Topic: What do you really feel?
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Sun 03/10/13 03:41 PM
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Sun 03/10/13 03:45 PM
Edited by Leigh2154 on Sun 03/10/13 03:48 PM

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Sun 03/10/13 03:47 PM
I have gotten a few nasty emails and to be honeast at first it kinda set me back, but then I realized it comes with the electronic turf. The world goes round and I will chose to be real to myself.

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Sun 03/10/13 03:48 PM


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Filing this unde fail proof techniques for breaking up....
don't even think about it :angry:

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Sun 03/10/13 03:52 PM
I agree with you that is a bad feeling to know that someone you like don't like you. As me I can like someone but I don't take it serious. As a woman I feel is a man that likes me frist and I like him too is the only one I will develop feelings for.is completely waste of time and emotional feelings to like someone who doesn't like you. Love is not blind to me it has two eyes lol.

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Sun 03/10/13 06:05 PM

This why going to the gun range is helpful with situations like this. Pull out the 9mm and just empty some ammo on a helpless target. Afterwards, tea time and knitting to simmer down. Oh yeah!

<--- not to be mistaken for helpless target! scared

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Sun 03/10/13 06:08 PM

Aw c'mon! I mean, who doesn't like me? Seriously now...smokin


There was only the one guy...he was little...I think I can take him! :thumbsup:

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Sun 03/10/13 06:09 PM


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You two slay me! laugh

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Sun 03/10/13 06:11 PM

I have gotten a few nasty emails and to be honeast at first it kinda set me back, but then I realized it comes with the electronic turf. The world goes round and I will chose to be real to myself.


How come no one sends me a nasty email? tears

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Sun 03/10/13 06:15 PM
oh well my bong loves me:banana: smokin

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Sun 03/10/13 06:22 PM
Im aiming for friendship before narrowing down into relationship. I also admired someone here but when he told me he is just looking for friend i felt like hurt. Why? I dont know. It just backfired at me. Sad. Ill just accept the fact that he is not for me. Life goes on.

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Sun 03/10/13 06:26 PM



As adults, common sense will tell us that not everyone is going to like us and there are other fish in the sea.

Sometimes our defense mechanism kicks in to tell us it doesn’t matter anyway, because we are better off without them.

But, most of us cannot honestly deny that there is a pinch if not a punch to our emotional gut when we first learn someone we like does not like us back.

What do you REALLY FEEL when it’s happens to you?



depends,

if they do not want romantic involvement but still like me as a friend I am perhaps a little disappointed but glad to have a friend. I have had several boyfriends and one husband, and honestly they are a lot of work and no less trouble.

if they don't like me because they just don't, I do not feel hurt. I feel relieved to be free of someone who would be that arbitrary.

if it's a personality conflict I am fine to just keep it civil.


I think the arbitrary ones would hurt the worst. How can someone judge you based on no evidence whatever? Somehow that's worse than someone with a reason...no matter how insignificant. ohwell


it is more common than you might think, but to me it does not hurt eotionally because it so stupid...

As far as any other reason, I am basically a good person. Someone may have reasons not to like me but I think personality conflicts are the most common reason. If I have offended someone or stepped on some toes, I cannot control these things as I do not do things with the intent to hurt others. I can;t control whether others dislike me, so I focus on those who do. The others do not matter.

I have no lingering desire to "make others like me." they do or they don't to one degree or another.

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Sun 03/10/13 06:48 PM




As adults, common sense will tell us that not everyone is going to like us and there are other fish in the sea.

Sometimes our defense mechanism kicks in to tell us it doesn’t matter anyway, because we are better off without them.

But, most of us cannot honestly deny that there is a pinch if not a punch to our emotional gut when we first learn someone we like does not like us back.

What do you REALLY FEEL when it’s happens to you?



depends,

if they do not want romantic involvement but still like me as a friend I am perhaps a little disappointed but glad to have a friend. I have had several boyfriends and one husband, and honestly they are a lot of work and no less trouble.

if they don't like me because they just don't, I do not feel hurt. I feel relieved to be free of someone who would be that arbitrary.

if it's a personality conflict I am fine to just keep it civil.


I think the arbitrary ones would hurt the worst. How can someone judge you based on no evidence whatever? Somehow that's worse than someone with a reason...no matter how insignificant. ohwell


it is more common than you might think, but to me it does not hurt eotionally because it so stupid...

As far as any other reason, I am basically a good person. Someone may have reasons not to like me but I think personality conflicts are the most common reason. If I have offended someone or stepped on some toes, I cannot control these things as I do not do things with the intent to hurt others. I can;t control whether others dislike me, so I focus on those who do. The others do not matter.

I have no lingering desire to "make others like me." they do or they don't to one degree or another.


