You meet someone who you really connect with intellectually, emotionally, and socially. You have so much in common it’s as if you’ve known each other for years, and can practically read each others minds. However, there are major points where you don’t agree, and as friends, you choose to overlook these differences, while keeping your distance physically.

As time goes by your friendship evolves, and your feelings do too. Before you realize it you become enamored with each other, something starts nagging at you both, and you want to get even closer, but still in the back of your mind, you know how different from each other that you really are.

Do you risk the connection you already have by taking things to the next level, be it deeper communication, via emails, texts, phone calls, eventually a face to face? Or do you listen to your subconscious that keeps warning you this might end badly, and steady the course you’re already on?

Keeping in mind that the chemistry now between you is gaining the upper hand, so if you decide not to take things further, do you think you’ll be able to handle the unchecked intensity, or would it be wiser to break off the relationship at this point, and chalk it up to two ships passing in the night?

Yu're Already at the Point of No-return. Yu Must take it 2 d Next Level, which is up!

I like your reply, Kennee..


but this query isn't about me, I'm single. I would just like to know what others would do in a situation like this, because it is entirely possible, should we, or shouldn't we?

I vote no.

Gotcha...

If there are major disagreement points you are more than likely feeling lust for a forbidden fruit, so to speak, which won't work out.

Yeah, that's my stick in a craw... so if this situation was actually about me, what if he was the one wanting to take it to the next level beyond friendship? Reckon he's thinking he can somehow sway me to his way of thinking after he's laid the lovin on me?

My immediate response is why get involved in something where you will argue a lot? I mean, some disagreement is to be expected but you already got the cards stacked against you. Is he flexible and willing to change, or do you have to do all the changing? So many questions, so little time.

Okay... whoa nelly.. confusion creeping in…. argue a lot? not in this lifetime… I can count on one hand the number of arguments I’ve had in the last 20 years… I’m highly allergic to aggressive posturing… and immediately suffer anaphylactic shock… can’t breathe or talk… hehehe

so.. if I’m the other half of this equation and the man likes to argue, we won’t be getting together in the first place… as far as him being flexible and willing to change… it is my practice to accept people as they are… there won’t be any changing to please me… and he better be the same way too… or here again, we wouldn’t get together in the first place…

so, I guess your answer to what these two people should do is to break off their friendship, and go their separate ways, because the major points they disagree on would at some point break them up anyway?

It would either break them up or be a sore spot or two or three.



Variety is spice of life, different tastes, different opinions, but major disagreement issues are the blade of death, at least I think so.

Follow your heart.

Yeah, I was Replying 2 d Topic; 'you' Representing everyone in the Shoes

excellent, and I respect your opinion, because from your view as a man, I can gather what most other men would think and do too...

very good advice too... di mitri... it's nice to meet you...

Cool... I comprehend, my friend...

I would save the friendship and not take it to the next level.

Hi trout... I've thought about that too... but then that darn chemistry.. you never know what it's gonna do...

You gotta risk it to get the biscuit.

Agreed.

I usually do a quick 'reality check'...esp when something seems to good to be true.
I'm not one to believe in fairytales. Therefore, no matter who good things 'seemed' to be going, I'm always half-way in and half-out. Usually my instincts are right about the ones that are 'too good to be true.'