Topic: Are you tough as nails, or soft as cotton?
josie68's photo
Fri 02/22/13 02:05 AM
Soft, I cannot say anything that is going to hurt someone, I cannot walk past anyone who needs help.
I go out of my way to keep things nice and make everyone comfortable and happy.
If I could fix everyones heartache I would, but I cant so I do what I can to make the people I know and love happy.

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Fri 02/22/13 02:49 AM

I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou

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Fri 02/22/13 02:52 AM

Soft, I cannot say anything that is going to hurt someone, I cannot walk past anyone who needs help.
I go out of my way to keep things nice and make everyone comfortable and happy.
If I could fix everyones heartache I would, but I cant so I do what I can to make the people I know and love happy.



we have much in common, josie... seeing others smile lightens my heart..

navygirl's photo
Fri 02/22/13 12:20 PM


I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.

Lizajane_thatsme's photo
Fri 02/22/13 12:23 PM
soft as cotton

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Fri 02/22/13 12:25 PM



I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.
flowerforyou

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Fri 02/22/13 12:33 PM
Edited by AthenaRose2 on Fri 02/22/13 12:36 PM



I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.


WoW!! Yes ma'am, I know some of what you're going thru, and it's definitely your strong inner core that got you back on your feet again.. good for you, navygirl... flowerforyou Oh yeah, and BTW, a man would have to be blind, deaf, and stupid, if he doesn't think you're not a prize to be won and cherished... :heart: flowers

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Fri 02/22/13 12:37 PM

soft as cotton


hello Lizajane, it's nice to meet you... flowers

navygirl's photo
Fri 02/22/13 12:39 PM




I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.


WoW!! Yes ma'am, I know some of what you're going thru, and it's definitely your strong inner core that got you back on your feet again.. good for you, navygirl... flowerforyou Oh yeah, and BTW, a man would have to be blind, deaf, and stupid, if he doesn't think you're not a prize to be won and cherished... :heart: flowers


Thanks for the kind words but where I live men don't want a strong independent woman as it threatens their fragile ego. I stopped worrying about this years ago and this is why I focus on my own goals. They military has given me a chance to work with cadets and it does make my life quite complete. Things could be way worse. Except for my job; my life is pretty good. Hopefully; soon I can change my employment situation and life would be perfect.

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Fri 02/22/13 12:45 PM





I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.


WoW!! Yes ma'am, I know some of what you're going thru, and it's definitely your strong inner core that got you back on your feet again.. good for you, navygirl... flowerforyou Oh yeah, and BTW, a man would have to be blind, deaf, and stupid, if he doesn't think you're not a prize to be won and cherished... :heart: flowers


Thanks for the kind words but where I live men don't want a strong independent woman as it threatens their fragile ego. I stopped worrying about this years ago and this is why I focus on my own goals. They military has given me a chance to work with cadets and it does make my life quite complete. Things could be way worse. Except for my job; my life is pretty good. Hopefully; soon I can change my employment situation and life would be perfect.


Excellent news then... and we'll be looking forward to the day you reach your ultimate goal and let us know how it goes... until then we remain posting Mingle friends... bigsmile

navygirl's photo
Fri 02/22/13 01:01 PM
Edited by navygirl on Fri 02/22/13 01:01 PM






I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.


WoW!! Yes ma'am, I know some of what you're going thru, and it's definitely your strong inner core that got you back on your feet again.. good for you, navygirl... flowerforyou Oh yeah, and BTW, a man would have to be blind, deaf, and stupid, if he doesn't think you're not a prize to be won and cherished... :heart: flowers


Thanks for the kind words but where I live men don't want a strong independent woman as it threatens their fragile ego. I stopped worrying about this years ago and this is why I focus on my own goals. They military has given me a chance to work with cadets and it does make my life quite complete. Things could be way worse. Except for my job; my life is pretty good. Hopefully; soon I can change my employment situation and life would be perfect.


Excellent news then... and we'll be looking forward to the day you reach your ultimate goal and let us know how it goes... until then we remain posting Mingle friends... bigsmile


Thanks. I better get going as I am going out of town but have a lot of stuff to take care of before I hit the road. Have a great weekend.flowerforyou

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Fri 02/22/13 01:05 PM







I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.


