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Topic: is it too much to ask?
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Sun 08/19/07 08:58 PM
I think its called life and life is hard.

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Sun 08/19/07 09:03 PM
i know life is hard, of that i have never questioned.i learned that little tidbit early on.

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Sun 08/19/07 09:08 PM
Me too. So I wonder when it gets easier?

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Sun 08/19/07 09:14 PM
i dunno, i doubt it ever gets easy, but i think it should at least get to where you can deal with it and still have some sanity left. but i guess im wrong for wanting someone with honesty. i swear your damned if you do damned if you dont. with people like they are,, women and men alike, you cant win. when you treat a woman like a lady you get used. when you treat them like crap you get trashed. so what are you supposed to do? just roll over and give up? i dont and cant belive that. i was raised fight for what you want, and never settle for less. if thats wrong, then i guess im wrong.

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Sun 08/19/07 09:20 PM
I want to be truely loved someday

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Sun 08/19/07 09:26 PM
BTW you kids should come first.

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Mon 08/20/07 03:40 AM
I had a guy not willing to make me his gilfriend and it hurts. don't waste her time is all I can say -just be straight up about what you want and don't. Also, men do and have cheated on me and were/are liars and way way worse! its not just women, and not just men, -its just bad poeple and they are everywhwere it sems.

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Mon 08/20/07 07:01 AM
You mentioned that you think you can be bitter "at least a little". How does being bitter benefit you? It doesn't and it will certainly cause problems in a relationship, even if you found the ideal woman you are seeking. Also, you said the only thing you ask is that someone be honest with you. First of all, you're not asking for enough and second, people are under no obligation to be honest with you. You can look for that and have it as a priority in a mate. But here's the beauty of being single...if you don't find what you're looking for, MOVE ON! The other person is under no obligation to be what you want and you're under no obligation to stick around and take their crap. It's just that simple.

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Mon 08/20/07 07:58 AM
Thumper. I know this feeling your going through and I know you know,both men/Women have been through the same thing. Know one knows when it's going to happen but went it does you will know.

Hm, it took a year being on the net to find the young lady i'm with now. One thing I know is that some of us and I have said this before but anyway. We sometimes don't look at the signs that we know this one is not right for us and that is because we tend to get caught up in the excitment of being with somene when we first meet. Knowing that, some of us it's been a while. So we rather not see the signs because we want what we haven't had in a long time so it's easy to fall back into the old patterns. Being on here has open my eyes and to take that time to actuall try to get to know someone before I just into any situation. I like myself today, so why set myself up for something that might be just what we call a quick fix. When I can build a real relationship with someone that is real.

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Mon 08/20/07 07:59 AM
Sorry for the typo

Nervesgone's photo
Mon 08/20/07 08:02 AM
typo...........emahs no uoy!!!

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Mon 08/20/07 08:38 AM
obviously

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Mon 08/20/07 08:44 AM
i'm not looking for a girlfriend either. i'm looking for the last love of my life. someone to grow old with.

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Mon 08/20/07 09:18 AM
1. Have patience...
2. Never give up...
3. When you least exspect it...

Best advice I can give, goodluck!

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Mon 08/20/07 10:07 AM
I think we're ALL in some way.. looking for that LAST GREAT LOVE.. and in my opinion.. 'when you least expect it' won't happen.. cuz in the back of your mind if you TRULY want to find THE ONE.. you're ALWAYS looking.. ohwell

I've been single over 4 years now cuz I put my kids first TOO.. THEY are my first responsibility.. SOME can get that.. others don't want the burden.. but this is NOT just happening with Women.. men have proclaimed in their profiles they're HONEST, SINCERE, CARING and not into DRAMA or BS.. yet have blatantly lied thru their teeth.. shown disregard to anothers attempts at friendliness and flat out igNORED people.. so.. seems the ONLY way to CHANGE this is to step OUT of one's comfort zone and see what ELSE there is in life happy

thus said.. WHO WANTS TO MOVE TO CANADA EH?? bigsmile
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