Quake is absolutely right!!!!!

I am truly a nice guy....do everything that I can to be more than considerate....ask questions, open doors.....not just feign an interest to get into their pants......

Alas, most of my life has been spent single, while some complete jackass gets the girl....nice guys DO finish last, but at least I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud of who I am!!!

, Gypsy.

We could go in circles all day long about this. I know I TRULY want a nice guy. I have dated and been engaged to jerks and I am tired of them. You just have to look for us, gentlemen. But we're here.

I find that a lot of azzzzzzzzzholes actually consider themselves nice guys as well. This goes along with the fact they also think they are really good looking and if Im correct 99% of them like to take long walks on the beach, snuggle in front of the fire bla bla blablablalbaaaaaaaaaaa!!!

Ary gurl...

both you and I have been around the block once to many times to know that being "NICE"...just does not get the job done sweetheart....

sometimes accepting the fact that being a pryck or a bytch is a part of life the sooner people realize that the better.

I'll be the first one to admit it...I can be a real pryck sometimes does that doesn't mean I'm not a good person either....

just like i'm sure you have your bytchy days....

moi? bytchy? never

Sure it happens...last time I checked I was still human. You would be hard pressed in the world find anyone who would use that word in conjunction with my name though.

Nice is how I choose to live. Compassion, empathy rule my intention. And if I am too nice for some men... those are the men that just aren't quite nice enough for me. There is a whole continuum here.

I like people who are smart and interesting to me. A questioning mind ... and conversation. Self assured confidence but not cocky arrogance.

Just because I am compassionate and kind and gentle does not mean that I am a pushover nor does it mean that I don't have sides to me that are a little edgier than others..I am passionate...opinionated and care about things.

My judgment is usually for myself and rarely directed at another.

No, we will disagree on this one 'sweetheart'

Most women say that they want a nice guy, but the truth is, few are attracted to them. That butterflies in the stomach thing doesn't happen for a nice guy. I think women do want a nice guy, but their hearts overrule their heads everytime.

Hey Araon WTG Dude...


Quake, I highly suggest you leave my gurl Artgurl alone.. She will put you in your place in a nice way...

i'm definitely not looking for "nice".

well, i'm not looking for ANYONE...but if i were, he wouldn't be "nice".

Heh, well if you want to be a "Nice guy" gentlemen, you should be like me! Kidding!

Thank you everyone for your input... I was just curious....

A bad boy or "jerk" can sure get the blood to pumping...but they can sure leave you hi and dry also. The brain is a small muscle. I use the bigger one...my heart. When I follow my heart; I get the good, nice guy.

Now...I am nice; is that why I cannot get a guy? Won't they be surprised if they ever grow any....ha ha ha ha nerve.
Kat

I'm with art girl for the most part. I hate pushover men or men who fall all over themselves being nice...I say be yourself and it will be fine unless you are the neighborhood bully or are so selfcentered that ...well your nose is stuck up in the center of you HAHAHA Daleray...no worries man

i would much rather have a man who is honest and true...than nice. nice can get one walked over...nice can leave a sour taste when a little white lie is told rather than a hurtful truth...nice can get you in over your head, saying yes when you SHOULD say no.

Nice guys drive bannanna trikes!!!

I can promise you this, with no uncertainty: Mine were nice, and certainly NOT PUSHOVERS. I knew what it was like to be treated like a queen. Real men from the get go. All I could have ever asked for. Nice, does not mean pushover or weak.
Kat

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Kat

scattr, are you single? If you had such great experiences then I would think you were in a relationship?

Yes, I am single. I have had a few really bad and I might say "abusive" relationships. I finally found my way to give the ones that did not fit my imaginigs of the right
guy". When I did, I found him (twice). I was married to two wondeful men, of whom, I lost both. I have not had a relationship to speak of since them. I was however giving it a try again, when I found he was another one of those "bad boys" type. I ran as fast as I could.
So, yes, I am single. I do not get out much and some of the guys on the dating sites are looking for something I am not. The others are too young or not interested. Oh well. Their loss. In due time I hope to find a good man again.
Kat