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I believe that if the guy understands what is the 'proper gift' is for his love then you will love Valentine's Day. I don't want flowers, I'm allergic and my thighs do not appreciate the chocolates. The proper gift for me would be some Thai takeout, because who really wants to wait for 2 hours to be seated for dinner, a good sci-fi movie at home with surround sound and a foot rub! All uninterrupted by family, friends or others. A gift like that shows me that my guy understands me and wants me happy. Of course that means that I have to put the same thought into his gift, but I have yet to meet a man who did not ask for sex in various costumes for this holiday ; D my fantasy would be I walk in the door after a hard day of work and he says hey hon take a load off your feet, here sit right down in my easy chair, here's the remote, if you need anything just holler I'll be in the kitchen making you a sammich............... |
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My first husband put on a big show and "grand display" when my birthday rolled around. He went "all out" for our anniversary too and Valentine's Day etc... The trouble is that he was "missing" and "vacant" the rest of the year...We just weren't close on an everyday basis...And in the end I really didn't want his "stuff" anymore. His "grand giving" seemed more about him than me...He really "sucked-up" all the praise and credit and bragged about all he "did" for me...I wanted a best friend. I wanted a close relationship. (On an everyday basis.) But he was "stumped" and "lost" because he couldn't go out and buy "closeness" in a department store.. And he didn't know how to create this kind of closeness and intimacy on his own.
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Hummm could be cause some women expect way too much out of this day! And I would like to know why some think it is all one sided... Men deserve just as much attention as women do.... Honestly I feel that I would rather have a man/woman that shows their love every day not just one day out of the year. 
And yes I'm one that remembers these days and made sure my kids did as well... 
Of course people should show their love all year. But who does??? Most people need a day to remind them of the special people in their lives. What is "way too much" for expectations? Maybe the laxed out stance on V-day has something to do with why some men think it's ok to pass up the opportunity to do something extra special. What's wrong with that? Don't you buy tons of presents every year for Christmas? Don't you plan that out financially to make sure it happens? What's the difference? Both are religious holidays...one not recognized for a day off from work...but, it's still a religious holiday. lol So much for religion ...lol... even if you remove the religious aspect like everyone does Christmas, it would still be a nice day to celebrate love. I didn't say it was only a day for women to get stuff. It can be for men too if they'd just want it! lol I would have TONS planned if I had a man this year. I've been known to wrap myself up in a giant red bow, holding a jar of body chocolate in a fancy hotel room for my man before. Why not? I love celebrations....and for love?? What an awesome reason. Men love sex... don't they realize if they want some that is extra special ;-) they have to also do something extra special? See?? This is why I hate my gender. A lot of women out there training boys all wrong for their wives later in life. Just sayin Really? To get good sex, they have to buy you gifts and take you out on Valentine's day? Yikes. No wonder many men complain about Valentine's day. They have to buy affection. Lol oh my gawd lol if you have cake every single day... you get sick of it. |
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It has been a few years since I have been fortunate enough to spend a Valentines day with someone. Last I remember, a few friends of mine were all stumped on what to do. Problem was that two of the females (the one I was dating at the time was one) was one of the types who demanded at minimal a dozen roses, a big box of chocolate, expensive dinner, wine and dine, the whole nine yards, BUT it had to be original, she wanted me to come up with something creative. I looked at her silly like "are you serious, you want me to be cliche and original at the same time?" With a little consideration and apologizing to my neighbors in advance. We decided to transform my apartment living room into a 5 star resteraunt. We all got together and put our combined cooking skills (it wasn't much, but we did spend a few weeks coming up with the full 5 course meal) After the dinner, since we are all musicians, we did a small concert for the ladies, each of us sitting out a song or two one at a time so we could dance with our respective girl. I honestly thought it was genius and original beyond any expectation... The big problem was after the night was over, she said I was cheap and took the easy way out, two of us guys lost a relationship the day after for trying something like that because it was "the cheap route" and we need to try harder. Since then, I refuse to try to do something special for valentines day for anyone who gives me a list of expectations of what I need to do. The sheer fact that I tried my hardest with my friends, rented tuxedos and all should have been more than enough IMHO. I agree with you. To me, you went all out on creativity like she asked. I would have been proud of you and happy as a clam |
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