So my whole life I've been the nice Guy. Doing everything a man should to make his woman happy...but yet I keep getting effed over...every time. But I see a beautiful girl In a relationship with a Guy who treats her badly, no respect, she works while he uses her money? Just some examples and I'm sure some of y'all have seen this...but when you say, well leave the Guy and she says, "but I love him" soooo I'm not the only one who finds this to be complete bull stick?! Opinions? Thanks

I agree, there are many women whom treat guys badly, particularly when they don't get their own way. Just don't buy them any chocolate, that annoys them.

That works in reverse to Tater...Ever think maybe you could be picking biotches?... SOMETIMES good girls are attracted to bad boys...SOMETIMES good boys are attracted to bad girls....

I read you profile, it's very nice! ...I would just say this...Don't project and don't be overly accommodating in your relationships with women ...Everyones like a challenge and most people are suspicious of "too" nice or "too" sugary because it is usually a phony attempt to manipulate something or someone.Luck, love, and happiness!

As Leigh says, it goes both ways.

There are people who will misuse others, and there are people who allow themselves to be misused. Ironically, it’s typically self esteem issues that are responsible for both the user and the misused alike.

Usually things that seem too good to be true are just that. I think that is why so many are looking for the catch. As my sponsor used to say, "Lets be friendly with our friends." But like what has already been said it does work both ways. To have a friend one must be a friend. Sometimes the best friend will let you know that you aren't right for them. And who has time to always be the bad guy or the good guy. It either works or it doesn't.

Women love a challenge. They think their love can change them.


EDIT: The ones in the situation seem to, anyway.

Wanna' be happy for da rest of yer life?
Never make a pretty woman yer wife.

Oh good. More generalizing. And I thought I'd never want a bad guy. Apparantely I do.

See, you learned something new about yourself!!


EDIT: I changed my post just for you!!!!

Hey Tater...nice to meetcha!

I took a peek at your profile as well, and you really seem like a great catch...if I were 20 years younger, I'd give the competition a run for their money. *smile*
My two cents?
You're very young yet...take things easy and live it up sweetheart. Focus on great friendships, focus on your own self and being happy, and productive, and well grounded.
Next thing you know the right little lady will be right around the corner, and you'll know her when you see her.
As for those women who allow themselves to be used....they have issues they need to work out. A person can only go based on what they know and what they've learned. if you've not had the chance to see how a confident woman acts (ie from a mother or a close female relative), how can you know how to be one yourself?
We are all of us constantly learning, evolving, and growing. Focus on your own growth and make yourself a strong oak...life will bless you for this.
*hugs* and good luck!!

I do not date bad guys! I love the nice guys! They are hard to find but I managed to find a few in my life so far.

oh geez. Your whole life is at 21.

No I am seriously getting pissed at kids who have no life experience but maybe one or two gals through highschool, AND they need advice on how to find a woman.

NO NO. TRY GOING OUT AND MEETING GIRLS..I DONT KNOW..MAYBE AT KMART..MAYBE AT the skating rink...maybe at your buddies house.

There is no way you need help finding a date when you are goodlooking and 21. get the **** off the internet and meet a girl.

I am sick of this ****.

(sorry)

People do have a trend they follow when finding mates in life. It is a matter of recognizing it and making the appropriate changes in your own life to make you happy and in turn..making others happy.

Because they are, just like other girls are attracted to guys that treat them right.

Stop complaining about it because it won't change on account of your voice, adapt and overcome.

Hey :)

He's not asking for advice on how to find a woman, nor is he complaining about a lack of attention or the difficulty of meeting women.

And whether he is 21, 41 or 61 doesn't make one bit of difference either, he makes a good point.

Nice guys are always there, provide a shoulder to cry on, are good listeners, the perfect buddy but no challenge otherwise. Not enough stimulation.

Bad guys represent the thrill of the unknown and forbidden. They always attract attention of everyone (good or bad) and girls will need to work to get noted. A challenge and stimulating.

My 2 cents? Never change and remain the great guy you are. Understand the above and make the ladies work for your exclusive attention a bit, remain that shoulder to cry on, but give little away and leave things mysterious. Guaranteed she'll want to discover more of you. But little bits, one at the time :-)

Good luck, you've got a lot going for yourself so don't worry...

It sure feels that way at times and it seems many others guys believe the same thing from what I have read on other sites.

which types of man woman like most.

Dude, I know exactly how you feel. I've often wondered this same thing myself. I see women putting up with guys who are complete s--t and yet here I am still alone. You begin to wonder....

I've recently split from my wife. I did everything I could for her, I was a good husband & father and never stopped from doing or going where she wanted... But she started seeing & sleeping with other men at work who just wanted sex and she loved her new life so much she decided to split our family apart for it!!