I'm curious, after being friends with someone for a few years, but having never had any kind of sexual chemistry with them, how does this flip occur? What happens that suddenly changes your mind from he's just a friend to he's the one I want to be with?

I ask because this has never happened to me (or anyone I know) except when I hadn't seen the person for a long time and we became reacquainted. So, it was really like meeting for the first time again because we were both different.

Danita - welcome (love your name)

I agree with you wholeheartedly, since the merry-trio must start somewhere. I have always said that in a relationship, you and your other should be:
1. Friends
2. Lovers
3. Boyfriend/Girfriend or Husband/Wife

At times, you may pop to one, then pop to another. Other times, it is a merry blend of the three... When one suffers too long however, doom follows.

I'm stuck on #3

well I can only think of a few times that it took that long. The chemistry is there. never said it wasn't.

It hasn't always happened that way either. It is my preference and when it doesn't happen that way I normally end things. I did have one pretty long term relationship that did not start that way.... but it was on & off and ultimately I did end it. we weren't suitable for each other.

I am always the same....even after a long time, not different. Anyway from your many posts on here it doesn't surprise me that you do not understand how I am as I agree with almost nothing you say.

Cheerio! You seem like a nice man to talk to though.

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