oh dear...

Your trust is in you. Trust your awareness to know when something isn't right.

If someone isn't trust worthy .... trust that they will likely betray you and act accordingly.

If someone is a liar ... trust that they will likely lie to you and choose whether you still want to be in a relationship with them.

People are who they are. When they show you ... believe them.

If you place your trust outside of you, you also place your happiness outside of you. And that never works.

not everyone is a lier

You can't go through life blaming every man you meet for the sins of your previous partners. I suppose you could go through life alone, but that's no way to live. Not everyone in this world is a liar. You have to take a leap of faith every time you enter a relationship with someone new. You have to start anew with a clean slate.

My advice would be to take your time and get to know someone as a friend before you decide to be intimate with them. That way you will find out what they are really about long before you decide to be with them. I'm not saying this is fool proof because some people do change when they enter a relationship but at least you'll have an idea whether you want to take that chance or not.

A very good advice. But you have to be an illusion-free person for that.
I used to have a tendency to make strong (and long-lasting)illusions -- didn't want to see or hear what i actually saw and heard...and the stronger/longer the illusion the more painful and devestating is the breaking of illusion. However, at the end of all ends you are happy that the illusion has been broken and your view is clearer and more realistic....

<<<Nothing to prove<<<

It is hard to do if you have ever felt like you were betrayed, but I think that it is a matter of deciding how much love is worth to you. Having it in your life.

So true.

Thank you! I got to set me up one of those photobucket accounts so I can post pictures too.

"You can't go through life blaming every man you meet for the sins of your previous partners"

Je, I don;t think anyone is talking about doing that. No one is blaming past partners, but if I've known say 6 or7 guys that I've dated and/or had relationships with and they all betrayed me.....

I'd be hestitant to trust the next man....a little more hesitant each time

but to own up, I would also start examing my choices and see if my past men had commonalities that I ca nstrive to avoid - any player tendencies, drugs, tempers and the like. Or if in any way I could change on my end - like not sleeping with them before I know for SURE they can be trusted

HA and you guys all complain that we make you wait...well this thread is the perfect explanation of why...lol

so no it has nothing to do IMO with blaming past partners but if all the men I've known have treated me badly, what do you expect I'd believe about men?????

The game of love rewards risk-taking with pleasure. Staying single rewards caution with safety. Being too picky is a way of playing it safe to avoid losing again.

By keeping her hair up, Rapunzel will get no men tangled in it. They remain below where they can't touch her, below her window, drawn by her lament but unable to ascend.

So Rapunzel (women) continues to lament:
I can't find someone worthy of my love.
I can't find the love that doesn't ask me to risk losing out again.

Let us not overlook the fact that all humans r flored, there is no perfect saint out there and even if there was 'would u realy want to be with a saint?'to constantly remind u of yo own inperfections.
A relationship is shaped and moulded to smoothn all the bumps and scratches u will meet along the way.

Dilated pupils IRL.

On the net I assume everyone is lying to me. It's only fair.

Are you saying that turn about is fair play?

Well it would be difficult to tell who is a liar. I think people who are too suave and smooth. Never once appears nervous. These are the car sales men of the dating world selling you a lemon.

Well it would be difficult to tell who is a liar. I think people who are too suave and smooth. Never once appears nervous. These are the car sales men of the dating world selling you a lemon.