i guess i never realized how sick you can get from having ol a broken heart. the sad things in life are keeping me down and i dont have a way up. its like i can be as guarded as possible but i meet this amazing girl an my world is torn apart, i fallout. ive never been a sappy guy but then again ive never felt like this before i feel dumb for writing a blog but i just dont know what else to do.
i need advise from a lady on how to start living again. im not alive without this girl and i dont wanna feel this way ever again,,drugs and alcohol quit working and i cant take this feeling anymore

Okay cutie, here is the down low.
It will happen again and again in your life.
The reason is, 2 separate individuals are
rarely on the same timeline.

So what you do is, NOT wait for the right person,
rather BE the right person.
Happy with yourself and your goals.
A plan for your life, always remembering it
is the journey and not the attaining that
means the most.

Make small things matter, enjoy something
every day.
Try new things, you are young enough to
try a LOT of new things.

And always know, it is not the end of the world
when someone you love walks away.
It is inevitable.
That is life.
Act, don't stoop to reacting.

As many times as it goes wrong, there are a
many times it will go right for you.

The up and down journey.
It is good you can put it into words :-)

Young love is always the hardest.

When you are as old as me (63) you can still get your heart broken by a good friend who betrays you. But it is always their loss.

Keep on truckin.

thnak you for that, its getting easier but not easy i hardly sleep or eat but im getting better and i bielive your right i just have to keep on trucking there will be more girls out there and im gonna do my best to be the best. i think ill start right now :}

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Life goes on. And soon she will be far behind you.

Best advice I would have for one your age. Start thinking about yourself and what you can do to make you happy. Focus on your future what you want to do with it. To much focus on others and not yourself takes away from the person you are. Another should enhance your life not be your life.......

Once you focus on yourself you will realize when it is time to share with another...

I believe your right and i wish i could have seen this before but im different now and in time ill see the inner me

I recall my break up with my first love as being pretty painful emotionally, but time heals all wounds. You have already gotten some great advice. Try to keep busy. You will learn from this experience.

Winning!

well said

Have u told her how u feel. u will find the one and dont give up because life is to short to go throw all this cause life might be crazy and i dont know u but if u can write down how u feel then u r in love but if it did work then shes missing out. Just worry about urself and what makes u happy not other people. U need to take time for ur self. I went throw this my self and im worry about my daughter and myself and its helped alot.

When you get your heart broke at certain stages of life it just feels harder than others.

Coming into your twnties it is always rough because so many of your relationships are changeing.

You mention trying alcohol as a means of escape and hopefully you have figured out how bad a coping tool that is. Since anestiizeing with alcohol is often a learned comfort You may need help learning how to cope with the greif of loss and other coping skills from another source; I would recommend AA as a good place to start as might be young persons personal developement organizations such as JAYCEES International or even and Young Adults Faith Groups. Even Habitat for Humanity or a theater group could improve your general freindship pool. One thing about healing from loss is that sometimes misery shared is misery halved. HANG IN THERE

Hey buddy i know how it feels to go through that i had the same experience some time and it was very hurting but you know life must go on and with the help of this wonderful people on this furum i have over come all the truma i was going through so just keep ur head up.

this advice works but it may sound a little more harsh.

I repeat DO NOT let that person control your life or your emotions. They (she) does not deserve that kind of power

always danged hard on the heartbreak.
as you get older, you realize that it ain't the end of the world,
even though it is just a painful.
Surround yourself with goodly people.

This is great advice from a very nice and smart person. I hope your listening young man. The first cut is the deepest. Good luck and god bless.