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Trust is very hard to get back, when a guy has done you wrong. Especially, if it's the same guy wanting your trust all over again. Not sure if you will ever be able to trust him, once trust is lost. A new guy could gain more trust from you, as he hasn't had a chance to show you he can't be faithful. As we all know, people put on facades. If he's cheated on you, then I reckon you could be friends with him again, but be in a relationship with him? Slim chance because he sleeps with others. You both physically fight, too, during arguements. That sounds quite volatile and violent at best. You don't want to be with a guy who beats you just because you argue about something. Though, YOU also need to stop hitting HIM in any arguement, too. I actually am a bit surprised that him physically punching you, didn't force you to want to leave him. That it wasn't scary enough for you to decide to pack your bags and run to safety. I'd have left him, if he was some nutter wanting to show physically tough he was. Reminds me of my biological father. Good job my mum got away, and took me with her. Some situations need fleeing from, no matter how much you may love someone. Sometimes the ones closest to us, will hurt us the most, ironic, but I have been there ;)

IOLA, you have not answered my question. Did you marry the man whom you are complaining about?

If you did not marry him - if he is still legally single - then you are making the mistake of expecting him to act as if he were married to you.

If the man you are complaining about is your husband, then your complaint is reasonable.

If the man you are complaining about is not your husband, then you chose to play with fire and then became burned.

Not yet..were suppose to get married long time but I feel hesitant..
Anyways, what I understood with ur question nd comment is,,, ur trying to say that since he s not my husband yet then he has the right to cheat me..isn't it? Or u shud hav ask me if he is my boyfriend? Then if not then ur comment is right!!I don't think ur point of view is right!!! Even he is not my husband yet and as long as I love him I have d right! Coz we are in the relationship!

I am not condoning your boyfriend's actions. However, you wish to have a benefit of marriage without actually being married.

A marriage is a form of a contract in which two people vow to be exclusively each other's. If your boyfriend has not taken marriage vows to you, then he can't break them.

You came here for advice, wanting to know how to respond to your boyfriend's behavior. Any advice would be futile if your assessment of the situation is inaccurate. I have merely provided my own assessment.

Your hesitation = your gut feeling...listen to it, he is not worthy of you. Love is not suppose to hurt. He sounds like a looser to me, not making the commitment you are looking for. I think you said this has been going on for 3 years...it'll never change I.M.O.

Seems like he wants something different, so let him have it.. there is no sense being with someone who doesn't want the same thing.. trust gets broken easily after someone has mistreated you.. try to remember that just because one was that way that not all are that way.. hope you find your happiness.. :-)

Forget trusting! You need to leave him!

Thank you! Baby needs truth. This current person is not worth the trouble of trusting again!
When your arguments become physical.... Elvis has left the building baby girl
What you feel is love....is actually unhealthy dependance.

Start fresh....and love yourself More than you believe you love him!

Leave your boyfriend and move on. I'm in a same situation as you.
Anyhow, forget about the trust you want to give him again. Trust me, He will do it again and hurt you.

I completely agree with the above comments.

If after 3 years in a relationship all you have to show are the bruises from a beating, I am sorry, but it's time to say goodbye to this bully however hard it may be for you to leave him and move on.

I totally agree with you.

I am sorry that you have to go through all this. I guess whatever advices we can give you, you are the only one who knows whether he is worth it or not. From what you described, I dont think he really cares about you. I can relate to your feelings, my recent ex lied about his relationship with one of his female friends, we had many fights relating to her late night calls, and him insisting on meeting her alone everytime etc. In the end we broke up, and he immediately went on and be with her. It was hard for me to trust someone again after that, but every relationship is like an investment, there will be risks. Just need to keep your eyes open and make sure it's worth it.

Wish you best of luck. :)

I went through the same thing. Just left 6 weeks ago. Listen to me. Leave as soon as you can. You're wasting your time. Its not so much that he will do it again or that youre not married. Its that once trust for fidelity is broken you have to repair it. Hes not going to help you repair your trust in him. It takes counseling at least. There is a poison running through your relationship now and you will doubt everything he says, everywhere he goes. It will eat you alive. Then he will get impatient with you for not trusting him. Because its easy for him to forget his shameful mistake, hes embarrassed and wants to put it in the past far and fast. But you will need at least 4x that amount of time to forget if you ever do. He will start resenting you and grow impatient for his freedoms. And you will want to decapitate him for even mentioning it. Its already over. It was over that day. Youre in denial. I understand. Love wants to hope and believe. It lingers on cause thats what love does... but you have to cut it off. With you snd him having the violent streak I'm sure you can see how much more fighting is coming.
Take care of yourself.

I think it's all about learning something and moving on.taking that lesson with u. u and I were on the same boat and I'm glad I jumped ship. physical, emotional and psychological abuse equates to lack of respect. respect is love and so is trust. both are crucial to a real relationship. and u deserve that. u are a beautiful strong woman just for knowing it's time to move on. it's a little difficult at first but it'll be worth it. :)

Now that seems like wisdom to me... Welcome to Mingle, btw

The problem is that you're trying to make an Honest man out of a Liar. If you want to learn to trust again, you need to let the lying scumbag go. Period. I've been in your shoes more than enough times to know that it's dang hard to let go when you want to make the relationship work. Ya can't force a liar/cheater to change his ways. He's gotta want to change on his own. Better to just start from scratch.

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It depends on the ground rules of the relationship. If you were exclusive or not; and if you both agreed to it. Sometimes we put our own expectations on others, and are disappointed when they don't live up to them. There is no excuse for physical violence on either part.

Thankyou Jeremy Kyle but I enjoy "unsafe" sex more and the worst thing that could happen if she isn't going with other men is that I would get to be a dad.