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Topic: How would you handle this situation?
willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Mon 01/21/13 04:45 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation?

Zimzane2 Joined Mon 01/14/13 Posts: 221	Mon 01/21/13 05:17 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea marsket and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? From what I've read and I hope I read it correctly. You are married and have a lady friend? If so well what else do you expect? I mean take time to think things out before you do them. That's chaos you brought upon yourself, now you must face your actions. what else can you do? Good luck, but it does not look good for you

Avidbop Joined Sun 01/20/13 Posts: 1	Mon 01/21/13 09:11 AM
When Paul Simon opined the ' 50 ways to lose a lover' , he omitted the 51st for rhyming expedience and romantic sensitivity - just tell her to ****off.

123toni Joined Thu 01/17/13 Posts: 11	Mon 01/21/13 09:12 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? wel since u r separated were is the problem?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 01/21/13 09:15 AM
Sounds like it's time for you to be honest with everyone about what's going on.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 01/21/13 09:19 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? will suicide work?

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 01/21/13 09:29 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? Tell them everything is 50% off, today only....

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Mon 01/21/13 09:47 AM
I really don't understand the what problem is. Two women you know, but don't sleep with and one's father. Right? Introduce everyone, tell them your plans and invite them to come along. That's what I'd do anyway.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 01/21/13 09:57 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? It's one of those awkward moments. You know you haven't done anything wrong, and yet when the moment happens you feel like you have done something wrong. I guess the fact that you are separated (and not divorced) and that you have a lady friend (which normally means that you are shagging the lady friend unless you two let it be known publicly that you are, in fact, just friends) probably raised your wife's eyebrows a bit when she saw her. Guess my question is what happened? Did your wife act jealous? Was your lady friend jealous? Did your father in law think you were the man for having a chick on the side? Lol.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48926	Mon 01/21/13 10:47 AM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? Get out a deck of cards and start a game of rummy. Since everyone is with you just for a visit, act naturally.

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Mon 01/21/13 02:37 PM
First thing I would do is to sit down and have a serious think about what I really wanted. Do you want to get back with your wife? Do you have feelings for this other woman and do you want more than friendship with her? As it is you are perhaps playing these women off against each other and you need to make up your mind whether your marriage is over or not.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Mon 01/21/13 02:52 PM
I don't get where the problem part fits in. You're not with either of these women. They, and your father all turn up at your house at once. Be how you USUALLY are. Otherwise, act all dodgy. I still see no problem here.

OkiHeadDoctor Joined Wed 12/19/12 Posts: 103	Mon 01/21/13 03:00 PM
willing2, I can appreciate your situation though my own differs. Another member said it best -> What are your plans with your wife? (key) If the plan is to "stay married" and go about your lives, then make sure everyone in your circle knows about it and no problemo. You can now step it up a notch with your lady-friend - or not. As to pop-n-law, if you and him are cool, continue to hang out with him. I cannot stand my wife, but my relationship with my father-in-law is, and will remain, intact. Do you man, do you. One of the important things, however, is that everyone knows what is going on; make sure your wife doesn't have it in her head that you two are on the mend when you aren't. That's not nice or cool. Same goes for you - make best as sure as you can what yall's plans are.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Mon 01/21/13 03:01 PM Edited by willing2 on Mon 01/21/13 03:05 PM
I did introduce them all. The two women conversed together. I made sure I didn't sit between them. The father-in-law watched and shared a beer. Four years ago, I went, with the wife, to visit my daughter. While up there, she put on a cookout. Two ex-wives showed up for the reunion. One was my kids Mom, the other was on her way up from Ms. to visit her son. It was a great time. No, I am no longer honoring a marriage commitment and no, I choose not to choose one over the other. Why? I'm not looking for commitment and the friend knows that.

Kaleijoscope Joined Fri 10/15/10 Posts: 3319	Mon 01/21/13 03:05 PM
Since the four of you are all grown up and you're not "involved" with either woman,.there shouldn't be any problem..yes, it's awkward but just wing it...it's just a short visit anyway...cheers!

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Mon 01/21/13 03:16 PM
Since the four of you are all grown up and you're not "involved" with either woman,.there shouldn't be any problem..yes, it's awkward but just wing it...it's just a short visit anyway...cheers! Thank you, sweet lady.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21482	Mon 01/21/13 03:53 PM
I'd just make sure there's enough Lone Star in the cooler.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Mon 01/21/13 03:57 PM
I'd just make sure there's enough Lone Star in the cooler.

Ras427 Joined Wed 08/08/12 Posts: 1516	Mon 01/21/13 03:59 PM
Your wife, who lives in another city a few hours away, comes to visit and pick up some stuff. (BTW, we are and have been separated ever since she has been in steady remission.) Your lady friend. No sex. We just hang out once in a while. We have been very intimate. In that, we have shared deep, intimate personal info outsiders wouldn't be privy to. Your Father-in-law. He comes and hangs out at my place a couple evenings a week. How would you handle all three of them showing up at the same place, same time and there's no way to escape. That happened Sunday. I was doing a flea market and all three showed up. How would you handle that situation? will, there is not much to handle. Your wife who im assuming is dealing with remission probibly still has an emotional attachment to you, especialy while dealing with remission. Coming to get stuff from so far away suggests still lingering feelings, however mild or not. Your lady friend is just that, a good friend, why else share intimacy, therefore it sounds like she is not threatened by your wife, for now anyway. Her feelings might grow for you though being youve grown close. As for your father in law, no issues there, he having his beer s. I wouldnt lose any sleep, you just have options, thats all. Good luck dude.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Tue 01/22/13 06:28 PM
I would bang them both and go to the flea market.