Dear Sister, I have read all untill the last reply. Now as I come back to your first writing I am thinking differently.
Why do you say: I loved ...? Did you stopp loving him? You are only a nurse?
Hey, why do you think about yourself like that?
First make up your mind if you want to go further with love or not. Only you knows. Nobody can give you advice, because we don't know him!!! Nobody has to live your life except you.

But if you want to continue than you need to change.
Even when he makes you a mouse he will not love being with a mouse. He is not perfect, but you are the woman he loves. Walk with your head up and be proud being the one. Tell him that you are so happy for the baby being a copy of him. If it is not true yet, by saying it you are planting it. Begin to love his soul and make him to understand that you love his inner person. Men don't only want to be loved for being the one bringing the money, being needed as a father and fulfilling your future. They are human beings too and want to be loved deep inside. They are having dreams and fears too. If he feels home in you he will become stronger in life. If you change, dear, you gonna see changes and your future dreams will come true. A woman is the helper of man for helping him to become the man that he wants to be. In sweet moments remember him of his personal dreams and his victories. I tell you, nobody can resist real love for long.
Believe in yourself, be a coach for yourself, make yourself the woman every man would be proud of.
The baby will grow by itself. Now you will need a telefone during your pregnancy. Thats a start, or?! Tell him you need it to protect "the little copy of him" inside of you!
God bless you, dear Sister!
We all will be very proud of you, while you are getting proud of yourself!
Revd. Vera

get a good lawyer. file for support for the child. tell him you are pregnant but he might not believe it's his (or he might ...IDK that much about your relationship), but be prepared to do a paternity test.

He needs to help support the child, and it would be nice if he'd do that voluntarily but that's unlikely to happen, or if he does help at first, it won;t last long-definitely get an attorney.

but you should not go begging for him to take you back. If he does not love you or want you otherwise you both will soon be miserable. You deserve better

I want him to think that it is not just about making money. And our child needs more than financial support. He will need love, guidance, and care also. I know mother's love is the second greatest love next to God's love, but i just want to give our future child a home with a father that cares and loves him.

I want him to think that it is not just about making money. And our child needs more than financial support. He will need love, guidance, and care also. I know mother's love is the second greatest love next to God's love, but i just want to give our future child a home with a father that cares and loves him.

All I have to say is please please please tell this man he is having a child! It's not fair to your child or to this man to keep them apart through omission.

When a woman takes a man's child from him unknowingly, it's kidnapping. So why would a woman keeping a man's child unknown be so different?

CRAP!!! Why would he even put you into submission? He is holding your neck clearly. What im thinking is You had been used. Im sorry for my words.is it just a cellphone or is there something else that lead you to an argument? Weigh the option carefully before you decide. For the sake of your child. Yeah, ask for support.

I am so happy that you talk about God's love, dear!

But first, if his controlling is too much it will make you sick. By trying to pleasing him the "prison" that he put you into will get smaller and smaller and you too. Then it will be better for you to leave him and to protect yourself and the baby.
If you want to continue, just do your part, feed yourself and the baby good. Feed yourself with peace and the baby will be eating that peace too!!! Put your trust in God that He will build this family.
God has not given you a spirit of fear, no! Leave it for God to tell you what to do. He is the Creator of life and love. Lay back in Gods arms and believe in His perfect plan for your life. God bless youuuu!

Believed me. He dumped just because of my cellphone. He thought that i am entertaining people, guys in my cellphone when he was able to speak with all the contacts in my mobi. That's all. It's so unfair!

This. He deserves to know he is the father. What he does with this knowledge is up to him.

If you are able to give it another try, your cell phone will probably not be an issue anymore. You won't have time to chat with anyone once your a Mama.

What do you think you possibly did to make him think this? Or is he just a paranoid type anyway? Not saying you definitely did something. Sometimes we don't read our own body language. I'm certainly not accusing you. Just wondering.

sweet girl, All I hear is a low self esteem and that is no good for this new life you are bringing into the world

I realize you are not my daughter, but if you were, I would say this to you

spend some time not involved with any 'relationship' with this man or any other,, spend time developing the relationship with yourself

discover what makes you a 'well of a woman', what makes you special and worthwhile, because you are

take this time to become a stronger you, all on your own,

and then, you can be stronger together with whomever ends up being lucky enough to have you in their life,,and a stronger, more confident mother to set the examnple for what may be a little girl who emulates and depends on you to define her world,,,

Sounds like he jumps to conclusions quite a lot. So, he hardly likes you to be around ANYONE it seems. I think I'd be having limited contact with him, or have someone with you every time he visits.

Sounds like he jumps to conclusions quite a lot. So, he hardly likes you to be around ANYONE it seems. I think I'd be having limited contact with him, or have someone with you every time he visits.

I'm glad you left the repeat post up Rawrr...it's worth saying twice.

I understand and agree completely, but a home with love is the only way. My advise was simply to consider in the event he tries to wuss out of his responsibility

I do NOT think you should try to "take" him for all he's worth, and you do not seem like someone who would do that

but he does have responsibility to his child!

good luck & bless you

If he has totally abandonded his child then he may not be such a good man after all....

He sounds very controlling. Be the strong woman that you are, and don't go back with him if he treats you like that! You need someone who fully trusts you in all things, and who is trustworthy themselves. If he is that demanding, to that extent, of even your cell phone, wow. There will be other areas of your life he will try to dominate eventually as well.
Please be careful, be truthful with him, but don't run back with him just for the sake of the child. You can work something out if he would like visitation, etc. You need to think highly of yourself girl! Nursing is such a noble profession, and not everyone has the gift or the patience to do it.
You are awesome! Keep letting yourself know that and make decisions that are in YOUR best interest. You're better than how he has treated you, in my opinion!
(virtual hug, I think you need one)

This is the best advice you will ever get.

. I wasn't aware I'd posted it twice. I hate when that happens. My browser likes to go off on one at times :(