile and what keeps me is her character. Over the years, I have found out that Looks can be very deceitful. I agree that looks can be deceitful but men are still attracted by a woman's looks. He is not attracted by her personality if she isn't pretty enough.

adventureman64 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 37	Fri 10/10/14 10:49 AM
Of course men are attracted to women by their looks, as are women attracted to men by their looks. Without that initial physical attraction, you probably wouldn't bother to find out what their personality was like. The question is, how do you define 'pretty enough', or 'handsome enough.' As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Isn't physical attraction the reason women use all the cosmetic products ? I suspect that most men don't go to the gym just for something to do. They're hoping that bigger muscles and a flatter belly will attract the women ! IMO

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Fri 10/10/14 11:07 AM
Interesting answers and some seem to be honest, too. I'll keep reading.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 10/10/14 11:42 AM
Of course men are attracted to women by their looks, as are women attracted to men by their looks. Without that initial physical attraction, you probably wouldn't bother to find out what their personality was like. The question is, how do you define 'pretty enough', or 'handsome enough.' As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Isn't physical attraction the reason women use all the cosmetic products ? I suspect that most men don't go to the gym just for something to do. They're hoping that bigger muscles and a flatter belly will attract the women ! IMO I totally agree with you the beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I just observed that as we age; we don't look as good as we did when we were 19. I found that men my age expect us women not to age and this is ridiculous. I can't change my looks as they are what they are. I work out but not to attract a man but for health reasons as I like to stay healthy and active. I met men that had some teeth missing; have a beer gut; and some even lack hair and physical attraction certainly wasn't there but I would still take the time to know them. I am a big believer that its not what is on the outside but what is on the inside. I will be honest I am not attracted to good looking men as I found they have a horrible disposition which is a real turn off to me. JMO

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 10/10/14 11:42 AM Edited by navygirl on Fri 10/10/14 11:43 AM


tactile42 Joined Thu 05/12/11 Posts: 2	Thu 10/16/14 12:57 PM
Beauty is within!

tactile42 Joined Thu 05/12/11 Posts: 2	Thu 10/16/14 12:59 PM
Affection

dcastelmissy Joined Thu 08/01/13 Posts: 39633	Thu 10/16/14 06:06 PM
Beauty is within! Only if people remain truthful and completely honest in my opinion; otherwise the truth surfaces eventually!

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Fri 10/17/14 09:09 AM
Affection

chilledout10 Joined Fri 10/19/12 Posts: 1	Fri 10/17/14 01:41 PM
still looking for the perfect piece of a-- at 58 , and yes asian lady this time, great bodys ,

nyx808 Joined Sun 02/06/11 Posts: 74	Fri 10/17/14 05:05 PM
i think i'm just looking in the wrong place :(

Maria195 Joined Fri 10/04/13 Posts: 7361	Fri 10/17/14 05:25 PM
I fell the same way you do^^^

Walker001951 Joined Sun 06/29/14 Posts: 117	Sat 10/18/14 01:24 AM
The problem with dating after fifty is that everyone has history, young people start their adult life with a fresh clean slate, full of hopes and dreams for the future, their attraction and relationship are primarily sex driven, after fifty character and personality have been formed and created by life experiences, not much guess work left to it. After fifty most people have "been there, done that" and have no interest in a replay, they know where they want to live, what they like to eat, what they like to do for entertainment, what movies they enjoy watching, infact, they become "set in their ways” flexiblity and challenges no longer interest them. Topics of conversations is usually about their history, or health problems. The question to men over fifty is, “now that you have experienced many of life challenges what is your vison of a good relationship?” Does not the same question apply to women over fifty?

dd912000 Joined Tue 11/04/14 Posts: 2	Tue 11/04/14 08:21 AM
Honestly it has been my experience that men over 50 are looking for women under 50. In general they seem to want someone that will make their x's look less attractive, I guess it just seems to me they are looking for eye candy and not really wanting a relationship of any kind. Most have been burned so bad that they dont want to share anything with anyone else. Correct me if Im wrong tell me if you're the one exception to my generalizing the over 50 male gender..

dd912000 Joined Tue 11/04/14 Posts: 2	Tue 11/04/14 08:22 AM
This has been my experience too..

ALBYAK Joined Wed 01/27/10 Posts: 283	Tue 11/04/14 02:13 PM Edited by ALBYAK on Tue 11/04/14 02:17 PM
I agree with "adventureman" wholeheartedly. Whatever makes the couple happy, that is the "Icing" Never Married-Never Burnt does that qualify me as an exception, smart, or just a dud? Guess just dumb, that was not the quote I wanted-new to posting here-sorry

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 11/04/14 05:05 PM
Honestly it has been my experience that men over 50 are looking for women under 50. In general they seem to want someone that will make their x's look less attractive, I guess it just seems to me they are looking for eye candy and not really wanting a relationship of any kind. Most have been burned so bad that they dont want to share anything with anyone else. Correct me if Im wrong tell me if you're the one exception to my generalizing the over 50 male gender..