so tell me does distance really matter when you are lookinf for someone?? or is it really up to fate to find your match?

It matters and it doesn't. I think as long as two people are willing to be flexible, should things get to that point, then no, it doesn't matter. Long-distance relationships can work, in the short term anyway, but eventually, something will need to give. And both people need to be willing and emotionally able to allow it to work. It's not easy (yes, coming from experience). It didn't work out for me because he wouldn't let it, he wouldn't commit, nor did he want to let the relationship go.

It seems to me some guy named "Murphy" set up this system where the ones that you find most interesting and promising live about 3,000 miles away.

Sometimes distance matters and sometimes not...depends on the circumstances I suppose.

Relationships have to work in the real world so you have to find ways to spend time in the real world. Distance can be problematic but not impossible.

Or so I would like to believe.

Good luck to you

abosolutley when you think you found somebody and they cant be ther for yo and visa versa thers gonna be toruble

Nope!!
not for me!
if i was to find someone i really wanted
i would be there in a heart beat or just give them a plane ticket!

Why ask why?

I'm a believer that it will happen when it happens. However, just like anything else, you have to decide what you're willing to compromise. SO, to answer your question...who knows! If the person is totally worth it, wouldn't you do what you could to be with them?



Good luck semper!

no it doesint

I agree, bigsexy. I'd be willing to move to be with someone, no doubt about it. But, only if they'd be willing to do the same, not saying it would be practical, necessarily, but they'd at least have to be willing to make that kind of sacrifice.

id rather they move here , or when u first meet come here to see me not the other way around , just to be safe

An LDR is a huge financial and emotional commitment not easily undertaken by the weak of heart (and wallet). Ultimately, to reach the goal of being together long term, someone has to move. Making that kind of commitment to someone you really don't know very well can be a very risky decision. Got THAT T shirt!

Sorrry, but I agree with HBB

depends on the people, to some it won't matter to others it will

me it really doesn't matter too much

INTENTION = RESULTS

If you really intend to try to make a relationship work, You'll figure out how to do it; NO MATTER the DISTANCE

VERY GOOD OPINIONS SO FAR!!!!

im sorry, but I couldnt do it..the person would have to move here to fla..i cant leave cause of my kids..unless the two were really inlove and he was willing to move here, then it might work..but personally U cant get to know someone just on line and the phone. U have to meet in person a few times to see. I know people on here that havent met yet and are in love and are going to meet..god bless em..I dont see how. I have to see how compatiable i am with the person.and see where the chemistry stands too. Sure people can click on line, but in person? you wont know til ya meet..

I wish that were true but I have watched too many people move only to have engagements fall apart within months because it just didn't work in the day-to-day.

Unfortunately love is not enough in a romantic partnership. There needs to be compatability in the day-to-day mundane too.

And this is coming from a die-hard hopeful romantic who want to believe in fairy tales and happy endings. Once in a while it happens. Most of the time it does not.

i'd rather have some one relatively close but if i meet someone and we really hit it off i'd give it a try. no harm no foul right.

depends on how far IMO, how close can you be to someone without being blessed enough to be physically close with them...how can you hold the one youre into when theyre over a hundred miles away?

that's an excellent point about being in love online but it not working out when you meet. i have had a few friends that experienced that and i tried to get them to realize that without discouraging at least trying to meet.

you and artgirl hit it right on the head. there are enough people who date and then when they move in together they find out it's not going to work and they were already dating.

distance does NOT outweigh CLOSENESS nor does it Equal it.
example;
i built submarines and had to go on them when they were done..
my X huband was career navy man.. GONE 89% of the 25 YEARS we were married.. very rarely at HOME TOGETHER [ at same time ]
he retired we were CLOSE together..
we lived REALLY close.. [same house ] LMFAO
now we are divorced and live 2800 MILES apart..
so its NOT the distance that makes it work or not work. its the THING CALLED love and how much you want to be together and how long you want to be together.make sense???
bigbay