June to May - I set that as a time frame to cover a year or more. I want to know from the crowd at large when is it the right time to share gifts and what limits do you place on those types of gifts and what are they.

I don't believe in giving gifts to someone that I am dating because dating regardless how serious or how long the relationship by definition is a temporary situation. Recently I have been presented with a varying point of view from mine, in my effort to be more flexible I want to hear what others think on this subject.

On the rare occasions that I do give a friend a gift I do not give around a holiday I give a gift when I feel that I want to give one (I have been told my thinking is rude), for me a birthday gift is acceptable, but not a Valentines day gift or a Christmas gift. Both of those gift giving opportunities seem manufactured and create a competition among friends to see who can out gift someone else. I know that not all situations fall into my narrow point of view this is why I am asking.

Now take a moment and tell me a good reason of WHY to give a gift. Please do not use "because she deserves it" nor "it's the right thing to do" those hold no place for me and are lousy reasons. Also for the record I dont expect to be given a gift even if I give one.

Just looking to hear another point of view

I Understand what you are saying it should be just cause you want to give a gift not because you have to all the holidays out there is not a real reason to get a gift it should be cause you feel like giving one.Like a surprise or I just saw this and it made me think of you kinda thing.

Good answer

Giving a gift to someone you care about should be from the heart, it should be at any time you feel like it and not because it season that people aspect gifts to be exchanged.

Giving a gift to someone you care about should be from the heart, it should be at any time you feel like it and not because it season that people aspect gifts to be exchanged.

I dont think everyone views dating the same. Some 'date' in monogomous meaningful relationships, and some just 'date' casually as the opportunities around.

the bottom line is the level of commitment to each other. If it is a committed and monogomous 'dating' situation, I would choose to give gifts as an expression of that commitment and care.


If it is just a 'best offer right now' kind of dating, than I wouldnt choose to mislead by being thoughtful enough to shop for and give a gift.

Okay the first person to answer understood what I was saying but did not tell me anything I did not know or believe. Now let me finish reading all of your wonderful replies and see if I can get to the WHY of it all

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Do you actually date that way - "He/She will do until something better comes along? That just sounds so wrong. I got the rest of your reason why and when to give a gift but my deeper question is still unanswered

If you can't figure this out & do not understand decent manners.

Get a book on manners & start learning.

Sorry for an uneducated life

OPINION.

Old Sag it is not about an uneducated life - it is a larger question. Actually a combination of questions

Why would you give a woman you are dating a gift?
When is the right time to give the woman your are dating a gift based upon a relationship that starts in the Spring and last for a minimum of one year or more?

What purpose would you expect to receive a gift in return?

Should the gift be given with pureness of heart or with intent?

I am not asking these questions for myself I am asking them for the audience at large to cover two groups: men/women whom are expected to buy gifts because it is gift giving time, often at great expense, the other group is men/women anticipate the gift because it is gift season and become rather miffed if this protocol is not followed.

Therefore my dear Old Sage, it is not from a point of uneducated, it is from a point of educating from those that are sage and wise like yourself.

no, I dont date that way, but others do

I was only answering generally and not speaking about personal habits because that isnt helpful when I dont know the habits of the person asking the question


the right time to share gifts is when you feel like it, I personally dont put a limit on a 'gift' or it loses its significance

giving what you feel and what you can, is the only limit
I feel like it ,personally, on holidays and birthdays and anniversaries and when things catch my eye which put that person in mind

comunication is key

upon reading further, the 'right time' you ask about differs from individual to individual and the best way to address it is to communicate enough with that person to understand what they expect and what they have to offer

I dont care about gifts so much as (As one other person mentioned) reciprocity

if someone cares enough to get me a gift that I am in a relationship with, than I presume gifts mean something to them and therefore I would reciprocate in my actions

if I feel like giving someone a gift, I only 'expect' a gift as an expression of reciprocity and appreciation, but that gift doesnt have to be something bought at a store


reciprocity and communication , I believe , are the simplest ways to decide the propriety of gift giving in any situation

Life is all about sharing. For me, spending my call credits on someone(partner apart) just to ask "how are you doing?" is a gift. If one has people that really matter to him/her, it's ideal you share your love with them in any reasonable way you can. In fact, in my dictionary, visitation is also a gift because I used my spare time for that.
If you share nothing with no one, it means you love no one.

it all depends upon what the visitor receives on the visit

a robber uses his time to rob the bank too, but that doesnt necesarily mean they love the bank owner,,,lol,, just saying

but otherwise, I agree that life is about sharing

I think if a person wants to give a gift for any reason that should be up to them, whatever the occassion or no occassion. I have a friend that I never met inperson and he sends gifts. I am sure I am not the Only woman he sent a gift too. Sharing should be from the heart. Often times you just have Cheap people who wouldnt spend a dime on anyone but themself or someone very Close to them. I never want a Cheap man.

Lol. Maybe they wanna help the bank do the sharing.

any time for no reason, any reason, or every reason.....especially the sweet small thoughtful things like a stick of gum, hand lotion, or a muffin

you are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay over thinking this

if you see a cute coffee mug or a new kind of tea in the grocery...go for it. kindness is never bad manners, never unappreciated, never out of style, and it doesn't mean you have to get married

(all the nevers are for Mariah )

Sorry I CAN NOT AGREE with you.

A "gift" is given with no expectations. Man or woman, does not matter. As I stated earlier; GET A BOOK on MANNERS & read it, ANYONE. Old ways are simple & distinct. We need to bring more of them back. "OPINION"