some one define a ldr...what is long disance? for me, long distance is over a couple or 300 hundred miles...nearest city with over 50k ppl is 125 miles, over half a million is 200+ miles. I have to travel over a hundred miles to shop for clothes, for any selectiion, ten miles to the nearest store. Let me ponder this...drive two hours for a $40 pair of jeans...drive how far for a possible fulfilling relationship? I think it depends upon your personal location and what is the development of a relationship worth?

Nope because my lady live over 400 mile from me. But not for long lol

Lots of good replies. I agree with the single parents, they have a whole different set of issues with children involved.

But for someone who doesn't have children at home anymore, and if one of the parties is interested in relocating, then I think the distance is not an issue. There are obviously "bugs" to be worked out first. You need to really get to know the person first, and the finances before any kind of trips or move, but I would hope that if two people take their time, and spend enough time talking and really getting to know each other, that the long distance is an inconvenience of course, but if it is workable in the end with them able to work out being together, then it would have a happy outcome, at least hopefully. Nothing is ever 100%, but I would hope that it could be worked out positively in the end.

nope not to me, it would be better if i lived closer to him right now but this is the way it's suppose to be. He lives on one side of the US while I live on the other....one day we will be together and it will be worth the wait.

Leigh feels guilty about trying to advance my relationship with her, because she doesn't want me spending all my money just to make a trip to go see her.

At least at the moment, distance matters.

I had every intention of going anyway when I had enough money...in fact, what's stopping me?Oh right, money...

That's the reason why she just wants to stay friends though

i had some relatesionships online. and met a few of themm. i even moved across country thinking it work. yeah i do it again but i would strongly say that u need to meet someone more than a few times. before you make that kind of deal. esp if u have kids. i have none here. but i know if i did or even if she did. this would not effect you or her but them as well.
jobs and other loves one as well are in this pic with you.

Now that my kids are grown,distance would not matter to me.

Oh Shadow- congrats!!!
Wow I leave for awhile and a whole bunch of you- jsers have found someone! Thats great...

honestly i dont know. Im still wondering.

NO it doesn't

yes it does matter. Distance can be a factor when things don't work out.

If it's meant to happen it will happen.

If feelings are strong and mutual

Nope ... JMO

Does distance matter???

I saw my ex who lived in Va more than the bf that lived 5 minutes away from me.......So I would have to say distance does not matter but more so the people involved who want to make the relationship work.

I think it would be hard to establish a relationship with someone who lived far away.

Obviously it depends on the people and circumstances, but for me no...Distance doesn't matter!!!!!!

I make a lot of silly remarks about how everyone who writes to me is 897,000 miles away, but if the right person showed up, distance wouldn't be that much of a factor.

The problem is, it's always distance + something else -- distance + alcohol, or distance + kids, or something. If it was JUST distance, then I'd have to at least consider the possibilities.

Yes! I knew Lex would come through on this one!

One will HAVE to relocate and find a new job. The other might have to feed that one UNTIL that one finds a new job.

This could take months like 6 months or more.

The relocating one if it's the man, would need to have ENOUGH money to take him through that 6 months or so.

If it is the woman relocating, the man would need to have enough money to support her way of life UNTIL she gets the job she wants.

For who is WILLING to make those sacrifices, distance won't matter. For who cannot or won't make those sacrifices? Distance matters? Does it not?

For the purpose of communicating? It does not matter. Does it?
There is chat online with facilities like webcam, and file exchange which will allow videos of each other.
To some, this WILL be a plus. Why? Because the possibility of sex UNTIL you're really SATISFIED THAT YOU WANT THAT PERSON is minimized, since sometimes when you are in heat for each other, you are toO far for organs to reach; and you escape getting there before time that you might regret.