I understand, navygirl... my dad was career military too, and he was a real softy like me, but emotional sensitivity in men isn't berated like it is in women... one hint of weakness in us and we quickly lose what confidence men have in us... Somehow though, I can't help but feel a void in my heart, when I think of your inability to express your more personal feelings... It's sad to hear you've lost both your parents... I have too... and I'll never have that same type of close connection again... Hope you haven't suffered any long term adverse affects from your 2003 accident... flowerforyou


What you say is so true; that men will find weakness in you showing emotion. I have this engrained in me even before I joined the military. I can remember dating men at 19 that said I had walls around my heart. So; its just second nature that i can't express my emotions which is probably why and I will always remain single. As for my car accident; I had trouble trying to walk after the accident due to the sever injury to my back, my neck; and both my knee caps. My doctor thought I was never going to walk again and would be in a wheel chair with in a couple of years. It took me 4 years to recover but not only do I walk but I have even cycled 45 kilometers. I won't lie that it was a struggle to walk; to strengthen up my body, and even trying to heal myself but somehow I managed. I have chronic pain in my knees but it doesn't slow me down much. My back and neck seem to be fine despite all the muscles being ripped and discs in my back being shifted. All in all; I am pretty lucky to have recovered.


WoW!! Yes ma'am, I know some of what you're going thru, and it's definitely your strong inner core that got you back on your feet again.. good for you, navygirl... flowerforyou Oh yeah, and BTW, a man would have to be blind, deaf, and stupid, if he doesn't think you're not a prize to be won and cherished... :heart: flowers


Thanks for the kind words but where I live men don't want a strong independent woman as it threatens their fragile ego. I stopped worrying about this years ago and this is why I focus on my own goals. They military has given me a chance to work with cadets and it does make my life quite complete. Things could be way worse. Except for my job; my life is pretty good. Hopefully; soon I can change my employment situation and life would be perfect.


Excellent news then... and we'll be looking forward to the day you reach your ultimate goal and let us know how it goes... until then we remain posting Mingle friends... bigsmile


Thanks. I better get going as I am going out of town but have a lot of stuff to take care of before I hit the road. Have a great weekend.flowerforyou


you too, and take care on the roads... :heart: flowerforyou

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Fri 02/22/13 01:36 PM
I can be what the situation needs. COLD as the north pole or warm as the equator. I preferr to be a nice person & go with life's flow.

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Fri 02/22/13 01:43 PM
I'm so nice, soft and cuddly, everyone loves me and wants to be near me.:wink: smokin

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Fri 02/22/13 02:07 PM

I can be what the situation needs. COLD as the north pole or warm as the equator. I preferr to be a nice person & go with life's flow.


it's definitely more fun flowing...we can meet and make friends with the coolest people that way... bigsmile

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Fri 02/22/13 02:14 PM

I'm so nice, soft and cuddly, everyone loves me and wants to be near me.:wink: smokin


laugh I'm so tickled that I finally looked at your profile to see why everybody loves you, willing2, and now my eyes have been opened... a pimp and PT brane sergin with a bird named Moses and Rottweiller named Jesus.. priceless... laugh :wink:

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Fri 02/22/13 02:15 PM


I can be what the situation needs. COLD as the north pole or warm as the equator. I preferr to be a nice person & go with life's flow.


it's definitely more fun flowing...we can meet and make friends with the coolest people that way... bigsmile


For sure makes life easier that way & allows each to be as they are, with no expectations.

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Fri 02/22/13 02:16 PM
Edited by AthenaRose2 on Fri 02/22/13 02:17 PM



I can be what the situation needs. COLD as the north pole or warm as the equator. I preferr to be a nice person & go with life's flow.


it's definitely more fun flowing...we can meet and make friends with the coolest people that way... bigsmile


For sure makes life easier that way & allows each to be as they are, with no expectations.



:heart: flowers

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Fri 02/22/13 02:44 PM
My mood determines my emotion.... Very much a soft guy,but could be tough atimes if situation demanded...

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Fri 02/22/13 02:52 PM
The nurses call me an old teddy bear at work because I am like their right arm. I have learned to be as soft as a feather with my touch so I don't cause skin tears but at the same time strong when one of the female aides need their back cracked. The male residents know I mean business when the female nurses or aides take me in the room with them so that there will be no funny business.:smile: