I want to know why is it that guys won't tell the truth when they don't want you anymore? I have been dating this unavailable man off and on for about 8 years. Now I know he doesn't really want to have any real relationship with me. For one, he can't and for two, he doesn't feel me like that. And of course he hasn't told me this. He keeps telling me that he likes me and really wants a relationship with me and that he is working on making that happen, but all of his actions says otherwise. He doesn't call me often, he doesn't accept any invitation that I have made to go out, etc. Now I know all of these signs are telling me that no he doesn't want me, but I want him to be man enough to say it. Why won't men just be real?

we do tll tell the truth well some of us like us sweet guys

Make him say it. Or just dump his sorry self. This may sound cold but he does it because you're letting him. So, kick him out of you life. Good luck.

sounds to me he actually playing games.. not good

Hmmmm ... I always tell the truth

Though i don't get the same back sometimes

well i do love some one.....and all i want is to mak her happy in life and give her the best life.....im ging to buy her a new care and i dont care what she say to me lol

hmmm...maybe not date the married ones next time?

my question is

why does it say guys

should it not say why does this guy

or something like that

why do some lump all in there question

just a thought

but what do i know

I second lulu's comment

Irresistable:

u know i was having this same kind of thought earlier today about someone who has/had been in my life...although it has not been 8 yrs...it's been about 5 months...WHEN i do actually hear from him it's sex this and sex that...i feel he doesn't truly want to get to know me as a person...yet, when i call him on it he says he does feel like he knows me as a person and does want a relationship...but as i told him he has not proven that to me...nor do i feel he is capable of doing so...btw when i do actually hear from him it's usually only by text msg very very rarely does he call me...MEN!! lol

Well the second I feel a guy don't won't anything to do with me I truly give him the dial tone and not go near him block his number the whole nine yard. I have better respect for myself and know I can do better:)

I wouldn't lie to somebody I was just getting to know etc and or dating in a relationship with etc and I don't lie either, now if it's somebody I know for the longest time like my friend or boss I might say something like they do to me to get them off my back or change subjects but for 100% of the time I hardy ever lie, since I feel no need to.

Maybe he feels the need to lie or make something up so he doesn't have to be truthful with you, who knows though.

Wow, I just wrote a reply post, and it didn't take...sigh! Here goes again....

Here's my two cents worth. Your question should be why doesn't this guy...don't lump all of us men together. Secondly you say he is not available to you, does that mean he is married? If yes, then that is why he doesn't go out with you as you invited him. Also, he is only going to tell you what you want to hear as long as he is getting what he wants to get. Cheaters lie to everyone!

Like Daddy used to say, "Why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free!"

and btw he says he's divorced yet i've never been to his house, etc...it's always just been out in public

I like sexyladyonwheel's answer. Short and sweet!!!

i think you should just dump him and move on to a better guy.

ive been in relationships before where the guy lied to me but i have a lot of guy friends and they dont lie, your just meeting the wrong ones.

good luck

The more I think about it....I can't keep my mouth shut.

Why would you want to be with a married man on or off for 8 years? Do you really think that he has been working on setting up a real relationship with you? For 8 years?

Come on girl! Time to move on...

For good or bad, even if it hurts myself or who I'm talking to, I try to always tell the truth and be honest. There is such a thing as tact though and moments when information is best withheld, however when I actually do talk, you can take it to the bank.

WOW 8 years off and on with an unavailable Man...what does it take for you to see the writing on the wall??????

not only does this relationship sound toxic it appears you have some self esteem complexes also.


while he's not losing any sleep at night being himself ask yourself if ya wanna wait around for the next 8 years of your life for him to be a Man...?

your kicking a dead horse...it's time to move on....

Dump him girl and get a REAL man...