Good attitude! I think you're right on! I have to admit that it stings a little to know someone doesn't like me. Maybe I just need to work out my emotional gut a little...maybe it's gotten soft. laugh

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Sun 03/10/13 06:51 PM

Im aiming for friendship before narrowing down into relationship. I also admired someone here but when he told me he is just looking for friend i felt like hurt. Why? I dont know. It just backfired at me. Sad. Ill just accept the fact that he is not for me. Life goes on.


Winlei, I'm only wanting to make friends at this point too. I would not take that personally...that's got nothing to do with you.

flowerforyou

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Sun 03/10/13 07:18 PM





As adults, common sense will tell us that not everyone is going to like us and there are other fish in the sea.

Sometimes our defense mechanism kicks in to tell us it doesn’t matter anyway, because we are better off without them.

But, most of us cannot honestly deny that there is a pinch if not a punch to our emotional gut when we first learn someone we like does not like us back.

What do you REALLY FEEL when it’s happens to you?



depends,

if they do not want romantic involvement but still like me as a friend I am perhaps a little disappointed but glad to have a friend. I have had several boyfriends and one husband, and honestly they are a lot of work and no less trouble.

if they don't like me because they just don't, I do not feel hurt. I feel relieved to be free of someone who would be that arbitrary.

if it's a personality conflict I am fine to just keep it civil.


I think the arbitrary ones would hurt the worst. How can someone judge you based on no evidence whatever? Somehow that's worse than someone with a reason...no matter how insignificant. ohwell


it is more common than you might think, but to me it does not hurt eotionally because it so stupid...

As far as any other reason, I am basically a good person. Someone may have reasons not to like me but I think personality conflicts are the most common reason. If I have offended someone or stepped on some toes, I cannot control these things as I do not do things with the intent to hurt others. I can;t control whether others dislike me, so I focus on those who do. The others do not matter.

I have no lingering desire to "make others like me." they do or they don't to one degree or another.


Good attitude! I think you're right on! I have to admit that it stings a little to know someone doesn't like me. Maybe I just need to work out my emotional gut a little...maybe it's gotten soft. laugh


I think it simply shows you are human with your feelings in tact...something that is also getting rarer as many become so detached in today's society

it can hurt my feellings if someone does not like me, but rarely. it depends on who the person is. For it to bother me there has to be a fair amount invested & it has to be someone who I care about to begin with - but yes - I rarely care what others think of me on a personal level

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Sun 03/10/13 09:30 PM


This why going to the gun range is helpful with situations like this. Pull out the 9mm and just empty some ammo on a helpless target. Afterwards, tea time and knitting to simmer down. Oh yeah!

<--- not to be mistaken for helpless target! scared


Think I'll hide behind you!

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Sun 03/10/13 10:54 PM


Im aiming for friendship before narrowing down into relationship. I also admired someone here but when he told me he is just looking for friend i felt like hurt. Why? I dont know. It just backfired at me. Sad. Ill just accept the fact that he is not for me. Life goes on.


Winlei, I'm only wanting to make friends at this point too. I would not take that personally...that's got nothing to do with you.

flowerforyou

Oops cynde, i mean no offense ok. Im just stating my opinion. ∩_∩v

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Mon 03/11/13 12:31 AM
I think you summed it up pretty good in your opening statement. Freedom of choice is a wonderful thing and in a relationship it is something that all involved can do.

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Mon 03/11/13 12:35 AM

As adults, common sense will tell us that not everyone is going to like us and there are other fish in the sea.

Sometimes our defense mechanism kicks in to tell us it doesn’t matter anyway, because we are better off without them.

But, most of us cannot honestly deny that there is a pinch if not a punch to our emotional gut when we first learn someone we like does not like us back.

What do you REALLY FEEL when it’s happens to you?




I generally dont care if others like me or not, although I still try to treat others how I wish to be treated

but the only people whose approval or acceptance are vital to me are my famly, who truly know me,, Im sure those who dont
'like' me have not taken time to truly know me anyhow,,, so its no big whoop

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Mon 03/11/13 08:28 AM
Edited by 1Cynderella on Mon 03/11/13 08:33 AM



Im aiming for friendship before narrowing down into relationship. I also admired someone here but when he told me he is just looking for friend i felt like hurt. Why? I dont know. It just backfired at me. Sad. Ill just accept the fact that he is not for me. Life goes on.


Winlei, I'm only wanting to make friends at this point too. I would not take that personally...that's got nothing to do with you.

flowerforyou

Oops cynde, i mean no offense ok. Im just stating my opinion. ∩_∩v


Winlei, sweetie...I didn't mean anything negative by it. I was trying to say that it doesn't mean they don't like you just because they won't meet you. The fact that you are so adorable probably made it very hard to say no. flowerforyou

For instance,I don't want a Long distance relationship, and because of that have turned down a couple of men who I have really enjoyed messaging with and found very attractive. The fact that I found them appealing made it hard, but I am firm in the fact that I don't want to have a telephone boyfriend....no matter how great they may be.