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Topic: A Question of Trust
TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Sun 02/03/13 01:14 PM
Suppose your lover of several months leaves and forgets his/her cell phone. Do you go through it, looking at photos and text messages?

Ted14621 Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 2173	Sun 02/03/13 01:36 PM
Nah, why bother. It could only bring trouble.

Grathnamog Joined Tue 01/29/13 Posts: 8	Sun 02/03/13 01:39 PM
Sometimes it is better to leave the past in the past. Plus, there is the entire privacy issue... just because someone it is not there does not mean you should go through their stuff. I would contact her and return it or just throw it away.

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Sun 02/03/13 02:58 PM
I agree. I've never looked at a lover's cell phone. In fact, I don't even want to touch it. But, I feel the same way about all her personal things. I'd never look inside her purse either. I'd also be deeply offended if a lover went through my cell phone or wallet. If you don't trust them, why are you with them?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 02/03/13 03:01 PM
never have

Zimzane2 Joined Mon 01/14/13 Posts: 221	Sun 02/03/13 06:45 PM
Suppose your lover of several months leaves and forgets his/her cell phone. Do you go through it, looking at photos and text messages? I've had it happen to me in the past. Leaving the cell phone home, but they found nothing,however, I came to the conclusion they did not trust me and the rest is history.

willowdraga Joined Sat 10/13/12 Posts: 957	Sun 02/03/13 06:52 PM
No need to here. If I have an inkling of something not right I leave now. But used to turn into Sherlock Holmes when I was young to prove what I felt. I also picked some real losers so my feelings were always right.

SimplicityAtItsBest Joined Mon 09/10/12 Posts: 960	Mon 02/04/13 07:24 PM Edited by SimplicityAtItsBest on Mon 02/04/13 07:24 PM
Look through it...of course!!! Am I the only honest one here?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 02/04/13 07:26 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Mon 02/04/13 07:27 PM
Look through it...of course!!! Am I the only honest one here? actually I have only had a couple of opportunities to do that and I never did because I knew it didn't matter and really I wouldn't because I don't care - if he's gonna be a shytehead he's gonna be regardless what I do

chas730 Joined Fri 11/02/12 Posts: 95	Tue 02/05/13 02:26 PM
No...I wouldn't even think about it...and that goes for her purse, billfold, jacket pockets, or anything else she may have left behind. I think it speaks to an invasion of personal privacy and opens the door to mistrust...and that is one door i would much prefer to remain closed and locked.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 02/05/13 02:28 PM
Nope. I've never had a need to look through their phone.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Tue 02/05/13 02:39 PM
hm dunno if i would wittood reason other than that no

AthenaRose2 Joined Fri 11/09/12 Posts: 6972	Tue 02/05/13 04:02 PM
I would never pick it up and explore its secrets, but if it rang, I would certainly look to see who's calling...

Teditis Joined Sun 03/07/10 Posts: 3597	Tue 02/05/13 05:54 PM
Suppose your lover of several months leaves and forgets his/her cell phone. Do you go through it, looking at photos and text messages? Nope... I was once that guy. I choose not to be anymore. However... if I think I'd ought to, I'd change the locks instead. Then go make a bologna sammich er, something.

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Tue 02/05/13 06:42 PM
No...I wouldn't even think about it...and that goes for her purse, billfold, jacket pockets, or anything else she may have left behind. I think it speaks to an invasion of personal privacy and opens the door to mistrust...and that is one door i would much prefer to remain closed and locked. this totally. it has never even crossed my mind, ever, to do so.

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Tue 02/05/13 06:44 PM
no

lofonchofo Joined Mon 12/24/12 Posts: 36	Tue 02/05/13 06:45 PM
they did iy once..but she first called me saying she coudnt forget me...

mountainwatergirl Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 656	Thu 02/07/13 10:34 AM Edited by mountainwatergirl on Thu 02/07/13 11:05 AM
No....unless he has done something in the past to destroy the trust. Then I look... then I realize the relationship could be at the beginning of the end. However, I still say,(as in another post by TexasS), if you have nothing to hide, and you are after a true intimate relationship by definition...you wouldn't care if your partner looks at everything you have.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Thu 02/07/13 10:38 AM
Nah, if I felt like I had to worry about her, there would be no reason for us to be together.

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Thu 02/07/13 10:47 AM
No...I wouldn't even think about it...and that goes for her purse, billfold, jacket pockets, or anything else she may have left behind. I think it speaks to an invasion of personal privacy and opens the door to mistrust...and that is one door i would much prefer to remain closed and locked. this totally. it has never even crossed my mind, ever, to do so. Im right there with you both! It has happened in the past and I haven't decided to go the route of snooping. It sure wouldn't help in building continued trust. Which should be really important.