Sorry to hear that,. Areti...

Yes it is possible for one to find love at a distance, Yes, I would know if it was really Love. Many people do not know what Love really is. lol

How would you know if it‘s true love toodygirl?

With me "online dating" is not really my last resort. If I wanted to be in a serious relationship, I would have long ago. I'm not up for that just yet & yes I have met wonderful people here, seeking friendship like I do.

My main reason of joining this site & other sites that i'm a member ofis "the chatt room." I enjoy my own compony & space, more into chatting than verbal conversations. I like interacting with others & see how they think, get their views on issues of life & other matters one may need other peoples' openion.

In short online dating is not my last resort of finding love, however if I do (when ready for something serious) why not, though I'm here so I can meet while interact with my wonderful existing friends.

People are really cool in this site

For me online dating isn't a last resort, but definitely a reasonable option.

My friends and family have very high standards for my mate and have deemed EVERYONE they know not suitable citing reasons ranging from he doesn't make enough money to he has too many kids or too many baby mammas.

Online I have access to a greater number of men as well as men I might not have considered at first glance but whose profile gives me some insight into who they are. It also seems that being online helps to build some people's confidence and you get contact from those who may have never approached you on their own in public.

You just have to be careful and realized that dating is dating and being online is no safer than meeting someone on the street.

I totally understand what happened to Areti, having early on in online dating encountered someone corresponding for a time and then asking for money, fortunately me being me, I told him I don't give my family money and I've known them all of my life he wasn't getting anything but a last IM.

On line dating can work as well as any other option. I have been to 4 weddings in the past 2 years where the couples met online, including my older brother!

Good luck to us all.

Way to go sisygirl! You have got quite some interesting stand on onlinedating.

Thank you mortica, that is very enlightening.

you would have to meet at some point,,the desire for 'long didtance' dis
sipates over time, i guess?!?!!

my take is have met a few folks over last year or so and they have all turned out to be players so not highlym impressed.am happy to make friends.but on hold regards anything else.

yes, i dont consider it a last resort, either. i've had the tremendous pleasure of developing strong friendships, & even some romances, etc,,just because they didnt last doesnt make em less significant cuz we met online

used to think it was odd... however in the world we live in now it is becoming more socially acceptable. I am open to what it may bring.

i am so sorry that happened to you,,alot of ppl online n off, want things from us they shouldnt. try not to let this circumstance harden ur heart cuz their are great ppl not only off line, but online, too!

I suppose, in order to get a reasonable argument on the whole "online dating" topic, I should go with my own experiences since I started.

Sadly, Mingle2.com is NOT my only dating site. I've been on quite a few, including the usual social media such as Facebook and the like. Since I started, however, I've found NOTHING but players and what I like to call "window shoppers." They only browse around on profiles and take peeks, not really committed to finding someone as I am. When I do get in contact with them, there is always some lame, illogical excuse as to why they are not interested. Either I am too short, too black, not rich enough, and the list goes on.

So, as most of you can imagine, my experience in the online dating scene has been nothing short of catastrophic.

Yes, my profile is still on these sites and I'm still giving them chance. The reason is simple, though. I don't want to allow my bad experiences to deter me from finding someone. Even though I am still to this moment getting horrible responses and absolutely nothing from the dating scene, I am still hopeful.

It's never the last resort. Folks do believe these days that one could find love anyway,it must not be around you.

Online dating has a higher degree of difficulty when finding someone you're willing to spend your life with. This is primarily because it's far easier for someone to pretend to be someone they're not and you have almost no possibly way to determine if they're telling the truth or not. You'll find a great many disaster stories because people look to it as a last resort. You should never treat online dating as a last resort. You'll usually be looking for anything, anyone, jump at the first person who even happens to glance your way and want to believe everything that they say. You need to be well prepared for these types of situations just like dating someone offline. Look for signs that they might not be entirely truthful and always take your time with it and don't rush anything. Likewise always be on the look out for scams. If something seems too good (or too horrible) to be true.. odds are it probably is. You need to protect yourself at all times. As long as you don't put blinders on yourself you should be perfectly fine. My current girlfriend is an wonderful woman and she has an adorable daughter. I met her online a while ago and things have been going great for us. So it does work. I wish you the best of luck sir and hope you find someone who ends up being your perfect companion (Yes I'm a Doctor Who fanatic).

be careful

it's the place to get taken in more ways than one ._.

I have done the on-line dating thing for awhile...actually
had someone from New Zealand come here to Indiana and then
I went there. I would never do it again because going out
of the country and being able to move is almost impossible.
Any time a man says they need money..I think they are a
scammer..esp if they say they are widowed and can I please
send it to their children and when they get back to the states
they will pay me back. I will NEVER give money to anyone, I
have my own family.
I do not believe in LDR because you have to put so much into
the relationship and have a lot of trust. Plus you do not get
to spend one on one time with each other so how do you really know?
Sure I went to New Zealand and he came here but how long could
we both afford that?
If someone is local, then that is great...BUT I am not really
looking to date at this time. I have met some great people on here
that is why I am still on here!!

online or long distant dating isn't bad...I believe love can conquer everything..distance can't b a barrier/quagmire..love can be the sweetest thing if u meet with the rite person like a person that love just same as u do 2 them...

Well I do wan online love.. But it's hard to find a good person heh.. I had been in love once with someone for 3 years.. Online.. I still can't get over him 100% .. That's why m trying to find other love

This is my first day here & I'm glad I'm looking around and getting some great advice! Lesson learned today - No money to anyone! Whew!!!