You can spend you're whole life with you're partner/ spouse and upon thier death you'll find you never really knew them? Find something you both can agree upon, for no one is perfect.

And that is why you meet eventually in person, get to know them that way, if you wish to pursue a relationship. I enjoy a lot of personalities on here though, and know they are "real", because I've seen their posts over time. They have stayed true to their thoughts and been consistent. This to me helps verify who they are.

Hello, my first idea is: changing your "name". Babyface sounds like an invitation for the wrong people.
Secondly, there are no garantees in life. But ... every one has his own alarm system. Just listen to it right from the first moment. If you don't pay attention to it you will be cheating yourself. When your alarm is bringing a negative "but" you better be watchful. What you see is what you get!
Me? O, I am depending on God. Am now 10 years alone. God is in control. God bless you!

You say it has nothing to do with past partners yet from what you just explained it has everything to do with past partners......so which exactly is it..........I'm so confused...

I ask the same question everyday

I am going to give my answer as I understand what the meaning of the question is and not nit-pick the wording...that this supposed to be about adults interacting to provide support, instead seems like a bunch of "escape artists" who are trying to teach grammar instead of discussing liars. Escaping I think from the truth...I have found that many people online( and offline) find some kind of freedom in lying to another...maybe makes them feel smarter than the person who believes them, or more clever, either way it takes us back to the "escape artist"... But learing how to mantain the ability to trust is the subject. Every normal person has the need to trust...yes I said NEED to trust...from your first breath with your mother to your last breath and the grave..we have to have something to believe in and as far as interacting with any other people all that we have is trust..its a requirement in us...when someone takes advantage of that need, it hurts deeply. Meaning it hurts our core. Liars have found this to be a playground mostly for their personal "vendettas" having been betrayed themselves, and in some cases its a psychological dysfunction that stems from feeling inadequate. I was married to a liar for 10 years and over the years, when she was caught in a lie, discussed, the various reasons she gave for lying. The worst part was at some point she believed that she was doing a good thing..by providing me what she felt would make me happy. In her mind it was an act of love. Thats how far it can go in a person who lies. Kids were involved so I had to choose...and I chose a relationship without me trusting her. It ended of course, and I am happier now that its over...she left me for another man, and I have no regrets. As with most things, the hard path is the best path, and in relationships, I find this to be true as well. If you want a real relationship you have to ask the hard questions. I say from day one, ask and be willing to talk about your past relationships. You will find out then wether they are hiding something and that is your indicator about their trustworthiness. May as well find out online, day one, rather than 10 years later with kids involved. I for one do not lie about anything. I am too lazy to try an keep up with lies so I find it easier to take responsibility for whatever I have done in the past and admit to it..I am also interested in a long term relationship and not a fling. This too can be discovered very early on in a budding relationship. This brings us to "settling". There are many here who have settled. I am not one of them. I still believe there are those who dont and wont lie. But mostly here on these dating websites are liars because a liar needs someone to lie to and they find them here. I havent been on this site in over a month, and I wont be back for at least another month...Good Luck Babyface, and dont change your name because of some dipshits suggestion that a name is what makes a liar lie..smh...