It's Friday Night! Let's Party Instead!!


http://youtu.be/vc2YBVZx-Ps{/url]

I'm not used to flirting. I was happily married for decades and probably still feel married today even though my husband is gone now...But I do have a playful and fun-loving side...Guess I probably need to learn how to flirt (in harmless ways) and loosen-up a little bit.

Thanks for the kind words.

ey im high on molly right now just want someone to talk to so someone (females) that is on should msg me

Those who do not complain are never pitied.

with you there all the way. When I have given a person my name I expect them to use it. It strikes me that they are either 1. too lazy or 2.not interested in using your name or 3. have hit on a number of women and cant remember who they are and use endearments as the safe option.

really ....who has come onto a dating site to rant? the OP perhaps?

Yes there is an option for casual ecounter, but men who choose that option should NOT be bothering women who are NOT interested in that option.

I think the woman the OP is writing about goes a bit far, but to an extent I agree with her. I have had emails lacking in respect that I simply block and delete.

so I have found another way to deal with them. I prefer not to be called baby or honey by those who don't know me also. Women are not here for the OPs entertainment, he might want to try a site more geared to casual sex.

it is not compliments that are offensive. compliments are great. it is the assumption of familiarity that is offensive...a person should be able to realize when it is OK to cross that line...subtle true, but a man who has some discernment will have no problems here. No one else interests me anyway

{snicker}

I agree with Sweetestgirl. I don’t want to have guys call me by terms of endearment straight out of the box like that, when they don’t even know me. That just seems kind of cheesy, skeevy, and off-putting.

I mean, sure, I use terms of endearment all the time in spoken and written communication with people I know (friends OR romantic partners). If I know you and like you, I will probably call you ‘sweetie’ or ‘hon’. And I’ve spent just enough time in places with Southern attitudes to develop the habit of using those terms with complete strangers if I step on their toes or jostle their elbow in a checkout line or something. (“’Scuse me, hon. Sorry.”)

But in the first e-mail contact or two with a brand-new person on a dating site? Umm, no. That’s the cyber equivalent of someone violating my personal space.

Likewise, if a guy makes compliments my physical appearance in a first communication, that feels kind of fake. I’d prefer to have him comment on something I said in my profile, like an interest we both share. That shows he’s seeing me as a person rather than a piece of meat. I’d honestly rather be appreciated for my mind and personality than for the way I look. When you meet someone in realspace, often all you have to go on initially is their appearance unless you’re introduced by someone who knows you both and has told you a bit about the other person. But online, we have profiles and mine is pretty detailed. So if all you can think to say is that you like the way I look, the impression I get is that you haven’t even bothered to read what I wrote and therefore you are either very superficial or some kind of scammer.

SURE ....take all the fun out of flirting....

Honey… there are PLENTY of ways to flirt!

Yeah that is so true...
Just that most of them either get me SLAPPED or misunderstood...
hehehe


Go figure huh ?

your 100% right there, cupcake...